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ShyHappy

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First, I'm new here..and a warning, this is a long post...guess I just need people who don't know me to help me understand this

...I'm feeling so lost, like I'm all alone. I know what the Word says but lately it has been difficult holding on to my Faith. *Yes, I am a born again Christian, 27 years of living on this earth and 16 months walking with Christ.

I've never felt this way before. . .I try to pray and read the Word only to feel myself drowning again. I used to have this close relationship with God but I think I got too comfortable at some point. I have rejection issues in the past so right now I feel like I am the worst person that I also receive rejection from the person I love most, God.

This year has been difficult. From cancer in the family, to getting no jobs and now I may be losing my home. I have added so much weight from stress eating and I feel like I'm going insane here :'( I pray and nothing. .

Well, before, I'd just drink and drug myself into the next day and believe me, I have thought about it. I wake up hating the day and dreading every minute. I thought I had this calling before but now I doubt coz how can I help others if I'm unable to use the same words to help myself..

No one around me understands. I guess I need my Christian family to help me out. Maybe if enough of us pray for me, God will answer.


(-this isn't spam. I have posted it again and I will continue to seek that word that I need to pull me out of this state before I give up)
 
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ShyHappy said:
First, I'm new here..and a warning, this is a long post...guess I just need people who don't know me to help me understand this

...I'm feeling so lost, like I'm all alone. I know what the Word says but lately it has been difficult holding on to my Faith. *Yes, I am a born again Christian, 27 years of living on this earth and 16 months walking with Christ.

I've never felt this way before. . .I try to pray and read the Word only to feel myself drowning again. I used to have this close relationship with God but I think I got too comfortable at some point. I have rejection issues in the past so right now I feel like I am the worst person that I also receive rejection from the person I love most, God.

This year has been difficult. From cancer in the family, to getting no jobs and now I may be losing my home. I have added so much weight from stress eating and I feel like I'm going insane here :'( I pray and nothing. .

Well, before, I'd just drink and drug myself into the next day and believe me, I have thought about it. I wake up hating the day and dreading every minute. I thought I had this calling before but now I doubt coz how can I help others if I'm unable to use the same words to help myself..

No one around me understands. I guess I need my Christian family to help me out. Maybe if enough of us pray for me, God will answer.


(-this isn't spam. I have posted it again and I will continue to seek that word that I need to pull me out of this state before I give up)
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But you are getting answers. You have no job, but still have a place called home. Pretty amazing, isn't it? Cancer in the family? Sounds like whichever family member that is is still alive. Good to have that person still around, right? Someone to talk to, to love, and to be loved by. This year is a bust for a job? No. This winter (or are you in summer?) was a bust for a new job. Don't mark off 2018 as a lousy year, because it's only mid March! You have yet to know if it will go down as a good or bad year for you. You used to get stoned when you felt like this, but you aren't now? Way cool, that the Lord has given you that much strength. Over eating? Okay. That was how it was so far. Doesn't mean it has to continue.

I lost 50 pounds in the course of three years. Want to know the secret? You already know it -- eat less. So, why did it take me three years? Because some days I ate less and some days I ate more. I did not punish myself for the eat-more days, just determined "today I will eat less" as often as I could do that, and those days "outweighed" (pun intended) the eat-more days.

God really is giving you good things, right in the middle of all the stress. Take the time to notice the good when it hits, and don't fixate on the bad. Today is March 18th, 2018. The first day of the rest of your life. Was today a bust? (It's later in the day for you than for me right now, so it could have been.) Not a problem. The next first day of the rest of your life is tomorrow. Take the time to enjoy what God gives you that day, in those moments where you aren't running around worried about finding the new job or visiting your relative with cancer.

God gives small presents even in the midst of terrible times. He gave me a small flower growing in a heap of ground cover late in autumn once, when I was visiting my husband in intensive care. He gave me a choir singing Handel's Messiah when I was racing to see if my husband had survived the night. (A choir was singing in the lobby of the hospital. Perfect timing.) He gave me blue daisies in a park when I was out of breath from rushing. He gave me tiny little buds on my lilac bush when I was rushing to unlock my door to bring in groceries on a cold windy day. A petunia coming out of a crack in the sidewalk when I didn't even need a present. He really does give little presents that fit our needs perfectly. We have to be looking to see them though.

He is answering. He's giving you tiny little signs so you know he remembers you and loves you. BUT you have to look to find them. Look outward, because your inward is getting you in trouble.
 
