Do you feel Rejected?

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Becky216

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Most of us have grown up on a "merry-go-round" of trying to please people so they won't reject us. We all have an inbred need to be loved. People usually love you based on your performance. If you do what they want you to do, they accept you; but if you don't, they reject you. This is the operation of humanlove, and none of us know how to do anything else until we taste God's agape love that's not based on man's performance but is based only on God. He loves you and accepts you because He decided to, not because of what you do or don't do. Once again let me say, this doesn't mean you shouldn't desire holiness; but you'll never arrive at new levels of holiness if you think God rejects you and withholds His love every time you fail. RememberHebrews 4:15-16. He knows you're weak, so admit that you are and let Him help you anyway.


"So many are in prison because they won't accept themselves. So many are so gifted and talented, but they won't express themselves because they fear rejection. They fear man. They fear what people will think. I want to love My people, but they hold Me at arms length and won't let Me really love them because they have been hurt by others. They fear I will reject them because of their weaknesses—like people have—but I will never reject them. Tell them I love them. Ask them to stop trying so hard to be acceptable to Me and to realize I accept them where they are. Tell them I don't want perfect performance from them. I want them to love Me and to let Me love them."


Jesus isn't a Pharisee. He says inJohn 3:18 that he who believes in Him will never be rejected. Believe in Him, love Him and desire His will. You'll be off to a good start. He'll bring you across the finish line. And remember, you may not be performing perfectly, but if you have a perfect heart toward Him, He counts you as perfect while you're making the trip. Oh yes, one main thing I need to say: Be sure you are not a Pharisee. God has placed people all around you who need love and acceptance. Give it to them, and you'll help them become the best person they can be.
 
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episcopotic

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I don't like posts. This may be my first. The only thing I have to add:

People usually love you based on your performance. If you do what they want you to do, they accept you; but if you don't, they reject you.
Some people just reject you at every opportunity, regardless of your performance. And they think you'll just take that. And some people do take that. It's bizarre.

Thank you for writing this.
 
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shirley

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IVE BEEN REJECTED ALL MY LIFE IM USE TO IT ; BUT I WILL ALWAYS KNOW ONE THING IN MY HEART JESUS LOVES ME HE WILL NEVER REJECT ME ; BUT I HAVE ALOT OF FRIENDS ON CC THAT LOVE ME TOO GBU ALL
 
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Agravesx

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Psalm 118:22 said:
The stone that the builders rejected has now become the cornerstone.
I just like to remember that the world rejected Jesus himself, so when we are rejected by the world, I think it should be more of a sign of encouragement, because that shows us we are following Jesus.
 
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Becky216

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You are very much Loved Shirley!! Wear your rejections as a Badge of Honor, as long God accepts you that is more meaningful and powerful then any rejection from the world...
 
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drdeb57

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I think the worst rejection comes from your children....I believe they step on your toes when they are little and step on your hearts when they are older. I have two kids that won't have anything to do with me unless they want something from me...very hurtful!
 
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nw2u

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Thanks Becky216. This is something I needed to read. God Bless you.
 
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EnaGoguette

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I agree 100% with this thread, because I feel like i've gone rejection, u know a christian nd all, even here on this website, but i'm waiting on my Savior's glorious return. Being 14, living in a crooked generation like this, its crazy!!!!! But the devil is at work,nd he's trying to tempt,to leave the presence of the Lord, but he's down cause he realizes that its not.working;) I need alot prayer 4 my young teenage years, because i'm a little scared!! Please if want pm me, I need it! we r living in the last times, nd if we cease in prayer, it'll be harder, so keep in prayer,i want to always abide in my Saviour nd so He,can abide on me!! Thx!! Luv u all!!;)
 
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I am allowed to look at life from watching through many changes, I love it. I am 87.

It seems to me that our culture is bringing about a feeling of rejection and isolation because it stresses the individual development and fulfillment rather than thinking of ourselves as part of a group. Many people I meet are so busy with themselves they don’t even listen to anyone else. You can just see their mind forming what they will say next rather than being interested in the speaker.

The family is less important with each passing year, a place that used to be a center. There was always conflict, but a feeling of unity and love was usually also there. Now the family is almost gone.

From the standpoint of the elderly, we go to institutions for care and no one even comes to see us. Many young men would rather have a new boat than health insurance for their children. Women are raising children alone. It is an outgrowth of our culture. It is like the days before God sent the flood.

