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Tyke43

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My wife whom i loved so very much fell in love with a women. She says i did nothing wrong its not my fault. I did not want a divorce but had no choice. We had everything together two children a beautiful home. Now its all gone. I lived in a trailer last winter on my sisters property. I did buy another home for myself. My daughter was cutting herself my son full of anger as well myself. Just found my religion again or maybe never had. Im a hurting man that doesn't understand all of this. Why did this happen to our family. asking for help.

Tyke
 
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tenderhearted

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I so sorry to hear that you are suffering like this. A lot of things don't make sense in life. There's a lot of sin in the world and God gives people free will. Hang in there. Trust that God will use this situation for his glory. Pray for your ex-wife. It's seems like your kids are taking this really hard. Give your children the love and attention that they need right now. If you don't understand why this is happening, image how your children feel. Pray that God can give you the strength to forgive your wife. Don't lose hope in the LORD. He loves you so much and will see you through this. :)
 
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intercessorginger

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First of all I am sorry you are going through such trials, but you made the best decision in your life by making the choice to follow the Lord. He will not leave you and he will never fail you. It's not possible to answer why some things happen. We do make bad choices at times. It's possible your wife always had this bent toward a homosexual lifestyle. It's not your fault and you cannot blame yourself for this. You have two precious children who really need you and the Lord. He will help you and them if you give him your heart and follow him faithfully.
God bless you we will be praying for you.
 
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wonder777

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I'm sorry for what happened. Your ex-wife has fallen for a lie from the pit of Hell. Her and those like her are as much victims of the enemy as the rest of us. I can say this because my brother's a homosexual and I say the same thing about him. Just keep praying for her and hopefully she comes around to God. He weeps for those who fell for the lie like your ex-wife did. You can despise the sin, but don't hate her. I pray you find love again in the future.
 
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Tyke43

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Thank you all for your comments. I do prey for her. I'm not angry anymore,just really hurt. The tears flow even almost 2 years later.
 
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BarlyGurl

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I am very sorry for your pain... The answer of why is found in the scripture, that certain things will happen in the lives of mankind, you are not the first to suffer the trauma of a spouse turning away. Please be strengthened in Christ and rise above as your children need YOU and need Jesus very desperately. You have committed no sin for divorce as God Commands us to separate ourselves from unbeliever's... you are clean. Her actions are her's and please know they are no reflection concerning the man you are now as a new Creation in Christ... she has exchanged the truth for a lie... give this over to God entirely, that is your OLD life... and walk forward in NEW LIFE and focus on bringing your children to the healing place at the feet of Jesus... you have much work ahead... be strengthened.
 
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My wife whom i loved so very much fell in love with a women. She says i did nothing wrong its not my fault. I did not want a divorce but had no choice. We had everything together two children a beautiful home. Now its all gone. I lived in a trailer last winter on my sisters property. I did buy another home for myself. My daughter was cutting herself my son full of anger as well myself. Just found my religion again or maybe never had. Im a hurting man that doesn't understand all of this. Why did this happen to our family. asking for help.

Tyke
Sorry to hear that :( You know I hear about families and relationships breaking down all the time. You can't blame yourself for it. Only now try to build a positive life for your children and yourself. Get the new house going and move on with your life.

You only remain a victim if you let yourself remain that way.

You can still grieve the loss of your relationship, whilst building a new stronger life.

Build on some solid foundation for the future.
 
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GreenNnice

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A lot of good advice, bigtyke, that is right on with the truth of His Word, which, I suggest, you HEAVILY get your nose into now, your kids are still yoir kids and your ex-wife needs prayer but is a human being too, just like you, like all.of us, so, praying for you to just let the Lord cradle you now in His awesome hands that made you, from nothing into a something, through a woman, God bless you as you find Him more through this test that God's allowed into.your life. Be staunch like Job, not blaming God for what's happened but understanding God,cand His ways not our wayx and His thoughts not our thoughts, and, that God will priloduce greatness out of the toughest times of our life IF we have faith in Him. "... you follow Me. " John 21:22 :)
, I lead you besides still.waters and I will renew you , your spirit and your mind, and, I too will restore your soul . :)
 
