Lost Love?

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Kite

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My parents have been married for about 22, 23 years, and I found out last year that my mom doesn't love my dad. I've kinda gotten over it, but it stilll hurts when my mom talks about it with my dad. They've already said they won't divorce, but this month they had another conversation that makes me wonder if my mom wants to divorce. She said that she did try, like in the beginning and whatnot, and it makes me wonder why she married my dad. I have a younger sister who's 10, but I don't know if she fully understands my parents' marriage situation. I have prayed, but I don't know what else to do except just stand on the sidelines.

Has anyone else had this kind of instance occur?
 
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cate

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hi you must be going through alot of pain i understant because my parents almost broke up it is not easy but i know God will see you through.It is good you are not talking sides do keep praying as God guides you. my parent did not break up but latter they got saved.THERE IS NOTHING IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD.
 
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Kite....I am sorry for what is going on in your family.I will remember you, and them in prayer.
You sound like you are handling this with maturity beyond your years, and I am sure that is being a big support to your younger sister.
I pray the best for your family. Take care.
 
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Hey kite... Im sorry about your parents, i totally feel ya on that one. Mine went through the same, cept for they actually divorced. If yours already said they wont divorce thats a good thing, that means they at least love each other in some way.... Im definantly gonna pray for you on this one.. i know this is really hardl
 
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pinkstix56

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Kite said:
My parents have been married for about 22, 23 years, and I found out last year that my mom doesn't love my dad. I've kinda gotten over it, but it stilll hurts when my mom talks about it with my dad. They've already said they won't divorce, but this month they had another conversation that makes me wonder if my mom wants to divorce. She said that she did try, like in the beginning and whatnot, and it makes me wonder why she married my dad. I have a younger sister who's 10, but I don't know if she fully understands my parents' marriage situation. I have prayed, but I don't know what else to do except just stand on the sidelines.

Has anyone else had this kind of instance occur?
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I know exactly where you are coming from on this situation. I've actually been in the middle of fights between my parents. And have actually witnessed my dad go over to another womans house to " help out" with something. It hurts it really does.. and I think that when parents expose this with their children it hurts even worse..and i wouldn't know what the divorce situation would be like..but i have witnessed the verge on a break up and let me tell you it is awful. My friend, you should definately continue to pray to God about this , especially if you're parents aren't firm believers , because if they aren't then you should understand that their point of view is coming from the world's point of view. But if they are saved then don't worry because God will convict them on this matter and will tell them that He doesn't like divorce. Now i say that you should let God step in this situation..but if He wants you talk about it with your parents, then let them know how much it is hurting you and your sister, and that God doesn't like divorce because if REALLY meant what you said in your vows, then you agreed on the unconditional covenant you made with your partner.

AND LET THIS BE A REMINDER FOR ALL THE YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN OUT THERE. DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT GOD OR DOESN'T CARE TO KNOW ABOUT GOD. BECAUSE IT IS GOING TO TAKE A CHALLENGE FOR YOU TO CHANGE THAT PERSON. THATS WHY GOD WANTED US TO MARRY BELIEVERS , NOT NON BELIEVERS, BECAUSE THEY FULLY UNDERSTAND WHO CHRIST IS. LET THIS BE A LESSON FOR ALL OF YOU WHO ARE SEEKING TO MARRY SOMEONE.
 
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Kite

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Thank you everyone for your advice and prayers... *gives giant hug* I'll be praying for you guys too.

Yeah, the only thing that probably keeps my parents from divorcing is that they're Christians (and possibly my siblings and I). It's kidna strange though, because I've seen them talk in front of people like everything's okay. I was actually sort of irritated/angry at them for a short while.
SamIAm, I'm really sorry about your parents, too.
Pinkstix- that's really painful, your situation, I meant. But I'm kinda thinking about talking to my mom about it before I leave for college...
 
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pinkstix56

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If you feel the need to talk to your mom , then you should definately talk about it, and be serious too because we all know satan loves to tear apart relationships and families. So hang in strong sis :] Don't worry about me, yeah it was painful to go through , but God helped me every step of the way and He built me up to be strong for my family. :]
 
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I thought Id share with you that I read a book several years ago on exactly this situation. This woman realized after a few years that she really did not love her husband. She was very confused as to what to do as she was a christian and believed that she should honor her marraige. So she asked God to give her his love for her husband and to show her how to love him. This book tells about her expearience and the end result was her discovering an even greater love for her husband than she ever thought possible. I wish I could remember the name of the book. Maby a christian bookstore might know and I ll try to recall myself. It might be something you could give to your mom. As a mom myself I know that Id be willing to read it for my child if they asked. I will pray for both your parents that they will come to know Gods love for each other. Ill pray also for you and your little sister. Big hugs and God bless, pickles
 
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