my teen is sexually active

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Raeshelle

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Yah, well using the restroom is "natural" but if you go take a dump on some persons car...even a car of a person you love...it's still wrong. Does that make sense?
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LOL Love you Betsy that is awesome!!
 
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Stay in his ear, talking to him about the Lord and love him, I have a son who is going down the same road, only now I might have a grandbaby on the way. I talked to him about sex before marrage until I was blue in the face, and raised him in church. He is still in church, and me and hi mom praise God for that, and his girlfriend is also in church with him. We are praying they will stay in church and true to the Lord, I figure they will get married, They better with a child. I first got mad and went all mad at them. but I had to pray and ask God to lead me through this. I would have ran both of them off if I didnt do that. I do want to be part of my grandbabys life. but I would keep talking and praying, just dont give in and say it dont matter there gonna do it anyway. you never know what you say the Lord will use.
 
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Carljoe0789

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I used to be sexually active sit down and tell your son what can happen if he continues becuz its addicting as any other addiction and hard to break.
 
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Christianrkchk89 said:
Yah, well using the restroom is "natural" but if you go take a dump on some persons car...even a car of a person you love...it's still wrong. Does that make sense?
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ROFL.....I love it, thats the best analogy ive ever heard. Christianrkchk, that makes perfect sense, and i totally agree.
 
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:-] I don't really know where that analogy came from...but i thought it applied rather well in this situation.
 
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Breath-of-life

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We're born naturally sinful, just to throw that out there... Our flesh wants to do bad, humans naturally want to do bad things.. Adam and Eve are the only once (and Jesus) who where 'born' without a sinful flesh.

But also, back in the day people did get married at young ages, have kids. 13, 14. Maybe God made us to have kids young, but societys have changed a trumendous amount the past thousands of years, and in the societies we have today, we don't marry that young.
 
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bandgeek

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I will be 18 in 7 days and this is my opinion but....if he has already had sex, which most likely he has....it is his own decision and he made that decision...theres nothing you can do to stop it because that just causes him to rebel. When he is older and in a more committed relationship he will have to answer for it whenever his girlfriend asks him "have you had sex before" he will have to say yes. And I believe that God will forgive us if we admit that having sex to early was wrong.
 
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Andrew_w

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You can say anything to your son, to try to stop it. The truth is that it will be rather ineffective. He has to really decide that he wants to put a stop to it before it will stop. And, if he already has had sex theres been a change in him physically. Where he's going to desire to engage in that type of sin.

Psalms 32:9 says

Do not be like the horse or the mule, which have no understanding but must be controlled by bit and bridle or they will not come to you. [NIV]

Pastor Chuck Smith explains this verse best..

So God is saying, "Don't be like stubborn mule where you got to put a bit in its mouth in order to guide it." Now a bit is painful when you jerk on it. But the bit is put in the mouth of a mule or a horse in order that he might be led. That you might have control. So that he doesn't walk or step all over you. You put the bit in their mouth, and if they don't hearken or respond to your reign upon them, then you pull on the bit and it jerks the mouth. And it is painful, but you get the message. You are led.


Now God is saying, "Hey, I don't want to lead you that way. Don't be stubborn like a mule. Where I have to use harsh methods to lead and guide you. I want to guide you with My eye. Okay, that way, son." We are the ones that make it tough on ourselves when we rebel against God. When we won't listen to God. When we are insensitive to God, then He has to get rough. God doesn't delight in the painful processes. God didn't want to send a whale after Jonah; it was just that was the only way that He could get his attention. God doesn't want to lead you in a painful process. He doesn't want to bring painful experiences into your life in order to get your attention, in order to change your directions. So He is saying, "Look, be sensitive. You'll beat him. I will guide you in the right way. I will guide you with My eye. Don't be like a horse or a mule; you've got to put a bit into its mouth in order that you might lead so that it won't step on you and all."
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My advice is pray for him. I went through the same type of sin a year ago... and well. I'm lucky enough that God got me out of it. Pray that God will yank him out of sin.
 
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xAliveInJesusx

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Another interesting debate,
I would advise that your son goes and speaks to a Godly man within your home church so that they can decide what best to do and how to work around this subject. Is his girlfriend a Christian too? I wouldn't advise that you confront your son direct, or else he might see that as a cause to rebel against you and God. I would pray that he keeps strong in God, and that he stays away from this sin, and that he can defeat temptation.
 
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Carljoe0789

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I agree with xAliveInJesusx
 
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xAliveInJesusx

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Thanks Carl :) ^^
 
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the_buffest_possum

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this is kind of a sensitive, and i know if my mom tried to ram rules and stuff and spit words at me like she was the boss, it would direct me in the other way totally. if a man tried to reason or something i might understand a little better.
 