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beth1

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Wow. My heart bleeds for you. I don't understand it either. I think the Devil uses homosexuality as a way to draw people into sin, and it has really become commonplace. Men who are married hook up with other men, etc. To me it is disgusting and alarming. The fact that it is so sinful and so anti God makes it even harder to fight because carnality is such a difficult sin to fight against. There is a website that is really intended for women, but you may find the information useful. It is called hopeatlast.com and it embodies Biblical principles you can use to bring back a spouse that has gone astray. It is contrary to everything that secular counseling teaches. I am trying these principles myself, but they are hard to stick to because my natural tendency is to confront and accuse. It is work! My husband is involved with the daughter of one of his longtime friends (she is 42 and he is 67 yrs old). She is a phone sex operator, and she knows exactly how to manipulate my husband. He has given her so much $$ that our home was nearly foreclosed on because he didn't make the payments. She does not care about me, or him, for that matter. She has drawn him into some really sordid stuff. Please pray for me also. Father, you see this man's plight, and You see that he still loves his wife. I pray for restoration and reconciliation of this marriage in Jesus' name, and for emotional healing for the children. You know that divorce causes great emotional wounds, but homosexuality, especially in a parent, brings so much confusion and shame. Please change the hearts of the women involved and give their hearts conviction. Turn this wife's heart back to her husband and the welfare of her children and release her from the carnal lust that has ensnared her. Thank you Father for allowing me into your Throne Room to put my prayer before You.
 

Lucy68

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Tyke, I'm so sorry you and your children are going through such a tough thing!! Yes, I can see how hurt you must feel! I pray that the Holy Spirit continues on healing your life and your heart...and your children's as well.

Are you attending a church? The love and support of other Christians can be immensely helpful!

I just hope that you see that you can have a very wonderful and meaningful life; that this hurt doesn't have to define who you are. Think of a goal that you can direct your life toward. Of course, our first goal should be a life with Christ in the center; but also, what can you go toward as a way of supporting yourself and doing what you like to do....something that you can get excited about.

May the Spirit lead you in this vision of the future :).
 
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Jordache

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I'm so very sorry that you are going through all of this. It is truly a tragic situation. Spousal infidelity is difficult in and of itself... same-sex infidelity is even more confusing. You are all in a process of healing, and this process feels like hell itself sometimes. Take a look at Desert Stream Ministry (without the s) and you will find much information that could perhaps help you understand your ex-wife a bit better. Also, divorcecare and divorcecare for kids are a great resource.
 

Elizabeth619

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This poem has helped me in some of my worst times. Maybe it will help you too. You're in my prayers.



One night a man had a dream. He dreamed
he was walking along the beach with the LORD.
Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the LORD

When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.
He noticed that many times along the path of
his life there was only one set of footprints.

He also noticed that it happened at the very
lowest and saddest times in his life.
This really bothered him and he
questioned the LORD about it:
"LORD, you said that once I decided to follow
you, you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why when

I needed you most you would leave me."

"My son, my precious child,
I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."


Give your burdens to the LORD, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall
Psalm 55:22

 

damombomb

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Mabe all this happened to get your attention and bring you back to the Lord
put him first and the rest will work itself out
Lord bless and lead you
 
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graceplusnothin

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sorry for your grief. hope your wife comes to her senses and comes back to you. hope you and children can overcome this great pain you have. but as bad as things may seam, i could be worse. you said "just found my religion again or maybe never had". hope you take this information without bitterness. but the christian faith is not really a religion...its a relationship between the sinner and jesus christ. i know how lousey you feel, but there is light at the end of the tunnel,and that light is jesus christ. with him we can overcome a bad job---bad health--or even a heart breaking marriage. please watch this videio on youtube. "most christians will go to hell-the graham formula".....this title may sound evil..but is sound bible teaching...about our lord and our salvation..please take time to watch it...i hope your wife comes back.and you wife and kids live a long joyful life..and this current trial will be just a bad dream....god bless you
 
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graceplusnothin

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sorry..did not want that part about p m'ing me...it go sent by mistake
 
