Should i show my dad some bible verses

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Write4him

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Hey my dad picks on my mom about provebs 31 and how she should act as a wife. However I looked up some verses on how husbands should treat their wives and he is totally out of line, he is not supportive or caring (most of the time) and i get the feeling he is waiting for her to change before he does.
i looked up the bible verses and is it okay to show them to him or is that out of line?
(oh and my last post they worked it out their not getting a divorce yet)
Thanks!
 
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KezE

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Hi Write4him. You have shown wisdom in seeking advice before approaching your dad! It can be very tricky showing someone their faults as most people don't like this & simply get defensive. In the past, here have been times when I've had to bring up something difficult with my husband and I have prayed about it first. Whenever I did this it made such a huge difference (& made me wish I had done it every time, instead of just 'barging in' with my thoughts). Pray that your dad's heart would be receptive, pray for a right attitude & motivation from your side & pray that the Holy Spirit would bring revelation to your dad. Also be sensitive to timing - don't try to talk to your dad when he's in a bad mood or tired or stressed. If you have done this & feel peace about it, I think you should approach your dad. Be completely gentle & loving in your approach. If your dad doesn't accept it or gets angry, let it be. Don't get into an arguement about it. You will have planted a seed & if he allows it, God can make that seed grow through revelation. Once you've said what you wanted to, continue to pray about it. And don't keep mentioning it. Let God do want He needs to do.
Praise God that they are no longer seeking a divorce! Keep on praying for their relationship. God is faithful in answering our prayers. 'The prayer of a righteous man is powerul and effective' James 5:16
'And we are confident that He hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases Him. And since we know that He hears us when we make our requests, we also know that He will give us what we ask for' 1 John 5:14&15
 
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worldlover

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if that's what you think is best to enlighten him, go ahead. main purpose of the bible is to guide us what is right and if you think he's out of the line then it will good for your dad.
 
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XboughtwithapriceX

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Hi Write4him. You have shown wisdom in seeking advice before approaching your dad! It can be very tricky showing someone their faults as most people don't like this & simply get defensive. In the past, here have been times when I've had to bring up something difficult with my husband and I have prayed about it first. Whenever I did this it made such a huge difference (& made me wish I had done it every time, instead of just 'barging in' with my thoughts). Pray that your dad's heart would be receptive, pray for a right attitude & motivation from your side & pray that the Holy Spirit would bring revelation to your dad. Also be sensitive to timing - don't try to talk to your dad when he's in a bad mood or tired or stressed. If you have done this & feel peace about it, I think you should approach your dad. Be completely gentle & loving in your approach. If your dad doesn't accept it or gets angry, let it be. Don't get into an arguement about it. You will have planted a seed & if he allows it, God can make that seed grow through revelation. Once you've said what you wanted to, continue to pray about it. And don't keep mentioning it. Let God do want He needs to do.
Praise God that they are no longer seeking a divorce! Keep on praying for their relationship. God is faithful in answering our prayers. 'The prayer of a righteous man is powerul and effective' James 5:16
'And we are confident that He hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases Him. And since we know that He hears us when we make our requests, we also know that He will give us what we ask for' 1 John 5:14&15

Wise words. Its great that you want to help your parents, just remember to stay within your boundaries as well, I know you love your parents but I think the best thing you can do is to always let them know you love them and keep praying for them, try not to get to involved, A marriage is a sacred thing between husband and wife, what God has brought together let no man separate. Just be careful and be praying all the time! Whatever you decide, God loves you still.
 
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dmdave17

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Dear Write4Him,

You neglect to say whether one, or both, of your parents are also believer(s). (It sounds like your father might be, at least, partially saved, although his actions indicate to me that he isn't a true Christian.) The people who posted previously have given you good advice. But I believe that you can try to get through to your father if you do it the right way.

If you just confront him with the Bible verses you talked about (I have quoted them in CC when discussions about "submission" arise), he will almost certainly react negatively. However, you could try asking him if there are any other scriptures besides Proverbs which discuss marriage. This might possibly lead to discovery of Jesus' pronouncements about divorce (not good), or Paul's description of the marriage relationship (the verses you refer to).

But, in any case, you need to approach him in a respectful and loving manner. He needs to see the error of his ways, and confrontation will not accomplish this. I know it sounds wierd, but it is up to you, this time, to set the example for everyone in your family. And by all means, pray for your family. If your parents are, indeed. believers, it probably wouldn't hurt to let them hear you praying. It might give them a new perspective on their differences.

I want to emphasize that this advice is my opinion only. I am no expert on marriage, or on God. However, I believe that every marriage is worth fighting for. Whatever you can do to help, I believe you should try.

God bless you all.
 
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Psalm2713

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I would suggest that you do a family Bible and Prayer time.. and for that you should prepare a lesson about Biblical roles of every family member and have them right them out. For family bonding you can hand them each a piece of paper and ask them to write their names and then pass it on for others write one thing they like about them. That should work and of course you can pray about it in the end.
Blessings to you and your family.
 
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REDMama

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No, it is not wrong, but it could create conflict, and depending on your father's attitude and receptivity to receiving help for his chid, it could go wrong and be harmful to you. So, be careful. If apprecaites your smartness and wisdom and will seriously consider applying it to his life, then try. It will not kill you.

Feel it out.....is he open to your advice, and is it the right time.

Maybe you could share it with your mother first, and she could pray about it, or you both could pray about it. Is it your heart to protect your mother or correct your father? Because if you see your mother getting hurt, worn out, tired, then you're being motivated to do something, but just don't waste your time if it is gonna go nowhere. You have a future too, a job, a marriage, or whatever it is, and you need knowledge and energy to do it.

As the bible says children are to obey their parents in the Lord, but this plays out differently in each household. And parents are not perfect, they make mistakes, cause harm, and sometimes the children are more capable and able to be a leader and the maturity.

So, a better way of looking at is, you are blessing to your parents, which is also, what the bible says, and hopefully they feel that way about you.

If they do, be thankful, because all households and families are not like that.

And when there is harmony and peace it is nice.

Hope this advice helps.

Make use of a multitude of counselors.

And many christian men, who are the leaders of their home, have different leadership styles, it is all way too confusing, but their has to be a choice, and a decision, and some kind of order, just like a business, or nothing gets down and you go around in circles.

God Bless with a good mind.

And remember to put yourself first also.