Am I crazy or is this really happening does my husband care more about his friends

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Angelwilliams06302007

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Everytime I ask my husband to take me to the store or somewhere I need to go he says okay later. Then his friends or younger brother calls the next minute and ask him to go somewhere or take them somewhere he tells me he's about to go and he'll take me later on that night. I say okay and end up going the next day or not at all. It really hurts me when he do that I argue with him about it, cry, and get myself upset. Is it just me or do he really have his priorities in the wrong place. I'm constantly praying for myself and him but it seems as if I just let the problems get me even more upset than before I starting a relationship with God. ANY ADVICE
 
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NoahsMom

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Cling to the lord and keep a praying. Maybe he doesnt realize it bothers you so much. The next time this happens , instead of saying ok, just say, you said youd take me , and I really planned on going today......or better yet, if ya can, take yourself.
 
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KrisK27

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Hearing your problem from my perspective as a guy i am havingsome ideas pop into my mind.

I'm sensing that your marraige may have some deeper issues, aside from you simply getting upset about not going to the store. It seems to me that you think he is somehow controlling your life by cutting off your transportation. But then also he is deliberately ignoring your needs to run off and play with his friends so I sense the possibility that its a major issue that threatens the marraige.

Your husband may need to grow up and step up to the plate and make you his priority. And stop putting himself and his own entertainment as a top priority. If he is telling you to wait wait wait while he runs off to do stuff with his buddies thats something that hurts you emotionally and its not good in a marraige.

Have you thought of driving? or meeting some friends or other ladies from church. Go out with them. if your husband is trying to keep you under his thumb and not take you out to the store just call up a friend and go spend the day with her and have her take you to the store and drop you off back home. when you leave your husband home by himself and make it seem like you don't need him, then mabye he will start to appreciate you and will realize that you are feeling neglected and then finally make the effort to be there in the ways that you need him to be?

You other choice is to just lay it all out to him plain and simple and tell him what he's doing wrong and how he can fix it. depending on his personality he might even prefer to have it all layed out for him so he knows what to fix. but i understand the feeling that if he can't realize the pain he is causing on his own then he doesn't care about you and this is not always true. sometimes guys just get so caught up in life and let life slide by without realizing that their relationship is in need of some work because its easy to just live day by day and fall into a rut. and the hamr he is causing may not even be deliberate, it may just be ignorance?

hope it all works out.
 
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christepidemic

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I would agree with the above, and just add that communication is the key to every successful relationship. Be careful to communicate lovingly...but firmly how you feel about the issue.
 
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