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    I’m 22yrs old. I’m married and I do love my husband very much. Our marriage was started in a wrong motive but he knows that I love him. He was in the military and he’s in Korea right now. At first our marriage is ok even we both know that marriage is not for real we’re just helping each other but before that I tried to show him that I love him and it’s not just business. But when he go to korea we always fight and I don’t trust him then I started to read the Bible and have conversation to my leader and read a marriage plan. He’s unbeliever he always give me an unsure answer. But my faith in God is too strong and everytime I wanna give up I always talk to him and ask should I fight o give up?? But I always believe God has a plan and he wants to use me to my husband to surrender and believe in God but everytime o tried to show my love He always reject me which the pain is to strong that sometimes he want me to give up. Idk what to do but I love my husband very much. And I understand him. He’s been and 2 failed marriage that makes him to hard. I know he’s a good man but he keeps on telling me he’s bad he don’t believe he believe in Satan and more like demonic. He always says he hates people. For all the struggles he’s been through I know why he’s like that to me but I don’t wanna give up. Please give me more advise. Thank you

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    As long as you both love each other you really shouldn't give up on your marriage. It could be that your husband will see the power and glory of God by the way you act and treat him and others. Please keep reading the bible and praying for your marriage. Your husband obviously has a poor self-image and I believe that's a big part of the problem. Maybe he hates people because they have let him down and caused him harm through the years. I pray that God softens your husband's heart and for God to give you comfort, strength and hope for you as you struggle in this marriage. Better days may yet lie ahead. There are others in similar situations here, some that are really horrific, so please know that you are not alone in this.
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    He doesnt tell me that he loves me but I feel it when we are together the way he care for me but me i tell him everyday that i like him so much and he knows it. He always tells me that i am immature and hes dine with that and he want me to be matured. But when he went to Korea he tells me its not gonna work but im doing my best to make it work. I dont wanna give up were just newly weds and were not yet starting anything. What should i do to make him believe that i am sincere. Sometimes i think that he think ama leave him that i only need something or whatever but i dont ask anything and everytime i ask him he give me an answer like 50-50 when I open an divorce he will just shut up when i ask him he will answer me idk which i realize that its a wrong kove to ask about a divorce.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mingming View Post
    He doesnt tell me that he loves me but I feel it when we are together the way he care for me but me i tell him everyday that i like him so much and he knows it. He always tells me that i am immature and hes dine with that and he want me to be matured. But when he went to Korea he tells me its not gonna work but im doing my best to make it work. I dont wanna give up were just newly weds and were not yet starting anything. What should i do to make him believe that i am sincere. Sometimes i think that he think ama leave him that i only need something or whatever but i dont ask anything and everytime i ask him he give me an answer like 50-50 when I open an divorce he will just shut up when i ask him he will answer me idk which i realize that its a wrong kove to ask about a divorce.
    I will pray for God to give you clarity of thought in how to proceed in this hard situation. If you were to divorce at least you haven't invested most of your adult life trying to survive in a unhappy marriage. A lot of marriages fail for one reason or another. My first marriage was a horrible disaster that lasted 6 1/2 years and there was still hell to pay for years afterward. Hopefully, this will not be true in your case.
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    My leader advise is to love him without expectation and if I still fail maybe were not meant atleast i tried to be wife and i be a woman of God. Thank you for the advise. I trust God and I have faith.

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    Love the verses. Thank you
    You are very welcome. Just keep remembering there is nothing GOD cannot accomplish when He chooses to. Keep praying, He WILL hear you.

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    Can i ask if theres a app on this site because whenever i open message i go to my yahoo. Thank you for your help. Godbless

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mingming View Post
    Can i ask if theres a app on this site because whenever i open message i go to my yahoo. Thank you for your help. Godbless
    I am no expert on how the site operates. I do know if you point to a name on left and click that you can easily send them a message.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mingming View Post
    I’m 22yrs old. I’m married and I do love my husband very much. Our marriage was started in a wrong motive but he knows that I love him. He was in the military and he’s in Korea right now. At first our marriage is ok even we both know that marriage is not for real we’re just helping each other but before that I tried to show him that I love him and it’s not just business. But when he go to korea we always fight and I don’t trust him then I started to read the Bible and have conversation to my leader and read a marriage plan. He’s unbeliever he always give me an unsure answer. But my faith in God is too strong and everytime I wanna give up I always talk to him and ask should I fight o give up?? But I always believe God has a plan and he wants to use me to my husband to surrender and believe in God but everytime o tried to show my love He always reject me which the pain is to strong that sometimes he want me to give up. Idk what to do but I love my husband very much. And I understand him. He’s been and 2 failed marriage that makes him to hard. I know he’s a good man but he keeps on telling me he’s bad he don’t believe he believe in Satan and more like demonic. He always says he hates people. For all the struggles he’s been through I know why he’s like that to me but I don’t wanna give up. Please give me more advise. Thank you
    Pray pray and pray. Only God can change his heart.

