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[lynn46]

my daughter just recently told me she is bi-sexual but in a gay relationship with a women we love her sooo much and we told her we do not condone this but we will always be there for her and love her but i am so hurt and frightened help

[EcarG]

All you can do is love her and give it to God. I know its heartbreaking to think about your daughter going to hell, bisexuality is one of satans most popular lie and even though you don't agree it is up to her to turn from sin. Stay strong in your faith and continue to pray for her. I will pray also

[shemaiah]

Strengthen your child in Christ while you still have the time, introduce activities like devotion where you gather together and have a bible study with everyone participating. Love her and always be there and pray and even fast for her. God bless

[MajaMaria]

What?? Why would have your daughter go to hell?? Just because she's bisexual? I disagree! You didn't write how is her age.. but maybe she just wants "try everything". I know it's stupid explanation.. but a lot of people prefer try a lot of things just to know how they taste. Don't judge her, because she can quickly change her mind

Ps. If God were to send people to hell for relations with the opposite sex .. where He would send the murderers, pedophiles and others? Hell would be enough!
I've wrote this because my good friend, also has told the parents she's bisexual, and quickly after that she understood that it is not. Don't worry

[CatWoman]

I agree, If gays and bisexuals cant get into heaven then how are the rest of us going to get in? We all sin. We are no better than them.

[shemaiah]

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor HOMOSEXUALS, nor sodomites,
Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God."
Yes, we once sinned but Christ made us pure. God is light and in Him there is no darkness at all. Only He can make us 100% pure, coz that is His standard. God bless

[spirit]

I would definatley discussphasesthis with a family counsellor or psychologist as depending of the age of the person this could be a temporary phase ( happened to a work colleague many years ago with her 16 yr old) .I know we see this as a sin but I am sure that God loves us if we are honest and be true to ourselves. God bless the family.

wow some of you are just giving opionions when it comes to bisexuals going to hell. The bible is clear that the sexually immoral ARE going to hell, both the fornicator and the homosexual. Any unrepentant person is going to hell for their sins because they have not placed their faith in Christ.

1 Corinthians 6:9 - Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality,

With that said all you can really do is love her unconditionaly and give it to God, pray for her soul, never compromise and show support of the relationship.

[CatWoman]

I'm sorry I did not make myself clear. Homosexuals can go to heaven as long as they except christ as their lord and savior and ask forgivnes of their sins.

[MajaMaria]

Originally Posted by CatWoman

I'm sorry I did not make myself clear. Homosexuals can go to heaven as long as they except christ as their lord and savior and ask forgivnes of their sins.

I totally agree with CatWoman! That's right

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[shekaniah]

Love your daughter, but hate her sin...
If it was me...I would definitley be praying on my knees,
and asking God for wisdom how to speak to her.
You can have other people pray with you.
I myself will pray for you both.
May God bless you with peace and understanding, Shekaniah

[dmdave17]

Originally Posted by CatWoman

I agree, If gays and bisexuals cant get into heaven then how are the rest of us going to get in? We all sin. We are no better than them.

I selected this response from among several along the same general lines because, well because it was short. I would like to address the concept of being born again, and repentance.

You are absolutely right. Everyone on this earth is a sinner. Everyone on this web site is a sinner. It is something we inherited from Adam and it is in our "DNA", so to speak.

But, when you become a believer, the Holy Spirit "convicts" you of your sin and you repent. God has forgiven you, because you have believed in Christ and accepted Him as your Lord and Savior, but the implication is that you have made a decision to become a new person; to try and change your sinful ways. Unrepentance, in my opinion, is a sign that a person has not been truly born again.

Therefore, I believe that the unrepentant gay or bisexual person is going to hell. I say this not because that sin is any worse than any other, but because I believe that you cannot be reborn into the Kingdom of God and continue to sin indiscriminately. You may slip sometimes, but over time you should gain control of yourself so that your sins become less grievous and frequent.

And I don't want to hear that gay and bisexual people are born that way; that they cannot control their urges. There is a big difference between wanting to do something and doing it. Temptation is not a sin; even Jesus was tempted by the devil. Acting on that temptation is the sinful act. A lot of people have thought about killing somebody at one time or another. Thankfully, relatively few have acted on their throughts.

In conclusion, I would like to call to mind the story of the adulterous woman who was brought before Jesus for judgment. Of course, the elders and pharisees were trying to get Him to condone stoning her; the punishment prescribed by the Law of Moses. Jesus, of course, took a different approach. He gently forgave the woman and pointed out to the crowd that they were all sinners. But let's not overlook his last words to the woman in question, "'Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”' 'No one, sir,”she said. Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 8:10-11, emphasis added)

God bless.

