what do u do when u hate your spouse?

[GCP]

Originally Posted by judebee

my wifes a disrespecful jerk! shes selfesh and ignorant and self righteous! were seperated! HOW DO I GET OUT WITH MY HANDS CLEAN TO LATER IN LIFE FIND SOMEONE ELSE??????

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My first thought was the movie Fireproof to be honest with you, it sounds just like what ''Caleb'' says to "Catherine''. He calls her selfish, a jerk, etc. and in reality they were both at fault. When marriages have troubles and come to the point of wanting a divorce, no matter what one or the other, or both parties say, they must admit their faults and guilt in it. The issues didn't just develop over night of course, things tend to slowly start happening, then slowly progress, and typically, they go without being handled or addressed, because people get so angry they just blow it all off, and each other as well, until they're calm again, and then life goes on. Marriage is a covenant between God, you, and your spouse. It's a gift from God, meant to be honored, kept forever, holy, true, and pure. While the Bible does say that fornication is grounds adultery, there's always ground and conditions which apply. You're supposed to do everything you possibly can to fix things, forgive one another, and keep the marriage together. (not saying you haven't done so in your situation). If you haven't seen Fireproof, or your wife hasn't, then I very highly recommend and suggest you get it and watch it together. The Christian counseling isn't a bad idea at all either. Praying is also essential. When you love someone, despite how much they have hurt you, it's best to do whatever you must in order to refrain from calling them names, talking about them in negative ways, and so on. For as God's word tells us, in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ove is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. I will pray for you and your wife, as well as all other marriages struggling, facing divorcement,or possible divorcement, and so on. God bless.

[Ugly]

Happy spouses don't cheat. Happy spouses don't want to leave their marriages. I hear you being nasty and calling names. Makes me wonder what you must be like to live with. How much of this is really your fault. Sounds to me like there's some anger issues going on here. And yes, i know, the situation would leave anyone angry. But honestly, you sound more like a five year old throwing a tantrum and name calling because he can't have his way, than a person who's hurt. I guarantee there's more to this story than you're letting on.
I've dealt with people who have anger and rage issues. They commonly resort to name calling and trashing the source of their frustration. The people i know that are mature and don't have anger issues don't resort to such childish reactions, even in the face of hurt and betrayal. That signifies to me your current attitude was around before this cheating.

[dominicanbeauty]

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[terrybo]

Hello i am a Christian and have much joy and success in my life. *EDITED*

[luvmyjesus]

We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. He does not count one sin greater than another. All sin is punishable by death in Gods eyes. It is by his command and his spirit that we are to forgive. God teaches us NOT to hate the person but to hate the sin. If God took the same stand as we sometimes do, where would we be right now? Mankind crucified his son and yet he forgives and offers salvation and eternal life to us despite our actions. Weonly need to seek, believe and accept Jesus sacrifice and gift of grace. Can you show the grace of God to your wife>

[luvmyjesus]

My christian wife cheated on me and it HURT. She has to face God for her actions. Your wife will also have to face God for her thoughts and actions as will you and I.

[kewl42]

divorce. start over. you are only hurting yourself by remaining in the relationship. sounds like it can't be salvaged. the relationship is broken. by the way you feel about her, all the hate you have for her, there's no point in trying to fix it, it won't work. cut your losses here.

[fatbud2]

Originally Posted by Ugly

Happy spouses don't cheat. Happy spouses don't want to leave their marriages. I hear you being nasty and calling names. Makes me wonder what you must be like to live with. How much of this is really your fault. Sounds to me like there's some anger issues going on here. And yes, i know, the situation would leave anyone angry. But honestly, you sound more like a five year old throwing a tantrum and name calling because he can't have his way, than a person who's hurt. I guarantee there's more to this story than you're letting on.
I've dealt with people who have anger and rage issues. They commonly resort to name calling and trashing the source of their frustration. The people i know that are mature and don't have anger issues don't resort to such childish reactions, even in the face of hurt and betrayal. That signifies to me your current attitude was around before this cheating.

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Happy spouses CHEAT................... People use their feelings as an excuse to cheat, but they cheat because of the kind of person they are. In other way it doesn't matter if you are happy or not, if you are a good person you will understand that cheating is not an option in marriage.

[SpaceCowboy]

Divorce her and get on with your life.

[Helloimandrewyo]

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