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Tyke43

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Thank you all so very much for all your warm loving comments. Im not here looking for sympathy but its nice to know people care. Whats really hard is that i loved my life the way it was so much has changed for me im tired. But you all don't know the whole story. Let me explain. I was married for 17 years together for about 21. Then as you know In June of 2011 i finally found out about my wife. She did not tell me, but things were happening that my sisters noticed first. I finally took off with her phone one morning and what i read put me on my knees. She left 3 days later for a trip to the tip of cape cod pea town i guess they call it. It is a high homosexual area. She left me and the kids by ourselves. I was so distraught my 15 year old daughter had to hold me up. I could not be strong for them but they were for me. Also my daughter knew what was going on months before i did. She was told to lie. She said to my parents that she knew we were going to get divorced. Now for the double whammy. Not only did my wife go gay but my daughter outright claims she is also. She said she came out before her mother did. Another devastation. Then throughout the summer of 2012 she started cutting her wrists and stomach. She was in many hospitals and programs. She tried to hang herself with a bed sheet under her covers when the nurses came in every 10 minutes to check on her. During the meetings we had with the doctors, psychologists and social workers My wife had to have her girlfriend there each time and adding her input to the situation i could do nothing to remove her. It was only toward the end of my daughters stay that in a meeting they had me step out. 10 minutes later they sent my wifes girlfriend out of the meeting and had me come back in, at this point my daughter finally showed some emotion over all of this. This was her turning point she is now doing better.My wife and girlfriend fight terribly in front of the my kids to the point that they each at different times have called me to come get them. We have joint physical custody 1 week on one off.
My son does not believe in god and considers himself a atheist. He is 15. Can you all see the pain i feel. Never mind the extreme anger i had. The anger is mostly gone now for im now at my bottom. When this all unfolded i went into action while still in disbelief. I sold our home that we built 10 years ago. My parents lost about 40,000 on the apartment above our garage where they lived when they were not in Florida. I moved my trailer home from Maine set it on my sisters property hooked up power, cable, sewer, etc. Everything i touched was in slow motion. Moved all my things from our home into three storage trailers which i purchased. Was also in the process of mediation. Got a new girlfriend ( big mistake) lived in the trailer all winter. My son did not want to come back and forth at that time but my daughter did. Battled the daughter about the plugs or something that stretches the ear. Im a guy don't know all that. Got the biggest job of my life (Heating & Ac) the stress with my ex was no comparison to this job i did. This is about the time my daughter started cutting. Then in the spring i bought my new home outright thanks to this job. One thing that went right. The buying process was easy but overshadowed the fun by the divorce coming up in June. Then all the work i did to this home to move in. All this and more in about a years time. Can you see. Now that things have calmed down. Its hitting me hard. My life was my family and im now 44 cant start a new family now the way its supposed to be, i feel sometimes that i lost my purpose. I do take care of my children no drama here. My home is quaint and quiet and they like coming here. I know they love there mother so they wont leave her. But my son has threatened to do so. So i guess after all, i did grow stronger for my kids but now im at my bottom and have turned to my religion for some strength. Made my first confession in 29 years. It was very emotional one. I visited a Monk who is a ordained priest and lives alone in a Hermitage on the monastery When i got out of my jeep to see him i could barely walk i had so much sorrow. I confessed in front of him on my knees crying the whole time. I was given absolution and received after that. Something i would not do in church until i did my confession. I did not have to do any penance i think because he seen i was sincere. In prior meetings with him we talked about confession and he told me not to be afraid he has heard them all. Well when it was over he did not hear them all, there was a few new ones he said. Never was a church goer but have not missed a mass in a month since i started going. So now you all may have a better understanding of my situation. Don't mean to offend anyone if i did and please excuse my run or sentences or bad punctuation im a guy remember. There is so much more so much but i will leave it at this. Thanks again for all you inspiring comments i really do take them to heart.

Tyke
 

Lucy68

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I don't see how your last post would be offensive...you just explained more of your situation.

