She seperated and refused...So im divorcing her!

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judebee

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My ''wife'' got angry because of money and rebelled against me saying ''were equal and i dont have to do what you say about anything!'' (shes a christian). Ive never forced her to do anything. oneday i told her to take me home so i could get my things and leave because she was cussing me out in front of the baby (which she also did in fronof others) ive never talked to her that way. she seperated and rfse to speak to me and even blocked her phone. ive attempted several times to say i love you and lets get counciling. she would either hang up or started spewing cursing and saying hateful things even ''i hate you''. after her last hateful rant i decied shes an unbelivr who broke covenant over trivial issues and im divorcng her this week! i never hit her or cheated! but i have moved on and we dont speak at her request. i tried.
 
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judebee said:
My ''wife'' got angry because of money and rebelled against me saying ''were equal and i dont have to do what you say about anything!'' (shes a christian). Ive never forced her to do anything. oneday i told her to take me home so i could get my things and leave because she was cussing me out in front of the baby (which she also did in fronof others) ive never talked to her that way. she seperated and rfse to speak to me and even blocked her phone. ive attempted several times to say i love you and lets get counciling. she would either hang up or started spewing cursing and saying hateful things even ''i hate you''. after her last hateful rant i decied shes an unbelivr who broke covenant over trivial issues and im divorcng her this week! i never hit her or cheated! but i have moved on and we dont speak at her request. i tried.
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ok. has she done this since you were married. at what age did you get married. are you sure she is not just going through menopause. hormones have serious defects on woman that make it very hard for them to control themselves. from committing suicide to committing murder, complaining about money, etc. seeing that you are at the age of 40, I pressume your wife is at similar age, which is when most women go into menopause. Not that I say that is the only reason. But it could be a start.

You haven't given up yet, otherwise you wouldn't have posted it, unless of course you are proud of what you are doing and want to declare it...?
 
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judebee

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shes 29. and shes very rebellious and mean spirited! i am done but i posted to vent. and to declare my divorce as valid for those who have rebellious wives who didnt cheat but are doing similar things. many women are rbelling and acting the way she is. her main compint was ''i dont have to listen to you!'' we were attendin ano church do to HER COMPLAINT about the one shtended. i prayed and read the word with her AT HER REQUEST ,yet her fabook friends told her i WAS wrong about srpture and shuldnt listen to me! she began challeng me refusn request i made like ''hey hon lets go see that house'' smh it was all about role equality! and her being angry over me pointing out ephesians 5 and 1 peter 3. mind you i cook clean do dishes and watched the childrn when i wasn at work. she rebelled. period, belivers dont curse at and lie on their husbands and refuse to talk!,,,,,,
 
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shes 29. and shes very rebellious and mean spirited! i am done but i posted to vent. and to declare my divorce as valid for those who have rebellious wives who didnt cheat but are doing similar things. many women are rbelling and acting the way she is. her main compint was ''i dont have to listen to you!'' we were attendin ano church do to HER COMPLAINT about the one shtended. i prayed and read the word with her AT HER REQUEST ,yet her fabook friends told her i WAS wrong about srpture and shuldnt listen to me! she began challeng me refusn request i made like ''hey hon lets go see that house'' smh it was all about role equality! and her being angry over me pointing out ephesians 5 and 1 peter 3. mind you i cook clean do dishes and watched the childrn when i wasn at work. she rebelled. period, belivers dont curse at and lie on their husbands and refuse to talk!,,,,,,
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I'm sorry your going through all this, but sometimes believers do this, especially when they are (a.) going through some hard stuff, (b.) are not following God.

I'm not sure how long this has been going on, but if it's been only a month, then don't divorce yet, pray and wait on God. If it's been a lot longer, say several months, and God is leading you to divorce, then divorce. Also, you mentioned a child, which I'm assuming is yours. If you do get divorced, don't allow yourself or her to bring the child in the middle of things, but for the child's sake try and be involved in it's life as much as possible.
 
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satan cannot destroy the Church, however he can destroy the family! He's been doing this for a long time.
Father, help us in our weakness. You are our strength. Help those who are married to pray together, read and study together. To take care of one another, and put You first in their lives. For our brother and so many more brothers and sisters who are going through these hard times, I ask for your peace and joy. Please minister them and give them a heart of love, of forgiveness. Give them hope and comfort. Guide them in Your way.
In Jesus name!
 
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Steve4U

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TIME OUT!

You're in pain, guy.

(This is no time to make decisions.)

All the best to you
 
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Steve4U

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(Amen to the prayer) (Came in while I was messaging, but Amen. Amen.)
 
