My Husband wants a divorce....

[shewholives]

hi my sisters and brothers,
well i have been married for 7 years. im 27 and my husband is 29 we meet in a chat room. God lead us together in a powerful way.. a friend of mine told me to get on the chat line as well as a friend of his.. the first words he told me was God said you are my wife when i heard your voice... that was before we even seen eachother... so we dated for 6 months and were married... before i married him i seek God for advice He gave me peace that my husband was sent by Him... okey i got save when i was 18. i really did'nt know God but knew i gave my life to him with a prayer... okey so my husband wanted to know this God i talk about all the time so i lead him to Christ in prayer... we begin going to church were we found understanding of God... we were filled with Gods Spirit... so i was save at 18 and married at 19... okey so things happen so fast i was still living as a worldly women as for as my ways.. i lied to my husband about things in my past beacuse i was ashamed of them... as time pass he never forgave me of my past and everything i have done to hurt him he adds to his list... okey i have never commited adultery...( just wanted to get that out there for anyone who's thinnking it) but sin is sin big or small... I ask my husband to for give me and he says its hard and he want never forget... okey to add to the stress we just lost our 2nd baby and have beeen praying for kids for years.. well i know God is faithful but at this very moment my hope is lost... and everything seems dead... im trying to walk out Gods word... walking in love towards him... but all he do is hurt me to get back at me because of his pain... he tells me im only being nice cause he leaving me but its to late...we are separated but still living together due to the fact he saving his money to leave... please pray for me and if their be any advice thanks.. oh also i have a women ministry called Abigail's Closet and my husband and I was called to couples ministry by the Lord... please pray with me Gods plans be accomplished... GOD BLESS...

 

[NMsmile]

Jesus you know the pain this woman of God is experiencing. Father, you tell us in Psalms 56:3 "When I am afraid, I will trust in you." I ask that you allow my sister to trust in you. Jesus you are our great shepherd ... please comfort, guide and lead her to calm green pastures. God heal, restore, lead, forgive so that your glory will be shown to all. Lord you tell us in Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you, "declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Father God we ask you to soften the hearts, clear the minds, and restore the joy of your salvation of this couple. You have placed a call on their lives and their marriage and we know that you don't make mistakes. Lord, open the heart and mind of this sister so that you can work in her heart, mind and soul. Jesus I ask you to work in such a way that there are no regrets, angry thoughts, bitterness, hurt or shame in this couple. Lord you know the plan and we just ask that all those involved will be receptive to your way. AMEN.

 

[dmdave17]

Dear shewholives,

Your story is very sad and, unfortunately, a little confusing. (I know that this isn't a time when you are necessarily thinking clearly.) It sounds to me like your husband may not be as strong a believer as he professes to be, no matter what he says. Forgiveness is the very cornerstone of a Christian relationship. In his letter to the Colossians, Paul wrote "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." (Colossians 3:13-14)

Have you both sought counseling for your grief at losing your child? I believe that a blow such as that may be what triggered your husband's decision to throw away your marriage. Would he agree to Christian marriage counseling for the two of you? (This is where your story is a little unclear.) Marriage is precious to God. In Matthew 5, verses 4 to 6, Jesus said, “Haven’t you read,” ..., “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

And our God is a God of love. First John 4:8 says "...God is love." You can be sure that He doesn't want you and your husband to separate. Have you discussed this with your husband in those terms? If you truly love him, and are ready to do what is necessary to keep your marriage together, I suggest that you ask him to go with you to a counselor and spell out his grievances against you to a third party. That may help him to let go of the anger he seems to have built up, as you describe it.

In any case, trust God. Pray diligently. Treat your husband with love and respect. God will always work things out for the best. And remember, after all is said and done, "nevertheless, not my will, but thine, be done." (Luke 22:42, KJV)

God be with you. I will pray for you.

 

[cec4me]

Shewholives, I will pray for you and your husband. I too am going through a seperation. Here is a scripture that is helping me. Eph2:19-20... To know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. God Bless you and your husband.

 

[shewholives]

@ NMSMILE:::: I know you dont know me but i know you were spirit lead to pray for me.. i felt your love and concerned for my house... i pray that our Lord Jeaus Christ give untill your family double portion... love u God bless....

 

[shewholives]

@dmdave17::: you are right he is not and fear commitment to the things of God... He also has problems reading and in the past when we tried to have bible study together as a family it was all ways so frustrating and we never could agree so we stop all together.... He has great understanding and is a thinker... and a great man of God... but is a bit self centered....and deceived;;;; well as for counseling thats out because of (church hurt)... he comes from a family of no hope and no change... thanks for ya prayers and advice... i do believe all is well and by his power we will overcome and truly walk in victory... please pray that the eyes of my husband be open to see how good and faithful God is and to be free of the lies and plans of the evil one... and as for me to be steadfast unmovable always trusting in God... thanks again God Bless

 

[shewholives]

@cec4me::: I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this as well.... be hopeful and hold on to the promises of God for your marriage... thanks for your encouagement hope these words encourage you... as they have done me...
I hear the Lord say to me ( do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing... 1 Peter 3:9) .... love you and may God's peace that surpasses understanding , will guard your heart and mind through Christ Jesus. Phi 4:6-9 you guys are too im my prayers... GOD BLESS

 

[Lucy68]

Dear shewholives,

Your story is very sad and, unfortunately, a little confusing. (I know that this isn't a time when you are necessarily thinking clearly.) It sounds to me like your husband may not be as strong a believer as he professes to be, no matter what he says. Forgiveness is the very cornerstone of a Christian relationship. In his letter to the Colossians, Paul wrote "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." (Colossians 3:13-14)

Have you both sought counseling for your grief at losing your child? I believe that a blow such as that may be what triggered your husband's decision to throw away your marriage. Would he agree to Christian marriage counseling for the two of you? (This is where your story is a little unclear.) Marriage is precious to God. In Matthew 5, verses 4 to 6, Jesus said, “Haven’t you read,” ..., “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

And our God is a God of love. First John 4:8 says "...God is love." You can be sure that He doesn't want you and your husband to separate. Have you discussed this with your husband in those terms? If you truly love him, and are ready to do what is necessary to keep your marriage together, I suggest that you ask him to go with you to a counselor and spell out his grievances against you to a third party. That may help him to let go of the anger he seems to have built up, as you describe it.

In any case, trust God. Pray diligently. Treat your husband with love and respect. God will always work things out for the best. And remember, after all is said and done, "nevertheless, not my will, but thine, be done." (Luke 22:42, KJV)

God be with you. I will pray for you.

Excellent advice.

 

[ickabod]

lett em go. hes a covenant breaker