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I have three sons, and all truthfulness things could be worse with them and that is why sometimes I question my parenting as their father.
The oldest just turned 22 with the next one turning 20. For the past 7 years I have had my share of dissappointments and heartbreaks and head bumping with both of them doing things such as hanging with the wrong kind of kids, experimenting and using drugs, alcohol, stealing, police arrest, jail time, running away from home and then begging to come back home in which both my wife and I patch them up and lay out the ground rules....again...in regards to living under our roof.
We as a family have overcome many of these issues but there are still some that creeps up such as the need to smoke pot or the new thing they smoke called "Spice" which is a synthetic cannabis that produces the same results as pot but is legal (in some states). Alcohol consumption is the other stumbling block in their lives.
They were all raised on Christ since they were in their mothers womb. We both prayed over them from the time of conception through all their early years. They know the word and they have at times in their lives given their hearts to Jesus.
Its just the thing that happens when we grow into adulthood that we find themselves at crossroads that many times sway us to indulge in our sinful nature and we forget about our relationship with Jesus.
My problem is....I didn't do these things to my parents that they've done to me....so I find myself always getting very emotionally upset with them in ways that make me feel guilty afterwards. I get very angry with them because it just frustrates me beyond my natural limits as to why they need to feel they have to put chemicals in their system?!?!?
And the reason I get guilty about my reactions is because I pray and ask the Lord to help me not react in a way that is not Christ-like but I fail. It just gets to me too easy.
So I question myself as their father: "Am I too rigid in my ways and just need to cut them some slack?", or stand my ground and continue with the "It's my house and you'll do as I say or get out!" format.
The thing is....I love my sons....and it just breaks my heart when I have to be hard core with them.
Has anybody walked this road before?
The oldest just turned 22 with the next one turning 20. For the past 7 years I have had my share of dissappointments and heartbreaks and head bumping with both of them doing things such as hanging with the wrong kind of kids, experimenting and using drugs, alcohol, stealing, police arrest, jail time, running away from home and then begging to come back home in which both my wife and I patch them up and lay out the ground rules....again...in regards to living under our roof.
We as a family have overcome many of these issues but there are still some that creeps up such as the need to smoke pot or the new thing they smoke called "Spice" which is a synthetic cannabis that produces the same results as pot but is legal (in some states). Alcohol consumption is the other stumbling block in their lives.
They were all raised on Christ since they were in their mothers womb. We both prayed over them from the time of conception through all their early years. They know the word and they have at times in their lives given their hearts to Jesus.
Its just the thing that happens when we grow into adulthood that we find themselves at crossroads that many times sway us to indulge in our sinful nature and we forget about our relationship with Jesus.
My problem is....I didn't do these things to my parents that they've done to me....so I find myself always getting very emotionally upset with them in ways that make me feel guilty afterwards. I get very angry with them because it just frustrates me beyond my natural limits as to why they need to feel they have to put chemicals in their system?!?!?
And the reason I get guilty about my reactions is because I pray and ask the Lord to help me not react in a way that is not Christ-like but I fail. It just gets to me too easy.
So I question myself as their father: "Am I too rigid in my ways and just need to cut them some slack?", or stand my ground and continue with the "It's my house and you'll do as I say or get out!" format.
The thing is....I love my sons....and it just breaks my heart when I have to be hard core with them.
Has anybody walked this road before?