Good Influences for my kid?

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Hava91

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I am having trouble now as a new Christian, as well as a new mom, trying to figure out what to do about my friends...Before I never saw anything wrong with some things they did, shows they watched, language they used, etc, but now I find it harder and harder to be around them especially while my child is with me. I am not sure what to do. Do I find new friends?....I can't seem to find good christian people to be friends with here, much less any with children. My church is mostly edler people from 50+ and I am the only one my age there....I want good christian influences for my child, I want to raise him up to be a boy who can rely on god, even in the world as it is today - given its only going to get worse from here....So do I just break off the friendships, or stop bringing him around them?...Don't know what to do
 
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psychomom

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I wonder just how many of us underwent major life changes due to the advent of a child? :)
I remember when my oldest daughter was born...suddenly I found myself looking at things through her innocent eyes. (not that she wasn't born with a sin nature, but that's OT!)
The Lord used her birth to lead my husband to redemption in Him. Yeah...once you find your feet and get 2 or 3 nights' sleep, I think many of us begin to wonder about this stuff.

Hmmm...do I have great advice? I wish! I was so convicted about a soap opera I had watched in high school. (and believe me, they were pretty tame by today's standards!lol) And when I put our usual radio station on the stereo, I found myself hurrying to the local Christian book store for a few albums. (vinyl-ha! then 5 years later we did get a terrific Christian radio station we could pick up at home.)

I think you will know based on the Word and the conviction of the Holy Spirit regarding your friends. :) And I am not saying to leave your church, but maybe visit some? And pray for the Lord's leading in this area? Also, this may sound crazy, but contact your local homeschool group. They should be fairly easily found through an online search for your state's homeschool group, which will direct you to the leadership of their chapter near you. I've not heard of a state that doesn't have one. Although you're not even close to schooling your child, and may very well choose another option, there's a good probability the local group are believers, and I would be very surpirsed if there weren't quite a few mommies with infants. We always welcomed other moms who were just in need to fellowship with moms who love the Lord. I pray it would be so for you there, too.

These are tough issues, dear one! The fact you're thinking of them already shows your tender heart for the Lord, and your love for your baby, and it blesses me. ♥
One of my favorite verses is, "He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm." (Proverbs 13:20)
And a fool says in his heart, "There is no God" right? (Psalm 14)
I will surely pray for you. I know the Lord waits to show mercy to you, and will give you the wisdom you need.
~ellie

 
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Lucy68

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It is amazing how our perspectives change when we become mothers


You could try asking your friends to be careful about their language and actions around your child. If they refuse to, then it may be best to limit the time that your child is around them.

If you don't want to visit other churches that have childrens programs then you could still try to find churches that have playgroups or a MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) group.

Not only does your child learn how to get along with others in a playgroup, but fellowshipping with other Christian moms is a wonderful boost for you :)
 
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Gabriel777

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As the saying goes, bad company corrupts good morals. Teach your kid to discern good company from bad company. Set a foundation for your kid in all areas, especially morals. KEEP HIM AWAY FROM DISNEY CHANNEL AND CARTOON GARBAGE. Be your child's best friend as well.
Hopefully your child grows up fearing the Lord. Pray and persevere and don't give up.
 
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Hava91

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psychomom - i def AM planning on homeschooling so that is a wonderful idea!! and i love that verse...im writing that down - and yeah I dont have tv in the home for a reason lol! thank you for all the advice..i hope i can be a friend to him as well and teach himj right.....with gods help im sure it will all be alright
 
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Hava91

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Something i just noticed - gabriell...i dont want him growing up fearing the lord. i want him growing up LOVING the lord, and obeying his law becausse he loves the lord and respects him and his truth and trusts the lords jugdment over his own, not bc he is fearful of consequence. I want him to obey out of love, for all the right reasons...not for selfish avoidance of pain or suffering. being christian we will go through pain and suffering anyway, and if he is taught to obey out of fear, then i believe he will be easily turned from god as soon as someone convinces him he has nothing to fear, no punishment...but if out of love, he will have a lasting relationship with christ jesus that no one can take away - even me if i ever mess up!
 
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psychomom

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Hava91 said:
Something i just noticed - gabriell...i dont want him growing up fearing the lord. i want him growing up LOVING the lord, and obeying his law becausse he loves the lord and respects him and his truth and trusts the lords jugdment over his own, not bc he is fearful of consequence. I want him to obey out of love, for all the right reasons...not for selfish avoidance of pain or suffering. being christian we will go through pain and suffering anyway, and if he is taught to obey out of fear, then i believe he will be easily turned from god as soon as someone convinces him he has nothing to fear, no punishment...but if out of love, he will have a lasting relationship with christ jesus that no one can take away - even me if i ever mess up!
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Nice! :) I noticed with my own children that when they were very little, they quite frankly obeyed to avoid the consequences of disobedience. But as they grew they began to realize we asked what we did of them because we loved them and wanted the best for them. Then the shift began, from obedience from fear to love. I wonder if it isn't a bit like that with us as God's children? At the beginning we are so awed by those consequences...but as we come to know Him, we see His rules for us grow out of His love for us, that love makes us love Him, and obedience becomes a delight.

Just thinking...
~ellie
 
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