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the_buffest_possum

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oh someone said that already, my bad
 
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become_the_generation

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Wow! So as im reading some of these posts, what do you mean its ok as long as shes on the pill?!?! how many times does it say in the Bible that this is wrong? im 18. i havent had sex. so dont say its not possible. comon people, stop putting your own ideas out there about whats right. your ideas wont get you aanywhere when we are judged, only God's will. and He clearly tells us how wrong this is.
 
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become_the_generation

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lets just put it this way. i dont mean to bring the hammer down. but the gospel is offensive. this isnt me sayign this, but the WORD OF GOD. if you keep living in darkness, keep us with sexual sin, when you KNOW its wrong, you are defiling your own body, the TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. you will have to face God when you get to judgement day. WILL. He sees what you do. whats worth more, taking a little rejection on earth or facing the creator and abusing the punishment of Christ. lets get with it. this stuff is real.
 
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Breath-of-life

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become_the_generation said:
lets just put it this way. i dont mean to bring the hammer down. but the gospel is offensive. this isnt me sayign this, but the WORD OF GOD. if you keep living in darkness, keep us with sexual sin, when you KNOW its wrong, you are defiling your own body, the TEMPLE OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. you will have to face God when you get to judgement day. WILL. He sees what you do. whats worth more, taking a little rejection on earth or facing the creator and abusing the punishment of Christ. lets get with it. this stuff is real.
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I agree that we should focus on the Bible, and stop trying to make our own little schemes up.. But. Wasn't it the pharisees who even strained nats out of their wine? I mean, thats how closely they followed the rules of the Bible. They missed the bigger meaning though, and -that- is what Jesus was so angry at them about. They didn't care for anyone but themselves, and they where the religious leaders at the time! They focused sooo much on the rules of the Bible, and how they are doing the right things that they totally missed out on the whole loving others.

I mean, correct me if I'm wrong.. I agree with everything you say, but.. I think a lot of this Christian life has to do with love, if not all of it. So I think that all of what you said is good, but I think at the same time.. People are just trying to handle it delicately, and in love.
 
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honestly I would say tell him your piece, but in reality it won't change much. And I would let him live his life, its his life to mess up anyway.

Anywho, think of the back lash, how do you tell your girl friend that you guys can't have sex anymore because your mom has a religious conviction against it? Yea that will go over good in the locker room, you better hope that your son can beat up all the other kids in the locker room. Hey just keeping real, but honestly it is his life
 
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That's an encouraging word to a worried mother Chopsui...thanks.


Chopsui101 said:
honestly I would say tell him your piece, but in reality it won't change much. And I would let him live his life, its his life to mess up anyway.

Anywho, think of the back lash, how do you tell your girl friend that you guys can't have sex anymore because your mom has a religious conviction against it? Yea that will go over good in the locker room, you better hope that your son can beat up all the other kids in the locker room. Hey just keeping real, but honestly it is his life
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become_the_generation

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what i meant by this is not to just think its ok. for all the people that are saying its no big deal. i think this is something in the Bible we should be following pretty closely. so i wasnt talking to the original post, i would respond differently to that, i am responding to the people saying its ok.
 
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Hi I've never posted before but I need a little moral support. My son is almost 17, hes an avid sportsman in wrestling and football and gets excellent grades very driven.....That said, hes had a girlfriend for almost a year. At christmas I found condom wrappers unopened under his bed. (my roomba vaccum actually did) We talked about it and I was calm. He said they weren't his (of course). I've raised him well with regular church attendance, awana and most importantly I've shared my views about waiting and what God wants for him and the consequences mentally and physically of being sexually involved. He is not allowed to be alone with his girlfriend at home without a parent.
Well I just cleaned his bathroom garbage and found a wrapper OPENED in his garbage. I'm so disappointed with him and myself.....after some thought and prayer I called the girls Mom. It went ok and surprisingly she said 3 months into their relationship she saw how inlove her daughter was with my son and took her to the dr. and put her on the pill. Her Mom is a single mom and had her first at 18 and is a young grandma. She said she got scared and thought it was the only thing to do to prevent the kids from ruining their futures. She said she didn't inform me because she didn't want to alarm me. So now the cats out of the bag what can I do? Realistically hes almost a adult and I can't ground him or forbid him to see her. I keep thinking of Sarah Palin's daughter saying her Moms thoughts on "abstience" are "unrealistic". My son and I have really good open comunication. At least I thought we did. Anyone have any thoughts or experience with this? Thanks for listening too!
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Peace be upon you.
What path he chooses is simply up to him, but what you can do is pray to God for help. If however your son is a believer and follows the Bible, you can show him what the Bible says about this.

Ecclesiastes 11:9
Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment.
 
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