    I will pray for you both as well. May you continue to be led by God and that he will direct your footsteps ahead.

    Blessings sister.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mingming View Post
    I’m 22yrs old. I’m married and I do love my husband very much. Our marriage was started in a wrong motive but he knows that I love him. He was in the military and he’s in Korea right now. At first our marriage is ok even we both know that marriage is not for real we’re just helping each other but before that I tried to show him that I love him and it’s not just business. But when he go to korea we always fight and I don’t trust him then I started to read the Bible and have conversation to my leader and read a marriage plan. He’s unbeliever he always give me an unsure answer. But my faith in God is too strong and everytime I wanna give up I always talk to him and ask should I fight o give up?? But I always believe God has a plan and he wants to use me to my husband to surrender and believe in God but everytime o tried to show my love He always reject me which the pain is to strong that sometimes he want me to give up. Idk what to do but I love my husband very much. And I understand him. He’s been and 2 failed marriage that makes him to hard. I know he’s a good man but he keeps on telling me he’s bad he don’t believe he believe in Satan and more like demonic. He always says he hates people. For all the struggles he’s been through I know why he’s like that to me but I don’t wanna give up. Please give me more advise. Thank you
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    You are supposed to invite God into the marriage before you start rather than expect Him to come in and fix the problems after the fact.

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    Thank you for sharing your concerns. I am truly sorry for the situation you’re going through. Praise God for your belief in Him! You are his beloved daughter and He will hear your prayers. God is with you always, He never abandon us. And If God is for us, who against us? Rom 8,31. This experience you are going through is probably something that is going to bring many blessings to your marriage. This beautiful vocation is not easy, but sometimes we have to carry our crosses with love as Jesus did and pass for the passion to reach the resurrection. But by dealing with your husband with patience and understanding you will triumph like our Lord Jesus did on the cross. I encourage you to remember that kindness and prayer change the hearts. Have you thought to ask for wisdom to the Lord to take this marriage? There’s a wonderful passage can be very useful for you in time of prayer in your bible in Wisdom 9, 1-18. I encourage do not push your husband to believe in God rather try to make him happy. The conversion in a person is a process that it will not be in your time but in God’s time. I encourage you also to show God’s unconditional love to your husband. It is easy to say but hard to do it. But you have to ask that gift from God. Human love is imperfect, and it is not enough to love our husband. That’s why you need to ask God for His gift. You and your husband are worth of fighting for. I remember a particular Christian woman Rita of Cassia, who was a married and struggled very much in her marriage with her husband and children. Her husband’s faults were discovered and though difficult to bear, she carried on with him through love, patience, dialogue and in private prayer she was able to see his conversion to the faith. No person’s sufferings are alike, but I hope you can read about her especially her love for Christ and how her husband turned to God for her testimony of life. Have you ever seen the movie: The War Room? It is a Christian movie about how to fight for your marriage inviting God to your relationship. There are battles that you can invite Our Lord to fight for you. God is specialist to solve impossible things and he can reach any person, believe it! May God bless your marriage and I will pray for you and his conversion, my friend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mingming View Post
    I’m 22yrs old. I’m married and I do love my husband very much. Our marriage was started in a wrong motive but he knows that I love him. He was in the military and he’s in Korea right now. At first our marriage is ok even we both know that marriage is not for real we’re just helping each other but before that I tried to show him that I love him and it’s not just business. But when he go to korea we always fight and I don’t trust him then I started to read the Bible and have conversation to my leader and read a marriage plan. He’s unbeliever he always give me an unsure answer. But my faith in God is too strong and everytime I wanna give up I always talk to him and ask should I fight o give up?? But I always believe God has a plan and he wants to use me to my husband to surrender and believe in God but everytime o tried to show my love He always reject me which the pain is to strong that sometimes he want me to give up. Idk what to do but I love my husband very much. And I understand him. He’s been and 2 failed marriage that makes him to hard. I know he’s a good man but he keeps on telling me he’s bad he don’t believe he believe in Satan and more like demonic. He always says he hates people. For all the struggles he’s been through I know why he’s like that to me but I don’t wanna give up. Please give me more advise. Thank you
    Well Love also includes accepting someone's flaw. It is up to you if you can bear that flaw.

    Stay with him as long as he does not cheat on you. Stay with him as long as he still values you as a person.

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