I feel like my life is on hold!!!

[Bobbyking]

Hi Rachel

God's plan for marriage is that both partners walk together with Him and seek His will and find joy, happiness and fulfillment. If one partner has decided not to take that journey (for various reasons), it is time to decide what you need to do from here.

Whatever wrongdoings you have done, if you have asked God for forgiveness (and He definitely has forgiven you), move on but don't repeat the mistake again.

And in the mean time, stay out of any probable relationship until you settle what you want to do first. And spend time with God more and listen to His voice and get His wisdom.

[davidjohn]

dearest Sister in christ

[davidjohn]

how are you

[davidjohn]

i'm from india my name is pastor prakash

[davidjohn]

pl reply sisiter

[dmdave17]

Dear Rachel,

I will not even attempt to offer you any advice beyond telling you that I know in my heart that God loves you unconditionally and knows what is best for you. There is a ministry that specializes in healing marriages that have experienced infidelity issues. It is Hope & Healing Ministries, founded by Gary & Mona Shriver. Their web site is hopeandhealing.us. They seem to be more aimed toward couples, but I am sure that if you contacted them, they copuld offer some words of support.

God has brought you through many trials. Don't give up on Him now.

May God be with you in your time of trouble and bless you richly.

[Minich]

Firstly I want to say I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I too am having major marriage issues. You have got some nice replies here & you seem very genuine and wise.

My husband was talking to this girl and told her all these bad things that I did in our marriage, but just praised his mistress. I was hurt!!!! Sounds like he's just making excuses. I think that maybe him saying these bad things about you is his way of justifying to himself that it was OK to leave you when deep down he knows it's wrong.
But the thing is.....I dont know if I want my husband. I dont have that love for him that I did.
Love is not really a feeling but more something that we do. If you continue to love your husband, as christ commands, than I'm sure that in time the attraction and feelings that you once had with return. It may be different, maybe even better than before.
I actually love and care more about my ex bf. Is this normal???
Yes, I think it is normal but is the work of the devil. It's not a sin to think these thoughts but it is to dwell on them. It's easy to think that the grass is greener on the other side and it's nice to think of starting over again but we both know that this is not Gods plan and you need to end this connection that you have with him.
I want 2012 to be about me and God. I want to focus on me and lose some weight and get closer to God and do HIS Will, and not worry about anyone else...
Same for me. My motto this year is, mind body and soul.

Stay strong and try to take one day at a time. Don't think about yesterday and don't worry about tomorrow. Remember how awsome our God is and know that your trails are part of his perfect plan.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Ecclesiastics 3:11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

Hold on to God. He has placed you in the valley. His is going to strengthen you. Listen to the voice of God. Ask Him to show you which feelings are from Him and which ones Satan is trying to use against you. If God told you to work on your marriage, I can tell you this, He has also told your husband the same thing. Your life may be on hold, but it may be God's way of strenghtening you has a christian. First, you have to forgive your husband and yourself and those that broke you two up. No it isn't easy but it needs to be done. No, I have never been married before. I am telling you what I feel like God has given me to give you. Look up for your redeemer draws close. A preacher preached one time on hide and seek. God hides from us but we have to seek him. We have to tell God, I am not going to let you out of my sight and if you do, I am going to find you. Use this time to strenghen your faith and listen for the Voice of God. Sorry that I couldn't have any answers that you wanted but I feel like you got what you are needing

[iraasuup]

Gosh, if I had the time, I'd post in depth but I'm on my way out, so I'll make it brief.

Just be assured you are not alone. I too am having many major life trials including marriage issues.

I understand what you are going through and how it feels to feel like your life is on hold.

I have no advice or tips on 'what got me through' cause I'm going through it now as we speak, and I'm still seeking clarity and guidance.

I just wanted to encourage you though, to let you know it's okay to talk about it to those you love. I bottled my feelings in for so long, and one day ended up calling my parents and just let it all out. It was the best thing I'd ever done, as I had let it get to the stage where it affected my health, I had breakdowns from the stress and right now I'm on 3 mths stress leave from work.

Don't let it affect your health, don't let the depression get a hold of you. My best advice while you're going through this is to just DO SOMETHING. Keep living life, stay active, don't fall into the trap of just not getting out of bed (and I know how tempting that is)

Blessings

Katie