PARENTS help plz!!

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Hava91

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At what age can you start training your child out of fits???And how do you go about doing that - WITH love????

and without getting overly- mad lol
 
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chuinchoy

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sorry i am not a parent yet but i think this needs the advice, guidance of a medical specialist. i recalled when i was in form 2 ( secondary school, about 15 years old) i meet a classmate who have fits periodically. i saw teacher asked me together with few other students to hold him with she put a spoon on his mouth so that he won't bite his tongue.
 
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chuinchoy

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i am not sure whether this is the right method or not. Please concult your medical specialist.
 
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Hava91

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no no, not seizures a.k.a. fits. I mean tantrums, a.k.a. fits lol. so if you are not a parent yet, please dont suggest anything...i thought i knew abt kids before he was born and maaaaaan was i wrong lol. thank you though. =)
 
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intercessorginger

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If you mean tantrums that sometimes happen when a child is two years old, then I know what you mean. One of the reasons kids have these is because they are tired. They run out of steam and get frustrated and don't have the skills to communicate that to an adult. Try and see if it makes a difference, by making sure the child has a good meal, a warm bath and a chance to sleep during the day. I also did my best to give the little ones my attention and give help them help when trying to communicate with me. I also allowed them to express their feelings which seemed to help them.

One of my kids saw another child throwing a tantrum in a store and seemed to think it was a good idea (much older then 2). He threw himself on the living room floor and kicked and yelled. I made the decision to throw myself down next to him and do the same.
He found this so hilarious..we both had a good laugh over it. He never tried it again.
 
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PopClick

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He threw himself on the living room floor and kicked and yelled. I made the decision to throw myself down next to him and do the same.
He found this so hilarious..we both had a good laugh over it. He never tried it again.
Oh my word... I'm finding that hilarious, too! That's awesome. :cool:
 
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Ugly

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At what age can you start training your child out of fits???And how do you go about doing that - WITH love????

and without getting overly- mad lol
This may sound cheesy, but i'd suggest watching Supernanny. She is always dealing with things like that and always has awesome ways to handle them in just the manner you're looking for. Great show to pick up a lot of tips on raising children.
 
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Hava91

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LOL thats awesome! hahaha I'm going to have to try that when he is old enough to care xD
 
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Hava91

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This may sound cheesy, but i'd suggest watching Supernanny. She is always dealing with things like that and always has awesome ways to handle them in just the manner you're looking for. Great show to pick up a lot of tips on raising children.
no tv sadly. but thats good!! i will when i get a chance
 
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Graybeard

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At what age can you start training your child out of fits???And how do you go about doing that - WITH love????

and without getting overly- mad lol
If you mean tantrums that sometimes happen when a child is two years old, then I know what you mean. One of the reasons kids have these is because they are tired. They run out of steam and get frustrated and don't have the skills to communicate that to an adult. Try and see if it makes a difference, by making sure the child has a good meal, a warm bath and a chance to sleep during the day. I also did my best to give the little ones my attention and give help them help when trying to communicate with me. I also allowed them to express their feelings which seemed to help them.

One of my kids saw another child throwing a tantrum in a store and seemed to think it was a good idea (much older then 2). He threw himself on the living room floor and kicked and yelled. I made the decision to throw myself down next to him and do the same.
He found this so hilarious..we both had a good laugh over it. He never tried it again.
That made me laugh!.......wish I could have tried that with my first kid. He would throw tantrums and go blue in the face to the point of collapse, it used to frighten us terribly, we tried everything we could think of but nothing worked. I thought maybe that he became accustomed to the attention he received when he did this, so one day I decided to try a different approach much to the disagreement of my wife. He started his tantrum and when he started turning blue I picked him up and told him to stop it and put him in the bedroom and closed the door, my wife at this time was almost having a tantrum herself but I told her to calm down and relax. I stood by the door with my ear pressed up against it and listed, I could hear him completely lose his breath and everything went silent, I got very afraid and wondered if I had done the right thing. a few moments of silence passed and just as I was about to burst in the room I heard him take a big breath and cry, I waited, he cried for maybe 5 minutes then settled down. I opened the door, he was calm and picked him up, hugged him and told him that we loved him but that what he was doing was not nice. The tantrums stopped from then on.

Now this worked for us, maybe because the way we did it I don't know. Some may say that it was too harsh....it worked. I must add that although my wife was totally against it and she was really scared for his life, I had all the confidence that it was in Gods hands.
 
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Ugly

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no tv sadly. but thats good!! i will when i get a chance
Hmm... netflix? Not sure shes on there, but if you have it may be worth a peek.
Also, i believe she has books written. Head down to your local bookstore, grab a few of her books and a coffee and sit and read, if you can find someone to take the kiddo for a bit heh.
 
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oracle2world

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Make sure he is in a safe place, no sharp objects nearby, and let him have his fit. He will grow out of it or will need a shrink. Either way, there is not much you can do, so relax and let time take its course.
 
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Aqua_Girl09

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I've worked in a day care for 3 1/2 years now. i'm usually with the 5-8 year olds but i'm often put into smaller ages too. the SOONER you discipline your child the better.

my mom said when we were babies and we'd bite her while nursing she would pop us on the mouth. we only bit like 3 time and learned not to bite anymore.

since i work at a day care i know a million and one ways to get kids to listen without hitting them but spankings and pops i STILL feel are the best and quickest ways to get them to stop.

if they're not old enough to understand why they are getting hit then let them throw their fit until they realize that its NOT going to work. if they know better then GIVE THEM A REASON TO CRY! (like i tell my kids) lol. they're not even mine and i'll be LIVID if i EVER saw one of my kids on the ground throwing a fit. some of those kids respect me more then their parenst and that because I DON'T GIVE IN.

don't let their tears and hurt feelings and fits get to you. if it works they'll do it again and again and again. and i PROMISE it'll only get worse.

taking their toys away is a good punishment (not for longer then a week if they're under 8 cause they'll just forget about the toy)

putting them in a corner (two hours is too long. they'll learn their lesson after about 30 mins but if its something really bad add something else onto the punishment like after the corner tell them they cant' watch tv for the rest of the day. )

some kids are sensitive so just telling them that you're dissapointed in their actions is enough to make them feel bad.

ALWAYS make sure the child knows why they are in trouble. don't just go off at the mouth because then they can't correct their behavior. sometimes they REALLY don't know what they did wrong and just feel like you're being mean instead of correcting their behavior.

and NEVER be sarcastic with children. they don't get sarcasim like adults do. they'll just feel like you're lying to them. or being mean.

but what ever age they are its never too soon to teach your children that they can't have everything they want. it might take a week (once took a month of fits with a 5 year old) but they'll eventually get that its NOT going to work punish them after that so they know not only isn't not going to work. i'm gonna get somthing taken from me.

also if a child is quietly throwing their own fit LET THEM. even YOU get mad. they're not trying to be disrespectful they're letting out their emotions. don't tell them to "fix their face" or "stop crying". thats just being mean. they're hurting even if its for the wrong reason. they'll get over it soon enough too.

being a parents takes a lot of pacience. its come with practice but you'll be a million times more happy that you took the time to learn about your child and walk them through things instead of just telling them what to do and expecting it done.