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My husband and i have been married for 7 years...and we were always happy. Our worlds revolved around each other and we had the kind of relationship others envied. So we decided to expand our borders and have our first baby...
What a nightmare!!! I fell pregnant very quickly, which we didnt expect. But anyway, it happened. I was really excited, but every time i wanted to say something to my hubby about the baby, he shut me out...he wasnt rude or mean, he'd just change the subject. It hurt and i began to feel really insecure about our relationship. In turn my insecurities irritated him and from there, things began to fall apart.
I found that he was spending a lot of time with one of my girlfriends and text messeging her alot ...normally this wouldnt bother me because we've always trusted each other...but this was different.
We started fighting a lot. At one point he told me he never wanted to be a father and he wished it never happened...but there isnt much i can do to change it now. I became oversensitive to everything and our communication lines just broke down completely.
He said i wasn't there for him...i say he wasnt there for me...bla, bla, bla....it doesnt really matter who's to blame or where it started...
The point is, we really opened up to each other about two months ago...some of the things he told me really hurt, some of the things i told him must've hurt him too...but we're working on it....i just need prayer.
When i met my husband, he was so on fire for God....not anymore. Please pray that God speaks to him and draws him back to him...please pray that my heart changes too and i become the wife God intended me to be.
If any men out there (who also didnt handle pregnancy well) can advise me on how to handle my husband when it comes to the baby, please let me know. He's not at all interested in what's going on and how the baby is growing etc...i've stopped talking to him about the baby as i'm scared i chase him away...please advise. And please pray, for both of us....
Thanks,
T.
PS: I'm 21 weeks pregnant now....
What a nightmare!!! I fell pregnant very quickly, which we didnt expect. But anyway, it happened. I was really excited, but every time i wanted to say something to my hubby about the baby, he shut me out...he wasnt rude or mean, he'd just change the subject. It hurt and i began to feel really insecure about our relationship. In turn my insecurities irritated him and from there, things began to fall apart.
I found that he was spending a lot of time with one of my girlfriends and text messeging her alot ...normally this wouldnt bother me because we've always trusted each other...but this was different.
We started fighting a lot. At one point he told me he never wanted to be a father and he wished it never happened...but there isnt much i can do to change it now. I became oversensitive to everything and our communication lines just broke down completely.
He said i wasn't there for him...i say he wasnt there for me...bla, bla, bla....it doesnt really matter who's to blame or where it started...
The point is, we really opened up to each other about two months ago...some of the things he told me really hurt, some of the things i told him must've hurt him too...but we're working on it....i just need prayer.
When i met my husband, he was so on fire for God....not anymore. Please pray that God speaks to him and draws him back to him...please pray that my heart changes too and i become the wife God intended me to be.
If any men out there (who also didnt handle pregnancy well) can advise me on how to handle my husband when it comes to the baby, please let me know. He's not at all interested in what's going on and how the baby is growing etc...i've stopped talking to him about the baby as i'm scared i chase him away...please advise. And please pray, for both of us....
Thanks,
T.
PS: I'm 21 weeks pregnant now....