Seperation, Divorce and Scripture

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Treyzan

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I am new to my faith and have caused pain in my families lives for years. I am seperated from my wife and she is asking for a divorce. I've prayed and studied and God has given me the gifts of grace and forgiveness to deal with her current Adultery. I accept my portion of blame for her sins, as I was not true to my vow to her to love her unconditionally and to Love her as Jesus loved his church. I also committed adultery several years ago and have since confused my sins to God and have repented. I understand that scripture provides some exceptions for divorce, namely for Adultery. I have no intention of giving up on my marriage because of her affair. God has strengthened my heart to fight for her and bring glory to him by obeying his word. I have begun to talk to my wife about my faith and my desire to do Gods will, unfortunately we are currently seperated by 800 miles so seeking counsel from our pastor or other religious leaders is somewhat difficult right now. My wife is a christian and I know she feels great guilty over her sins, I believe she is praying to God to direct her to the honorable path during this time, but her heart is so full of pain that she is giving in to sin. I have no question that the path God wants me to follow on this matter is clear, so I will fight with all the strength God gives me to bring her back to him and to me. My question is rather simple. Since the scripture provides an exception for divorce (Adultery) does my wife have reason to divorce me, because of my past sins? Any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
God bless
 
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Jadeline

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What God has joined together, Let no man put asunder..Matthew 19:6


Malachi 2:16 "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
 
shemaiah

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Well yeah, but I believe there is hope for every fallen man. She will (most likely) not accept you back.
But He who began the good work in you will be faithful unto the end. My advise to you is surrender the situation to God in prayer, He is the only one who can open her heart to you. A lot of people are probably telling her to get a divorce. That is why only God can bring you guys back together again.
My prayer is that His perfect will may be done. Cause his plans will always lead you to true joy. God bless
 
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dmdave17

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shemaiah said:
Well yeah, but I believe there is hope for every fallen man. She will (most likely) not accept you back.
But He who began the good work in you will be faithful unto the end. My advise to you is surrender the situation to God in prayer, He is the only one who can open her heart to you. A lot of people are probably telling her to get a divorce. That is why only God can bring you guys back together again.
My prayer is that His perfect will may be done. Cause his plans will always lead you to true joy. God bless
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You seem very wise. Unfortunately, Scripture does give his wife a "loophole" for her divorce. Matthew 19, verse 9, says "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” Therefore, his adultery probably provides her with the legitimacy to divorce him.

I agree with your assessment of the situation. Only God can salvage this situation. But I would encourage him to keep trying if that is what he truly wants and believes. Ultimately, however, God's will be done. Only God know what is best for everyone concerned.
 
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KezE

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I find your question very interesting & would like an answer too (I'm not sure if anyone has answered the real question). If someone commits adultery in a marriage but there is repentance, reconciliation & forgiveness; can the 'innocent' person (who has not been unfaithful) decide to divorce at a later stage because of the partner's previous infidelity? Assuming this happens because the partner who committed adultery still has an 'unfaithful heart' even though there is not another physical affair?
 
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