[Calmador]

Originally Posted by MajaMaria

I totally agree with CatWoman! That's right

Just wanna tell you, during her lifetime here, she would get cleaned more and more of her sins. While in Faith, later on, in reality... in heaven she will officially be perfected by God, not be homosexual, but be a perfect daughter in Christ. That is if she accepts him, I hope she does.

[CatWoman]

DMDAVE17, Your saved and you still sin.We all sin no matter how hard we try not to.

[MajaMaria]

I personally don't understand one thing (maybe because I was brought up differently). I do not understand why do you settle for the each sin and you ask each other, "whether it's a sin, do I need to pray more, or will I go to hell?"
Only God knows where our lives end!
And If you believe in God you know that is HIS role.. not our. ... just knowing that we are doing wrong we need to ask for the grace that's all.
We are only human! I do not believe that even the most faithful of believers doesn't make mistakes. It is simply not possible.
Returning to the topic, you need to give people time to make mistakes, because they might learn something.
(Here's a great example I can give you. My mom and dad never told me anything that I can not do. Since the time when I turned 15 they told me that all I do is my conscious choice and it was so. Some months later I was with friends and first time I tried alcohol. When I got home I was afraid my mother's reaction. After a long conversation we reached the conclusion that it gives nothing more but a headache. I didn't feel better after trying this. Since I tried I have never taken alcohol in the mouth again and I'm not going to. But this experience learned me something.
I could try - I tried - then I felt guilty - I did not want to. So I decided it's not for me.)
Some people would say.. "oh you tried..you're a sinner because you shouldn't" but I can honestly say that I don't feel bad because I did it. Because now I know what is that and that I don't what to do it again. And that is the lesson that God gave me, and I'm thankful to Him.
I think that God is not gave you homosexual daughter just because you have to condemn her and to "destroy" your world and send her to hell. What if he did it to learn you something? You should just pray for her and for yourself for help in understanding and accepting her just the way she is.


Please do not be angry at me that I expressed my opinion.

[Calmador]

Originally Posted by MajaMaria

I personally don't understand one thing (maybe because I was brought up differently). I do not understand why do you settle for the each sin and you ask each other, "whether it's a sin, do I need to pray more, or will I go to hell?"
Only God knows where our lives end!
And If you believe in God you know that is HIS role.. not our. ... just knowing that we are doing wrong we need to ask for the grace that's all.
We are only human! I do not believe that even the most faithful of believers doesn't make mistakes. It is simply not possible.
Returning to the topic, you need to give people time to make mistakes, because they might learn something.
(Here's a great example I can give you. My mom and dad never told me anything that I can not do. Since the time when I turned 15 they told me that all I do is my conscious choice and it was so. Some months later I was with friends and first time I tried alcohol. When I got home I was afraid my mother's reaction. After a long conversation we reached the conclusion that it gives nothing more but a headache. I didn't feel better after trying this. Since I tried I have never taken alcohol in the mouth again and I'm not going to. But this experience learned me something.
I could try - I tried - then I felt guilty - I did not want to. So I decided it's not for me.)
Some people would say.. "oh you tried..you're a sinner because you shouldn't" but I can honestly say that I don't feel bad because I did it. Because now I know what is that and that I don't what to do it again. And that is the lesson that God gave me, and I'm thankful to Him.
I think that God is not gave you homosexual daughter just because you have to condemn her and to "destroy" your world and send her to hell. What if he did it to learn you something? You should just pray for her and for yourself for help in understanding and accepting her just the way she is.


Please do not be angry at me that I expressed my opinion.

I suppose it's possible BUT don't think that it's ok to sin. Because that's where you could step out of line, when we think oh ok its ok to sin.

Be careful ok, just avoid sin in faith with him.

[Bobbyking]

Originally Posted by lynn46

my daughter just recently told me she is bi-sexual but in a gay relationship with a women we love her sooo much and we told her we do not condone this but we will always be there for her and love her but i am so hurt and frightened help

Hi

Thanks for your sincere sharing.

Have you discover how she landed up in this state? Books? Movies? Where is the source of influence? It's good to know.

Pray for your girl; go into deep intercession to break this wrong thinking. It may take a while to see the change. Daily, together with your spouse, thank God that she will see the light. Keep believing.

Love her. Treat her as your daughter. Do things a daughter-father-mother do. Play sports, walk, read the Word, believing that the supernatural power of God will break this!

The days ahead will be tough. Ask God to give you wisdom, patience and love. HE WILL SEE YOU THROUGH. GOD IS ABLE.