You have definitely had a lot happening within your family. Although I haven't had such extreme problems with my kids (and my spouse is a stable man)...I have had a similar experience with severe disappointment in that I put all my energy into trying to raise godly children but instead had to watch them turn their back on God. I considered this my 'life-work'...my purpose in life. And then to see that I failed was devastating. I'm learning a lot in this...mainly that we can't control other people, only ourselves. God does direct our paths if we follow the Spirit's leading but that doesn't mean that everyone else is going to follow. We all have free-will. There is a hymn that says something like 'even if I go alone, I will go forward'...I'm sure those aren't the right words but it's the same meaning.

Yes, this sent me into bitterness and resentment. Our human nature tends to think deep down that if we do so and so, then God HAS TO do so and so in response. God can and is definitely able to do anything but He lets free will operate.

I FINALLY realized that I was going to have to get rid of the resentment because I didn't like the kind of person I was becoming. And I want you to know that there is also a good place for you...it takes work and determination to yank up those weeds but the Spirit is willing and able to help you do that.

Will this guarantee that your family members get their lives straightened out? No. But you will be where you're supposed to be with God. An interesting observation is that my kids are beginning to realize the truth and I haven't even been talking to them about God or Jesus or the Bible. I've been in earnest prayer for them and I think that's the key. But before my prayers had much effect, I had to get myself right (with the Spirit doing most of the work).

Realizing that we aren't totally responsible for our family members is a very freeing thing...maybe mainly because it frees up the Spirit to work in their lives. "Life-experiences" can be very educational. We can talk to them until we're blue in the face about things that are harmful, but it won't make a bit of difference. They have to go through the pain first. It's terrible to have to watch this but we then know how God feels about having to watch His children hurt themselves in order to learn a truth.

Praying for you and your family. It may be that the only thing you can do is to show them love and pray for them. Showing them your love doesn't mean you have to approve of their lifestyle...we are to hate the sin and love the sinner (not always easy, especially with resentment of the past!). And be ready for when they come to you for advice or encouragement ...and don't bring up past hurts but help them toward a good future.

Others may not agree with this but if my son or daughter were living a life-style blatantly contrary to God's Word, I would not allow them to live in my house unless they really had no other place to go. I think our home is to be devoted to the Lord and if we allow a blatant sin into it, this would dishonor God. This is similar to Paul's teaching about church discipline for a blatant unrepentant sinner. Not only does it dishonor God but it's encouraging the sin. This would be a hard thing to have to do but depending on the circumstances, it may be best.

I don't know if this helps any...sorry it's long :(.

Praying for wisdom and guidance for your family.
 
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Soulsearcher2013

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Hi Tyke,

It may not seem like it but the main thing that matters is that you have turned to God now. It matters that you stay with that faith.

Concerning your children, that is a different matter.

We can do all we can but one of the hardest things for a parent is recognising their child's right, and indeed the necessity for them to follow their own path to God. Think about this, you have only just turned back to God now, if your Mum or Dad had tried to push you about it during your years of 'happy marriage' you would have probably ignored them. You needed to find your own way and so do your children. You might think that you are an adult and they are ‘just’ children but we are all children in the eyes of God. Take care of them physically and look after their well being, but only guide them spiritually, don't push them. God will be there for them when they are ready. TRUST. Also, you bemoan their lack of faith now and your daughter saying she is gay and lying for her mother, but what did you do to instil Christian values of honesty and integrity in them BEFORE your marriage broke down? You were equally responsible as their mother so ask yourself why they are behaving as they are now. What has your role in this been? Including jumping into a sexual relationship with a poorly chosen girlfriend, outside of marriage, what did that show to your children by your example?

Also, I see your situation is bad but I have seem much much worse, families torn apart by cancer and chronic illness, people who have had family members murdered and abducted. People who have seen their family shot and tortured. Be thankful that all of your family are still alive and that their problems are not far worse.

And although it is good that you have turned to God now, you should contemplate why you had to put yourself into this state of despair before you did. Many do turn to God ONLY when they are desperate, and God will never turn you away, but I have also seen those same people get complacent when the good times roll in again.

