We as a society are so shallow. I mean why do you think there is so much divorce? It is because most of us don't know more about our significant others than they themselves have shared and more often than not it is all the good and none of the bad/annoying/difficult. Basically most of us barely scratch the surface of knowledge about those around us. In fact the definition of "friend" has been mutilated beyond recognition, to the point where soo many have "friends" on places like facebook that they barely know or even talk to. My wife and I while we were dating were both resolved to be different and we asked in detail about each others beliefs, what we want in regards to kids and how we would treat/discipline them, goals in life, etc within weeks of meeting each other. Now that we are married we find out new things all the time, but most are minor and easy to deal with and talk about. The other part is a resolution to be honest, my wife and I are often quite blunt with each other (still in a loving way) when it comes to dealing with something new or challenging. It has led our love to continue to grow, where I have seen others falter.
