Mom wants to bail out on her family

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Japangela

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I confess. Oftentimes, almost on a daily basis, I just want to get into my car and drive a way. Just bail out on my family. Why? I don't know why. I don't know what to do about it either. It's easy for you to tell me to pray, and to do some spiritual warfare, but I don't believe it's going to help much. I'm pretty cynical about stuff. I'm Ecclesiastes all the way, thinking, "What's the point?"

What's going through my mind?
"No one is listening to my cries for help."
"I'm the 'bad guy.' If I could just fix my attitude then everything would be fine."
"I'm sick of my needs being ignored."
"I have to do all the work around here, and people just take me for granted."
"Everything I do is a waste, because it just gets undone as soon as I am finished."
"I need some peace and quiet. Everyone just leave me alone."
"My brain is rotting! I need a vacation!"
"I'm so sick of being a mom, but there's no hope of ever getting a career change. I'm stuck with it."
"I want a job, just so I can get the heck out of here and get some compensation for what I do."
"If I could just turn myself off for a while, that'd be great."
"Get me OUT OF HERE!!!!!"
"I'm in prison."
"One of these days I'm just going to snap!"
"I'm so burned out it's not even funny."
"When someone gives me their word, don't trust them. They won't follow through."

Any suggestions?
 
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carpetmanswife

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i dont think this is terribly unusual , we all have bad days and even long periods of time . bein a mom is the hardest most wonderful job u will ever have. We often r taken for granted , used ,abused *in our minds* but oh how much they love us . Believe me the day will come when u will long for these days to come back , the fingerprints on the t.v., the constant cleaning , the endless caretakin of everyone but urself...the nights lookin on their faces ..asleep and peaceful, the chocolate covered smiles, and the " "mommy I love you" . u will miss it! ... i do :)
 
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lovespeace123

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Japangela said:
I confess. Oftentimes, almost on a daily basis, I just want to get into my car and drive a way. Just bail out on my family. Why? I don't know why. I don't know what to do about it either. It's easy for you to tell me to pray, and to do some spiritual warfare, but I don't believe it's going to help much. I'm pretty cynical about stuff. I'm Ecclesiastes all the way, thinking, "What's the point?"

What's going through my mind?
"No one is listening to my cries for help."
"I'm the 'bad guy.' If I could just fix my attitude then everything would be fine."
"I'm sick of my needs being ignored."
"I have to do all the work around here, and people just take me for granted."
"Everything I do is a waste, because it just gets undone as soon as I am finished."
"I need some peace and quiet. Everyone just leave me alone."
"My brain is rotting! I need a vacation!"
"I'm so sick of being a mom, but there's no hope of ever getting a career change. I'm stuck with it."
"I want a job, just so I can get the heck out of here and get some compensation for what I do."
"If I could just turn myself off for a while, that'd be great."
"Get me OUT OF HERE!!!!!"
"I'm in prison."
"One of these days I'm just going to snap!"
"I'm so burned out it's not even funny."
"When someone gives me their word, don't trust them. They won't follow through."

Any suggestions?
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You need something good to think about and you need to ask God to renew your wisdom - actions you take given a basis of knowledge. I was in the same place and God is doing a work in that area in my life.

Find a support group for women that are dealing with what you are dealing with and build one another up. You will see that they have overcome one of your problems and you likewise have overcome one of their problems.

Knowing someone is dealing with what you are dealing with will help your thoughts and then as you help one another overcome...each victory will give you strength.

You need fellowship with someone dealing with what you are dealing with!!!

Sam
 
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christiancollegegirl

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Go on vacation without your family. Go away for about a week if you can. You'll get time away, and your family will realize how much you do and they'll appreciate you more. My mom goes on business every now and then, and it feels like she's gone forever even though it's been a few days.
 
grace

grace

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Oh Honey! I hear ya girl! I am a single mom of three chidlren.
I am blessed beyond what I deserve!
BUT...
Kids are very good at their jobs...to suck every little last bit of life out of us. AND...often times there is noone there to fill us back up. (in my case there never is..being single and all)

I know you love your family.....but it is draining.
You are not an aweful person.
Take heart that there are others of us out here too. :)

I will keep you in my thoughs and prayers. *hugs*
 
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4Him

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I have struggled with a rebel spirit too. God hears your cries but you have to be obedient and call every thought captive under Christ. Keep in mind that God is not the author of confusion and you know who is. When a few months ago I felt so fed up and was half joking about wanting to run away and travel with Phish for a year someone lovingly reminded me that I needed to be aware of my rebellous spirit and I really needed to pray about it. Just being aware of and who the author of it was really made the difference for me. Time to put on your Armor my friend.
 
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imoss

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I just got back from a weekend without my boys (I just go friday & come back sunday) I highly recommend it. I do it about every 6 months. Just me myself & I. (then i phone em 5 times/day i miss em so bad)
 
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daddycat

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I don't have any suggestions for you, and I'm sorry cuz that's what you asked for. I feel some of the same emotions you described for some odd reason, even though I don't have kids, am not married and just have a couple cats who annoy me sometimes. After reading your profile and seeing that you have five kids under the age of seven, whom you homeschool, and also goats, chickens, cats, a dog, and sofa-mice to take care of... well, I'm inclined to keep silent and count my blessings.
 
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