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Just wondering if I am free to date/marry again- biblically speaking.
After getting pregnant out of wedlock my former spouse and I got engaged and happily lived together and had another child and what seemed to be the perfect little family. 4 years later I began pushing a little to "tie the knot" and then my spouse, at the time, seemed to start pulling away from me and our family. He started to never be home and out late night's until 3-4 in the morning. He refused to tell me where he was or who he was with. In the end I found messages from from another woman and on them meeting up. However she was married so he pulled the friend card and also stated there were others with them. I was still uncomfortable with their relationship so we ended things and he move out. Now. A year later he is still with her, now she is not with her husband and is now Living with her parents while sleeping over at his house sometimes. Now looking back, I did ask him to stay, my brother did set up Christian counselling for us that he refused to go to. I also at last minute begged him to stay and he could even keep his friend. There are always two sides to a story and he would say I didn't "allow him to watch the things he wanted, alway "nagged him to help out around the house" and other typical annoyances. I am beginning to think I had some major flaws that helped our family go to ruin. And if I didn't do these things, we would still be a family. I should also note he slept with my best friend roommate. When we first were dating but I did not find out until we were in a family together.
Some other random facts: we did attend church regularly, but stopped going for the year that this occurred in.
He was raised Christian but with a few other mixed in beliefs. I was raised w. Strict Christian morals based on the bible alone.
*disclaimer: children are involved and have been the center concern entirely, however this post is more about : am I able to freely remarry based on "divorce" is only acceptable if adultery is involved. However it is unclear if adultery took place. Also we never married but promises and engagement took place and according to a few different councillors, it was marriage in Gods eyes. Phew sorry if hard to follow!
After getting pregnant out of wedlock my former spouse and I got engaged and happily lived together and had another child and what seemed to be the perfect little family. 4 years later I began pushing a little to "tie the knot" and then my spouse, at the time, seemed to start pulling away from me and our family. He started to never be home and out late night's until 3-4 in the morning. He refused to tell me where he was or who he was with. In the end I found messages from from another woman and on them meeting up. However she was married so he pulled the friend card and also stated there were others with them. I was still uncomfortable with their relationship so we ended things and he move out. Now. A year later he is still with her, now she is not with her husband and is now Living with her parents while sleeping over at his house sometimes. Now looking back, I did ask him to stay, my brother did set up Christian counselling for us that he refused to go to. I also at last minute begged him to stay and he could even keep his friend. There are always two sides to a story and he would say I didn't "allow him to watch the things he wanted, alway "nagged him to help out around the house" and other typical annoyances. I am beginning to think I had some major flaws that helped our family go to ruin. And if I didn't do these things, we would still be a family. I should also note he slept with my best friend roommate. When we first were dating but I did not find out until we were in a family together.
Some other random facts: we did attend church regularly, but stopped going for the year that this occurred in.
He was raised Christian but with a few other mixed in beliefs. I was raised w. Strict Christian morals based on the bible alone.
*disclaimer: children are involved and have been the center concern entirely, however this post is more about : am I able to freely remarry based on "divorce" is only acceptable if adultery is involved. However it is unclear if adultery took place. Also we never married but promises and engagement took place and according to a few different councillors, it was marriage in Gods eyes. Phew sorry if hard to follow!