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oldethennew

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weakness is our biggest weakness, when we realize this and turn to our Saviour, He will help us
to get through anything that satan puts into our paths to destroy us or what ever we allow him to put there,
when we have hit 'bottom'...

if your know Jesus, open up your heart and Trust Him and you will be given His Holy Assurance in each and every situation, -
but if your 'faith' is lacking, this is where troubles begin, but if we can recognize this, then we
go to our Father in all 'honesty and trust', He will never let us down or let us go, for He is all that we
all have in this 'fallen-evil-world'...
 
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tourist

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Actually it only takes one prayer for God to help provide clarity and guidance for you at this point of your life. Many may indeed pray for you but it's not really a matter of how many pray but that the prayer or prayers said are in alignment with God's will and desire to address the concerns of you situation. I have said a prayer for God to help you but this might also mean that there are things that you can do yourself with what God has already provided. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
 
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"There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it." (1 Corinthians 10:13). Hang tough and keep the faith, embrace each day and keep looking for a job.
 
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Lucy-Pevensie

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This isn't that unusual, everyone comes under attack by the enemy at some point in their walk with God. My best advice is no matter how rotten you feel and no matter how difficult it is for you to hear God's voice don't stop communicating with him.
Even the simplest prayer - ((HELP!))
.................is better than not communicating at all. The enemy wants to cut you off from God more than anything else. No matter what it LOOKS like in the flesh, The Lord loves you. If you weren't special to God, the devil wouldn't bother you. Remember how David took down a giant? You'll get through this.

Joshua 1:9 Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go

Psalm 9:9-10 The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.


 
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ShyHappy

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Thanks guys for the Word, the advice and the prayers. I know I can find something to be thankful for.
 
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EarnestQ

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One important reason God lets us go through troubles is to learn to focus on Him in spite of our troubles. The sooner we learn this the sooner He may deliver us from that group of troubles.
 
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mar09

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But you are getting answers. You have no job, but still have a place called home. Pretty amazing, isn't it? Cancer in the family? Sounds like whichever family member that is is still alive. Good to have that person still around, right? Someone to talk to, to love, and to be loved by. This year is a bust for a job? No. This winter (or are you in summer?) was a bust for a new job. Don't mark off 2018 as a lousy year, because it's only mid March! You have yet to know if it will go down as a good or bad year for you. You used to get stoned when you felt like this, but you aren't now? Way cool, that the Lord has given you that much strength. Over eating? Okay. That was how it was so far. Doesn't mean it has to continue...

God gives small presents even in the midst of terrible times. He gave me a small flower growing in a heap of ground cover late in autumn once, when I was visiting my husband in intensive care. He gave me a choir singing Handel's Messiah when I was racing to see if my husband had survived the night. (A choir was singing in the lobby of the hospital. Perfect timing.) He gave me blue daisies in a park when I was out of breath from rushing. He gave me tiny little buds on my lilac bush when I was rushing to unlock my door to bring in groceries on a cold windy day. A petunia coming out of a crack in the sidewalk when I didn't even need a present. He really does give little presents that fit our needs perfectly. We have to be looking to see them though.

He is answering. He's giving you tiny little signs so you know he remembers you and loves you. BUT you have to look to find them. Look outward, because your inward is getting you in trouble.
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Lyn/SH,

I have exited cc when this thread catches my attention... and i read. What beautiful share, lyn. I do not know, but i keep my eyes on the grasses and plants by the road when i walk some blocks or even when riding a vehicle, and always see something beautiful no matter how small. Hope u do too, SH. Sometimes it's just a few mm or fraction of an inch thing, sometimes they are taller than me as the flowering invasive kogon or talahib grasses swaying in the wind, wc may not catch others' attention, but wc make my heart sing=).
 
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Lyn/SH,

I have exited cc when this thread catches my attention... and i read. What beautiful share, lyn. I do not know, but i keep my eyes on the grasses and plants by the road when i walk some blocks or even when riding a vehicle, and always see something beautiful no matter how small. Hope u do too, SH. Sometimes it's just a few mm or fraction of an inch thing, sometimes they are taller than me as the flowering invasive kogon or talahib grasses swaying in the wind, wc may not catch others' attention, but wc make my heart sing=).
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It looks like a close up of a flock of doves!

Suddenly I want that in my yard. Alas, that's about the size of my yard. lol
 
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foodcooppres

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Dear friend (and I mean that), feelings are so unreliable. They can be affected by anything from low blood sugar to memories of trauma. But you can go to the Word and receive God's assurance that He still loves you and is working on your behalf. "How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!" I John 3:1 Cling to the truths in God's message to you, by faith, even if your feelings haven't caught up yet. Today I was reminded of a time years ago when I had suffered a surgery that took months to recover from, and I was angry at God for allowing that. I stopped speaking to Him. But after a while I missed Him, and opened my Bible, expecting a scolding. Instead I read this: "You drew near when I called upon you, and you said, Fear not." Lamentations 3:57. Peace flooded over me, and I knew that God was saying He still loved me, even though I had been mad at Him. God still loves you too, despite all the struggles and sadness. You might also find encouragement in Lamentations 3:19-26, 31-33. I pray that the Lord will encourage your heart, and also provide for your needs financially and otherwise. Let us know on here how He is answering, for I know He will. Hold on!
 
