Grown Children and Parents

[MusicalMe]

I thought it might be interesting to start up a discussion on how or if the relationship between parent and child changed for you when the child became an adult.

For example:

Even though I always loved my parents, as a teenager, I was convinced that they were determined to keep me from having any fun, that they didn't remember what it was like to be young, and that they were just old-fashioned. I am now 25 and for about 5 years now, I've considered my parents to be two of my favorite people in the world and almost more friends than parents now. I love them dearly and can see now that they always had my best interests in mind.

Anyone else have any stories? Any parents want to tell it from the parental stand point?

 

[pickles]

From a parents view.. My middle daughter just went through a tramatic expeariance. Of course her dad and I were there to help. But after we were sure she was ok and she knew we were there for her I watched as her friends gave their support. The sad, sweet moment was when she turned to her Boyfriend for comfort. I was no longer the first she went to. And although it was a little sad for me as I watched her I realized that she was all grown up now and this wonderful young man could very well be my son one day soon. I dont think she knew how much that moment changed so much for me or the emotions I felt, but I was proud of who she is and who she has chosen and glad that I did not have to worry, as she will be all that God created her to be. Ill admit Ill always worry a little, thats just being a parent. In that moment I knew I had let her go. Two down and three to go. God bless, pickles

 

[Sharp]

Good topic.

When I was younger I thought that adults had it all sorted out and knew how to make good decisions. Now that I'm older I've realised that being an adult doesn't make you smart or sensible. Some of the dumbest and most irresponsible people I've met have been adults hahaha.

My parents are kind of old...I get really frustrated with them when they don't understand things or don't remember things. It's not fair I know but I can't help it. I just seem to think that if they have my genes they should understand everything I say to them..

 

[SamIam]

When i was younger i parented my mother... now that im older....and shes clean. She tries to parent me

 

[Sharp]

Sorry to hear that Sammy

 

[SamIam]

ohh its nothing to be sorry about..... but thanks

 

[chelsers]

This is going to sound super cheesy, but I've always had a really close relationship with my parents. While I would get frustrated when I wanted something and they said no, I knew deep down they were right. Which is all the more frustrating haha.

I do feel like it's more of a friend relationship now that I'm an adult, although, like my mom says I'll always be her baby

 

[J0Y]

As a child parental rating would be 10/10, my parents were like God lol
As a teenager my parents were 7/10....typical of most teens - ya think they live on a different planet.
However in my late teens through to now my parents have been a solid rock in my life. They have supported me through HEAPS and in the last 10 years they have both made commitments to Christ which is awesome! At the moment, I am staying at home in a 'sleepout' on my parents property. This cuts down my student loan...well, until next year when I will be moving on Campus!! So again, I would say my parents are 10/10!

 

[SamIam]

This is going to sound super cheesy, but I've always had a really close relationship with my parents. While I would get frustrated when I wanted something and they said no, I knew deep down they were right. Which is all the more frustrating haha.

I do feel like it's more of a friend relationship now that I'm an adult, although, like my mom says I'll always be her baby

your mom says that to!!! hahaha so does mine! I try and tell her... im not a baby anymore mom... but she insits you'll always be my baby! LOL its sooo embarassing!!

 

[chelsers]

your mom says that to!!! hahaha so does mine! I try and tell her... im not a baby anymore mom... but she insits you'll always be my baby! LOL its sooo embarassing!!

Haha that's great!

 

[cornerstone]

1) you are to still to honor your parents and show them respect
2) you are to obey the Lord, you are no longer under their roof, so you don't necessary obey them, as such, any more
3) your relationship turns to one of parity, equals or it should-the parent child relationship changes to adult to adult relationship
4) you sever apron strings, that means financially, emotionally, a child "leaves" and "cleaves" to someone else, defining that word leave means
to leave with a degree of finality, "abandon",
5) although you still honor your parents you are no longer "under their authority" if you are married; your authority and loyalty is transferred to your spouse
6) you relationship should mature on an adult level

 

[Girl_22]

Me and my mom are very close and I love her to death. You can kinda say I'm a mamas girl or something haha but anyway last year me and my mom were at a gala for her work its a awards dinner ceremoney and my mom introduced me to some of her work friends. I'm 4'10" tall and 24 years old so when they saw me they told my mom that I was sooo adorable and pretty and my mom said yes she is she will always be my baby and live with me forever. I thought that was soo embarrassing haha. I'm always told that when I'm in my 60's I'll look like I'm in my 20's or 30's.

 

[Narn]

Well I am out on my own now and the relationship between me and my parents has been rocky over the last year or two. Mostly because of different philosophy's. Actually we are closer now that we do not share the same house anymore. I love my parents.
I do not see things the way they do and they are fine with that and I am (kinda) ok with that, we are family so we look past the differences to be able to still have a good relationship.