Unfortunately I also think you may be falling for the devil's trick of self pity and putting yourself into a victim role. That comes through in your posts, including your references to 'being a guy' and how you think people should make allowances for you, but you have made mistakes, everyone has, and your wife's mistakes do not lessen yours. You were happy to ignore your faith when the good times were coming, which if you're astute, you will see was one of your big mistakes. God gives you free will so that you may take responsibility for it, it is the big one so keep your attention on it!!! Other forces in the world constantly give you, and others, every excuse in the book to blame someone else for their actions, it’s everywhere, you hear it everyday, just read some news reports for a start, they are full of it, “He made me feel that way so I did that”, “I only did that for the money I needed”, “I was angry, that was the only reason I did it”, “well he lied to me first”, “I am unhappy so why should I care”, “I’ve had a bad life so why shouldn’t I? The media and society constantly bombards people with a message of blame and non responsibility.

I notice you say about forgiving your wife, but what about whether you wife should forgive you? Somewhere along the way you played your part, or were you absent for all those years? And if you were emotionally absent, what part did that play? Your wife has obviously sought gay sex with her new partner but fundamentally people are driven by love, why did she feel she needed to find that outside of the family? You were avoiding a Christian life for all of the years of your marriage so it’s not really a surprise that your wife thinks it is OK to be the way she is, should she forgive you for encouraging her onto an ungodly path all those years?

Also, you said your daughter is self harming and you blame your wife for it through the breakdown of the marriage, but many children do not self harm despite being through the break up of a family, including through a gay parent, so what you have to ask yourself is why doesn’t your daughter see that the harm she is doing to herself is being done to God? Why isn’t that so deep in her understanding that she would never harm herself for fear of harming her relationship with God? Why wasn’t she brought up to know that by you teaching her that?

You said in one of your posts that you did not come here for sympathy, so I hope you don't take this post the wrong way. Again, if you really have turned to God you will see my post the way it is intended. The truth can hurt but you can't heal without it my friend.

Be with God.
 
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Tyke43

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I'm not afraid of responsibility and have taken much more than you know. I could easily rebut most of what you have commented on but will not knowing that you do not know all of the circumstances regarding this matter. And its also not like i just found about about my wife yesterday and came running to God for help, Its been almost 2 years. Nobody pressured me into searching out my religion or God it was done on my own free will. As far as my daughter is concerned she readily admits the reason she cuts is because of this matter. How would you as a child feel to see your mother laying on top of the another woman on the couch making out in front of her never mind the intense fighting that goes on between them. I remember my daughter telling me the story of her mother and girlfriend kissing while she lie in a emergency room bed. Pure Evil!! But whom am i to judge. Most people brought up not having religion or going to church in there life is not necessarily there fault you. And it is sad that this is what it took to get me there. Yes i know my faults and can admit my shortcomings. But my wife also had free will. And she choose her path. So i will leave it at this. Yes many more families have been through more. But unless you have experienced what others have you never really understand. Many of my family members say Tyke! your doing so good, you got another house, work is real busy, you have a great girlfriend things will be better for you now, she is no good move on and get over it. And you know what i say to them. I say. I understand that you don't understand. I do appreciate your input and will ponder the points you made.

Thanks Tyke
 
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My wife whom i loved so very much fell in love with a women. She says i did nothing wrong its not my fault. I did not want a divorce but had no choice. We had everything together two children a beautiful home. Now its all gone. I lived in a trailer last winter on my sisters property. I did buy another home for myself. My daughter was cutting herself my son full of anger as well myself. Just found my religion again or maybe never had. Im a hurting man that doesn't understand all of this. Why did this happen to our family. asking for help.

Tyke
I am sorry to hear of your pain, and can see you and your wife are not walking the narrow road with Christ, or have come to a saving faith, God is a God of mercy, but you have your part to do, and if your wife was or considers herself a saved follower of Christ, she is NOT!

You need to let go of her, focus on your family, and most importantly your walk with Christ!

Your wife is serving her flesh and satan I am afraid, and this is what the false church is producing today, you need to repent, and get right with God first, then be a strong light and example to your carnal wife, and also to those you love, you may loose everything, but you will gain your savior back, and eternal life! Jesus came to divide the sheep from the goats, so you must be a sheep, as the goats are on the wide road to perdition!