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ShyHappy said:
First, I'm new here..and a warning, this is a long post...guess I just need people who don't know me to help me understand this

...I'm feeling so lost, like I'm all alone. I know what the Word says but lately it has been difficult holding on to my Faith. *Yes, I am a born again Christian, 27 years of living on this earth and 16 months walking with Christ.

I've never felt this way before. . .I try to pray and read the Word only to feel myself drowning again. I used to have this close relationship with God but I think I got too comfortable at some point. I have rejection issues in the past so right now I feel like I am the worst person that I also receive rejection from the person I love most, God.

This year has been difficult. From cancer in the family, to getting no jobs and now I may be losing my home. I have added so much weight from stress eating and I feel like I'm going insane here :'( I pray and nothing. .

Well, before, I'd just drink and drug myself into the next day and believe me, I have thought about it. I wake up hating the day and dreading every minute. I thought I had this calling before but now I doubt coz how can I help others if I'm unable to use the same words to help myself..

No one around me understands. I guess I need my Christian family to help me out. Maybe if enough of us pray for me, God will answer.


(-this isn't spam. I have posted it again and I will continue to seek that word that I need to pull me out of this state before I give up)
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I Love you.
 
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Angela53510

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Just to let you know, things do not automatically become perfect the minute you become a Christian. We still live in a Fallen world. BUT, now, you have Jesus to talke to, the Holy Spirit to lead and to guide you, and God as your Father!

There are so many reasons for suffering. For me, I learn a lot better in the valleys. The mountain top experiences are wonderful, don’t get me wrong. But, things grow better in the rich soil of the lowlands. And that means our character grows.

If you want to read one of the most amazing books ever written about our walk with Christ, try Pilgrim’s Progress by John Bunyan. It really encapsulates our journey with Christ.

I hope we can be friends! Welcome to CC!
 
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Even the simplest prayer - ((HELP!))
.................is better than not communicating at all. The enemy wants to cut you off from God more than anything else. No matter what it LOOKS like in the flesh, The Lord loves you. If you weren't special to God, the devil wouldn't bother you. Remember how David took down a giant? You'll get through this.

Joshua 1:9Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go

Psalm 9:9-10 The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.


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Look up how lions catch their food..you see them cull the weak from the herd. All the zebras run...the little weak one is the one attacked. Satan does the same. BUT...we have a savior..."When I am weak, then I am strong.." because I know...'At the name of Jesus, every knee shall bow". If you haven't got a prayer to pray, pray the name of Jesus...daily, hourly, as often as you need to send the demons back where they belong. They'll fight you, but they CANNOT win. Jesus defeated them. In a few days we celebrate the passover...the anniversary of His Victory over death. Stand strong knowing your savior stands at the ready to attack for you. You experience now a season of trials to strengthen you in Christ...not in you. Trust Him and soon you will see the Joy that comes in the morning. LOve -student
 
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foodcooppres said:
I love you too. And God loves you more! Happy Easter.
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thank you for your kindness, 'food'...Hub and I observe the Passover' every year since our conversion,
and have greatly benefited from this for many years by observing His Holy Days, as His disciples did...GBY...

we are so thankful to have been led to follow our Saviour's ways...and are so looking forward
to doing as He and His have done for so many generations, those that He has called and chosen out
into the obedience that He has set for us as an example...
 
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God may be testing the strength of your faith ... God tested Job and at times He tests all of us ... Continue to pray and do not lose patience ... God is going to help you more than you know ...
 
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The enemy's job is to steal, kill, and destroy. He wants to steal your joy. He wants to kill (spiritually) so you will not be effective in the kingdom of God. And, he wants to destroy your relationship with God... BUT he is A LIAR. Jesus called him the father of lies. When he speaks to your mind, don't believe anything he says. Tell him to shut up because our God is stronger. And, keep on praying and seeking God. God's word says that we are to submit to God (praying, seeking, fasting, praise/worship through song) resist the devil (oppose, withstand, to stand against) and he will flee. By submitting to God, our focus shift from the devil to God. Once the enemy sees that his plans aren't effecting you, he'll leave you alone. I have a quick question. Are you fill with the spirit of God? If so, pray in the spirit, girl. If not seek God for this awesome gift. He will give it to you. Because once you get the holy spirit, you can fight in the spirit. :)
 
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