I have sinned and not known it.

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Cecillia504

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Well. Earn more, Save more and give more. These will be my words of wisdom to everyone.


I just realized today I was sinning by not giving. I felt like I was, and I have a good heart...but I looked around and have so much stuff! I have pots I don't use, books, endtables, golf equipment.....just stuff!


So, I'm going to make a giant give away box and give it to goodwill.


The problem is - my husband LOVES stuff. Which we all know is a sin.


He isn't a Christian (I wasn't Christian up until 2 months ago). And I don't know how to make him stop loving stuff and let it go. We have a ton of things that can help others, I tell him this - but he won't give it up.


What can I do? Going behind his back and dumping it off seems wrong.
 
Searching4Truth

Searching4Truth

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Give your stuff first. Being choked by thorns isn't a good thing.
 
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Ugly

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No, don't go behind your husbands back. That is dishonest, deceitful and not honoring to your husband. How you can do those things and say its in the name of God and service is beyond me.
Its great thatyou recognize that you have things to give and are willing to be giving, but at the same time you are to honor your husband, and as long as he is not requiring anything of you that goes against what God teaches, then you're somewhat stuck. Really, Christian or not, its unwise. Making a decision to purposefully go against your spouses wishes will only cause problems in your marriage. It may instill bitterness, resentment, a lack of trust, and possibly make him more materialistic. For now, just keep praying that your husband will open up to the idea. Maybe bring it up from time to time. But not too often, otherwise you'll appear as a nag.
 
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tjogs

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And remember moderation for you as a couple. I know case where one wife had similar will than you had but she brought it so far that if some stuff were more than one / person like 8 glasses for 2 people she gave 6 away and when same went on with furnitures and clothing. (only one pair of socks, pants etc / person at a time) the husband got crazy and among for couple of other reasons the couple ended to divorce around 2 years ago.
 
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chuinchoy

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GIVE MORE = EARN MORE. Priase the lord. Thats how Gods works....the more you give, the more you earn. Strange isn't it? But thats how it is.
 
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Cecillia504

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I dumped it off (something told me too). He came back from work in awe at all the space we had (and he was happy we got the downstairs closet room back for the vacuum and steam cleaner). :) Was a (lot) of hard work but meh. Worth it! More space, less stuff and a nicer home. ^_^ Let's try to keep it that way. Hahhaha!!!

And WOW. 0_o You guys need to chill out a bit.....and judgmental much? Holy moley.....
 
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shekaniah

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Cecillia504 said:
I dumped it off (something told me too). He came back from work in awe at all the space we had (and he was happy we got the downstairs closet room back for the vacuum and steam cleaner). :) Was a (lot) of hard work but meh. Worth it! More space, less stuff and a nicer home. ^_^ Let's try to keep it that way. Hahhaha!!!

And WOW. 0_o You guys need to chill out a bit.....and judgmental much? Holy moley.....
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I was going to say that if you are the homemaker and incharge of the household organization.
That there is nothing wrong with donating extra household items.
I'm glad it worked out for you! God is in control. :)
I'm glad you found Jesus! I will pray for you both!
God Bless you and keep you, Shekaniah
 
damombomb

damombomb

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craigslist has a wanted section where people are needing things
 
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simplyme_bekah

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Dumping it off behind his back will start war, tread carefully lol. My mate is a only brat child who is stingy and his favorite word is MINE lol still at age 34. Some things will never change with men no matter how hard you want but only if God does the changing. I will pray for your husband to get saved and that God will change his heart to love and serve Him, our Lord.
 
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JerryJones

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Also consider the book of 1 Peter 3: Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
 
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Ugly

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Cecillia504 said:
I dumped it off (something told me too). He came back from work in awe at all the space we had (and he was happy we got the downstairs closet room back for the vacuum and steam cleaner). :) Was a (lot) of hard work but meh. Worth it! More space, less stuff and a nicer home. ^_^ Let's try to keep it that way. Hahhaha!!!

And WOW. 0_o You guys need to chill out a bit.....and judgmental much? Holy moley.....
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Seriously? You came on here stating how materialistic your husband is and that he forbade you to donate items, then call us judgmental for assuming he would be upset if you went behind his back? You set us up to think of him as a certain type of person, then insult us for believing you. Last time i offer you any advice.
 
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Nest

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First off Jesus died for your sins once and for all, dont pick on yourself for the little things. You are under Grace. Now if you want to please God by giving do so. If your husband doesnt want to give away his stuff, then let him keep it. Read The book of Romans and Hebrews and listen to grace teachings. If you believe in Christ you are Under undeserved Favor so dont sweat the small stuff. Remember we are all born into to sin cause of adam, we are forgiven by having faith In Jesus, believing that he fulfilled all requirements, died for our sins and God raising him from the dead.
 
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