A Call to Repentance
Joel,2-12 “Now, therefore,” says the LORD,
“Turn to Me with all your heart,
With fasting, with weeping, and with mourning.”
13 So rend your heart, and not your garments;
Return to the LORD your God,
For He is gracious and merciful,
Slow to anger, and of great kindness;
And He relents from doing harm.
14 Who knows if He will turn and relent,
And leave a blessing behind Him—
Here is more strong proof what the lord requires of His creation to be reconciled to Himself, it’s very simple but made so complicated by the heaps and heaps of pastors and ministries who have the nerve to say mankind does NOT have to repent to be saved.
They come with a simple plan that was concocted by many reformed preachers and bible scholars, making the way to the cross more of a simple confession you are a sinner, then accepting the great substitution Jesus miraculously made for them, but they fail to give any proof that the word of God let alone the King of Kings taught this non sense!
Many will fight with all they have to preserve their man made doctrines including original sin, which then gives them many excuses to ignore the powerful verse above as well as many more strong warnings to repent, turn, come broken in heart before the mercy seat, and hope and pray God will grant pardon!
Now if this was being preached in the church system today, and well understood by the saved in sin defenders, then the mess Christianity is in today would not be so, instead, the word of God would become real, and powerful, converting the lost soul, once in love with sin, rebellion and the world, now cleansed and purged of all filthiness, and wickedness, ready to receive the implanted word of God!
But today these verses are totally ignored, and replaced with a sin message, undermined by many, many, reformed errors, where simple repentance is lost in a sea of original sin, imputation, substitution, OSAS etc, producing a church that was called poor, blind and naked by Jesus Himself!
2 Corinthians 6;17 The.refore
“Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.”[d]
18 “I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the LORD Almighty.”[e]
Act 26:20 But to those first in Damascus, and Jerusalem, and to all the country of Judea, and to the nations, I made known the command to repent and to turn to God, doing works worthy of repentance.
Tommy
PS. We must come to Jesus on His terms, not mans, I know many are taught the opposite today, they either were indoctrinated into these teachings at an early age, and refuse to even search the scriptures, search what the early church taught, or dig deep to see just how far off the mark many liberal translations of the Bible are.
When the reformation came about, around the year 1500, many denominations were formed that took these errors and built on them, leading to what we have today! Many will profess anything different from what their beloved denominations teach is heresy, and a lie, especially those who cling to Calvinism, or any form of it.
This I understand, and accept, as God predicted this would happen, when the few remnant come with the truth. But it’s a bitter pill to swallow, when you see so many sincere people, young and old, so angry and upset when the truth is presented to them, and they attack the messenger.
To me this shows just how far off the mark they are in their minds, they love the lie, refuse to hear anything else except the born sinner, Jesus sub plan, made so famous by the likes of Billy Graham, Ed Young, and many more mega preachers, selling a gospel that is totally backwards from what the early church and Christ taught.
Are we full of pride and arrogant to say these things? Are we evil, uncaring, and full of hate when we confront the wall of deception accepted as truth today?
I guess I can also say this about the many who cling to the saved IN sin message, repeat after me crowd, who has every excuse why they can sin with impunity, then just confess, and then continue as a vile sinner in heart, where purity and separation is a pipe dream never to be accomplished in this life, even though the whole council of God is against them.
Dig deep as commanded, have some confidence in the Lord to lead you into truth, not some ministry or church pastor you support, who clings to these errors for whatever reason.
The gospel according to godliness is a TO DO gospel, which can only be received and understood in its form and context when the sinner wakes up and does this:
James 1-21-22;
21 So get rid of all uncleanness(repent) and the rampant outgrowth of wickedness, and in a humble (gentle, modest) spirit receive and welcome the Word which implanted and rooted [in your hearts] contains the power to save your souls.
22 But be doers of the Word [obey the message], and not merely listeners to it, betraying yourselves [into deception by reasoning contrary to the Truth].!
1, You repent first and foremost, see 2 Corinthians 7-10-11.
2, Then if the repentance is real, and from the heart, godly sorrow as described in 2 Corinthians, you then can receive the implanted word of God, and understand it as written by God.
3, Now you become a passionate doer of the word, obeying God from your heart, cleansed and purified, broken and willing to learn and grow more, and more in His great truth.
 
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