At what age can you start training your child out of fits???And how do you go about doing that - WITH love????
and without getting overly- mad lol
If you mean tantrums that sometimes happen when a child is two years old, then I know what you mean. One of the reasons kids have these is because they are tired. They run out of steam and get frustrated and don't have the skills to communicate that to an adult. Try and see if it makes a difference, by making sure the child has a good meal, a warm bath and a chance to sleep during the day. I also did my best to give the little ones my attention and give help them help when trying to communicate with me. I also allowed them to express their feelings which seemed to help them.
One of my kids saw another child throwing a tantrum in a store and seemed to think it was a good idea (much older then 2). He threw himself on the living room floor and kicked and yelled. I made the decision to throw myself down next to him and do the same.
He found this so hilarious..we both had a good laugh over it. He never tried it again.
That made me laugh!.......wish I could have tried that with my first kid. He would throw tantrums and go blue in the face to the point of collapse, it used to frighten us terribly, we tried everything we could think of but nothing worked. I thought maybe that he became accustomed to the attention he received when he did this, so one day I decided to try a different approach much to the disagreement of my wife. He started his tantrum and when he started turning blue I picked him up and told him to stop it and put him in the bedroom and closed the door, my wife at this time was almost having a tantrum herself but I told her to calm down and relax. I stood by the door with my ear pressed up against it and listed, I could hear him completely lose his breath and everything went silent, I got very afraid and wondered if I had done the right thing. a few moments of silence passed and just as I was about to burst in the room I heard him take a big breath and cry, I waited, he cried for maybe 5 minutes then settled down. I opened the door, he was calm and picked him up, hugged him and told him that we loved him but that what he was doing was not nice. The tantrums stopped from then on.
Now this worked for us, maybe because the way we did it I don't know. Some may say that it was too harsh....it worked. I must add that although my wife was totally against it and she was really scared for his life, I had all the confidence that it was in Gods hands.