Brief background, my wife and I are alcoholics. We both were sober for several years, have 2 children. Over the last 2 years we became slowly more isolated from our spiritual fellowship of Christ and ended up relapsing. I hit a low spot, hard, and am back in church, AA, and therapy. My wife's still chasing the high of alcoholism. We're separated now; I'm living at my parents' for now and trying to remain focused on redeveloping my relationship with God and my fellows. I keep getting overwhelmed with a longing for my wife to be on this path with me again, but realize I can't make that choice for her. I believe God can work incredible miracles in broken families, and I would be thankful if everyone here could pray for us all to experience the Lord's healing in our lives. I don't know what that's going to look like, but please pray for us. My boys are Isaac and James, and my wife's name is Kalea.
Alcoholism and separation (suggestions and prayers welcome)
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Are your children still with your wife? If they are, and she is drinking to excess, she could be putting the children in harm’s way, to say nothing of the psychological damage of her drinking and/or being drunk around them.
I’m sure you know that the blood alcohol level of an alcoholic is much higher than a normal person who only drinks occasionally. The alcohol stays in the system all the time. So if she drives the kids to school in the morning, she could be driving drunk, depending upon how much she had the night before.
There is a situation in my family with a relative by marriage who is an alcoholic, in total denial. She often babysits young children, and my daughter, who is a social worker in child protection services, says that she will report these parents for leaving this alcoholic babysitting the children, because she has seen over and over the devastation alcoholism creates for children!
I’m so glad you are getting close to God, and back dry again. But it is time to deal with your children, unless they are already living with you at your parents. Alcoholism is dreadful, it rules your life. I was an alcoholic before God saved me and took over my life. 37 years dry now. God bless and I will be praying for you and your family, especially for you to get the children away from their mother if she continues to drink!
I’m sure you know that the blood alcohol level of an alcoholic is much higher than a normal person who only drinks occasionally. The alcohol stays in the system all the time. So if she drives the kids to school in the morning, she could be driving drunk, depending upon how much she had the night before.
There is a situation in my family with a relative by marriage who is an alcoholic, in total denial. She often babysits young children, and my daughter, who is a social worker in child protection services, says that she will report these parents for leaving this alcoholic babysitting the children, because she has seen over and over the devastation alcoholism creates for children!
I’m so glad you are getting close to God, and back dry again. But it is time to deal with your children, unless they are already living with you at your parents. Alcoholism is dreadful, it rules your life. I was an alcoholic before God saved me and took over my life. 37 years dry now. God bless and I will be praying for you and your family, especially for you to get the children away from their mother if she continues to drink!
Adam, re-read Step 11, and do the suggested things on a daily basis, and God will reveal all that you need.
Imagine a wagon wheel with ten spokes. This wheel is you. Step 1 is the rim, and without it you will crumble into a heap and go nowhere. Step 11 is the hub, all the other steps are attached to this hub (spokes and axle). You need to always keep then hub well greased and maintained on a daily basis. Without it, you won't know what God's will is for you, and the wheel will end up running on self-will-run-riot (again).
Praying for you and family.
Imagine a wagon wheel with ten spokes. This wheel is you. Step 1 is the rim, and without it you will crumble into a heap and go nowhere. Step 11 is the hub, all the other steps are attached to this hub (spokes and axle). You need to always keep then hub well greased and maintained on a daily basis. Without it, you won't know what God's will is for you, and the wheel will end up running on self-will-run-riot (again).
Praying for you and family.
I am so glad that you are back on track- doing it with the kids is hard when you do love your wife. Every day it's detach with love- detach- detach- I hope that you have support besides the group for your kids as well- mine went to Alakids here in Canada and although they never continued with the counselling and Alanon- it did help us all at the time when they were young. Keep going - Many Blessings
The Holy Spirit is truly the spirit of power.
And in true Pentecost faith when people are converted by
the Holy Spirit then we have testimonies as to how the
Holy Spirit has healed us instantly from alcoholism and other
addictions.
Here is a testimony from a bloke named Mike to this
http://miracles.areonthe.net/TESTIM... etc/Addiction to alcohol healed (Mike H).pdf
and yes there is a Pentecostal church in the U.S.A.
The Revival Fellowship were all have testimonies to healings and miracles
Home - THE REVIVAL FELLOWSHIP, FRESNO
And in true Pentecost faith when people are converted by
the Holy Spirit then we have testimonies as to how the
Holy Spirit has healed us instantly from alcoholism and other
addictions.
Here is a testimony from a bloke named Mike to this
http://miracles.areonthe.net/TESTIM... etc/Addiction to alcohol healed (Mike H).pdf
and yes there is a Pentecostal church in the U.S.A.
The Revival Fellowship were all have testimonies to healings and miracles
Home - THE REVIVAL FELLOWSHIP, FRESNO