Hang in there everyone, this is not God’s way. God takes care of His family. Sometimes I see absolutely no one except my once a week grocery shopping day for long periods of time, but I am never alone. If we all lived in the way the Lord tells us to, we would be in a world with everyone together, with love and caring. We don’t. But we can have that world for ourselves when we draw close to our God.
 
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Long time ago I learn that if your gonna try to please people you will dissapoint someone along the way. We have to do all we can to please Jesus, and not worry about what mankind thinks. Be happy for Christ and his aproval
 
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strawberryfizz

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I think one of the worst rejections is from the church. The place where we least expect to be unforgiven, misunderstood, isolated, and unloved. It's quite unbelievable but it is true.
I should know. I am facing that situation right now. At first it is difficult to accept but thank God, the Holy Spirit does comfort us in all our troubles.
Little by little I am trying to stand up and move on again...
 
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I think one of the worst rejections is from the church. The place where we least expect to be unforgiven, misunderstood, isolated, and unloved. It's quite unbelievable but it is true.
I should know. I am facing that situation right now. At first it is difficult to accept but thank God, the Holy Spirit does comfort us in all our troubles.
Little by little I am trying to stand up and move on again...
I was rejected by the church. I stopped going. I wanted to get baptised there. That's flew out of the window. I left the church when I was taking my final GCSE exams. I could concentrate more. I was more relaxed. I got into fewer arguments at school. I did well. The last time I went was to see one of the boys getting baptised. That was last month. I haven't regretted leaving the church.
 
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Mathnels

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I am going through this right now. My family is African and goes to a nondenominational church that's predominantly white. Actually we are the only blacks. This is in predominantly white city.What hurts most is the women who behave uninterested in me and really want nothing to do with me seem to have no qualms talking to my husband. So I feel he is accepted and I am not. My husband has been in ministry before even in American churches and I've never had to deal with this. He is not in a ministry position right now but he does serve in one capacity or the other. My conflict is in being happy for how God uses him but then I feel I do not belong there and there is a feeling of us getting separated. Anyone out there with encouraging words?
 
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I am going through this right now. My family is African and goes to a nondenominational church that's predominantly white. Actually we are the only blacks. This is in predominantly white city.What hurts most is the women who behave uninterested in me and really want nothing to do with me seem to have no qualms talking to my husband. So I feel he is accepted and I am not. My husband has been in ministry before even in American churches and I've never had to deal with this. He is not in a ministry position right now but he does serve in one capacity or the other. My conflict is in being happy for how God uses him but then I feel I do not belong there and there is a feeling of us getting separated. Anyone out there with encouraging words?
You are one with you husband, part of the work he does. Each marriage has a different way they work together, but they have the opportunity to do that. It could be only supporting him by listening to him.

God created you so no one else can take your place, you are exactly right for where you are. You can add God to that place, by listening to Him and using His instructions. You can listen closely to those around you, study His word, give love when you can, and enhance God's wonderful creation of you.
 
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Mathnels

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You are one with you husband, part of the work he does. Each marriage has a different way they work together, but they have the opportunity to do that. It could be only supporting him by listening to him.

God created you so no one else can take your place, you are exactly right for where you are. You can add God to that place, by listening to Him and using His instructions. You can listen closely to those around you, study His word, give love when you can, and enhance God's wonderful creation of you.
Thank you so much for the encouraging words!
 
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Jocelyn1

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This thread is very sad. I haven't felt rejected in a very long time. My husband has a hard time understanding my attitude towards other people and how I can not let it bother me if I am rejected. I guess I have trained my mind to look at things on a different way. I don't look for acceptance from other people because I don't consider anyone above or below me. We are all human beings, we all have emotions and we all have the right to be here. So to me it seems odd to want to be accepted by someone....it makes me feel as if I am telling myself they are better than me and I need their approval.
There have been times where I have found it hard to get close to people because they consider themselves below me. It takes a lot of work to build these relationships and show people you mean them no harm. It is very sad when you become friends with someone and they tell you that based purely on looks they can't understand why you are friends with them. I just had a friend of mine tell me this a couple weeks ago. And I wanted to cry. It is just so sad that she doesn't see herself the way I see her. I have met a lot of very pretty girls but you can never be truly beautiful if you are ugly on the inside.
With that being said I have a variety of friends and none of them are based on social status, looks, or even beliefs. I choose my friends based on personality and they seem to vary in that way too. But I treat everyone fairly and accept people for who they are because what a boring world it would be if we were all the same. And in return I expect to be treated the same. Nobody should be afraid to stand for what they believe in. We don't have to always agree but you also don't have to be hurtful if you don't agree with someone else. I think I have rambled enough for now :)