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shekaniah

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I will be praying for you and your family. God knows your hearts and minds...He knows how to bring you both to a place where you can
communicate again. You will have to if you have children. Make sure what ever you decide to do...you keep the children in mind.
 
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I'm with Shekaniah on this, Judebee.

Never forget the kids no matter what.

Take care.
 
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My ''wife'' got angry because of money and rebelled against me saying ''were equal and i dont have to do what you say about anything!'' (shes a christian)...
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Oh, how many times have we not heard this godless baloney? This rebellion not minding the headship and order of creation as ascribed in God's law and by Paul in 1Cor.11. The spirit of feminism it is, a proud, usurping and rebellious spirit of antichrist. Beware of such.
 
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seraphprincess

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Oh, how many times have we not heard this godless baloney? This rebellion not minding the headship and order of creation as ascribed in God's law and by Paul in 1Cor.11. The spirit of feminism it is, a proud, usurping and rebellious spirit of antichrist. Beware of such.
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Oh yeah, like women should be treated like chattel like in bible days and always be bare foot pregnant in the kitchen. Why don't you do some research on the history of women's suffrage and how hard it was for women to get the vote in this country. I agree some modern day feminists are arrogant proud, very sinful of antichrist but women did have to fight tooth and nail to gain their rights, and in many countries, especially muslim countries, women are still abused and treated like dirt.


by the way, God has a female half, the Holy Spirit is feminine. The dove has long been a symbol of the goddess, she is found within Judaism and Christianity, even Islam. The Shekinah is the presence of God with Israel, she is God's bride. God sometimes describes Herself as a loving, nurturing, caring Mother in Isaiah and Jeremiah. And you would not be alive today if it weren't for women.
 
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seraphprincess

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It sounds to me like the wife has some serious emotional and role problems. She seems to have trouble getting along with people. Yelling and cursing you out? I don't know, maybe she's stressed. I've never been married, don't have any kids, not the best one to ask. Try to relax and handle your own stress and talk to friends, family members or a preacher or pastor that could help.
 
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MissCris

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I'm truly sorry that you're going through this :( I've had my share of marriage problems, and I remember how horrible it felt for everyone involved.

That being said, I have a bit of advice that helped me, and although you probably don't want to hear it, I find it's still true: The best place to begin looking for the source of a problem within a relationship is within yourself.

It may not be that you are the cause of the problem, but there is almost always something a person can do better/more loving that could drastically improve a relationship.

Anyway, my heart goes out to you and your wife both, and you'll be in my prayers.
 
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Jordache

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I'm in the middle of what's looking like a very difficult and painful divorce. I have two pieces of advice. While this decision is ultimately yours, do not make it on your own. Get Wise counsel from several sources, both men and women, even if it means going to another church. Second, do not make this decision while you are seething in anger.
 
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seraphprincess said:
...by the way, God has a female half, the Holy Spirit is feminine. The dove has long been a symbol of the goddess, she is found within Judaism and Christianity, even Islam. The Shekinah is the presence of God with Israel, she is God's bride. God sometimes describes Herself as a loving, nurturing, caring Mother in Isaiah and Jeremiah...
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Sounds pretty much like typical feminist theology, appealing to non-christian traditions and sources for their claims. In the light of systematical theology and the totality of scripture there are many problems with these ideas.
 
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seraphprincess

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Well, God is a spirit, so "it" is neither male nor female, but I think in "it's" infinite mystery and power it must be both male and female and at the same time neither one, God is wholeness, unity and harmony, total perfection. I don't know why God chose to divide the human race into two genders and many, many different races and ethnic backgrounds, but God must like variety, why else would He/he/It make so many different species of animals, plants and other life forms?


I know a lot of Christians, especially Christian men, are shocked at the idea of God having feminine qualities, they see it as pagan and new age, but I think all along in the Old Testament Yahweh was worshiped differently than we think. Asherah was though of as Yahweh's wife by a lot of Hebrews. I think that a lot of the prophets were thought of as nuts and terrorists, kind of like what we think of extremist Islamic terrorists today.

Yes, I think idolatry an the worship of false gods is wrong. But have you ever seriously read the Bible and realized how harsh, cruel and extreme it is? There is the "marry your rapist" law, and the law that all brides have to be virgins or else they will be stoned to death. You know, some girls and women are born without the hymen, they just do not bleed when they have sex, and in ancient Israel they demanded bloody sheets as proof or else the young bride would be killed. What about the groom being a virgin? men were allowed to cheat as long as the women they were committing adultery with were single and had no jealous husband. There were no laws to stop husbands from beating their wives to death. And a man could rape his wife anytime he wanted.



 
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