Need Help, Christian with Atheist Parents!

[SarahLovesJC]

Alright so obviously I'm a Christian and I have Atheist parents. Lately it has been very stressful for me, trying to live with people who have completely different views. They are pro-abortion, democrats, and atheists while I am against abortion, a rpublican, and a Christian. And its not only that, they also don't forgive, especially my mom. I can ask for her forgiveness and she says "I don't feel very forgiving right now". She doesn't realize how much it hurts when she says that. My dad thinks that your not supposed to say sorry to be forgiven. Now, my parents don't get along very well and my mom is always expecting us to be perfect. My Christian bestfriends says that its "her way or the highway".

I just need some advice. What do i do? I know that things will get better but i want to know how to stop the pain. Does anyone else have/had anything like this? If you have, what did you do? Its been really bad lately and I have gone from starving myself to over eating and I can't stop crying. I love my parents so much and I try so hard to listen to them and be perfect like they want but i just can't win . They don't understand and it hurts me. It hurts that my mom is so bossy to my dad and that she can't forgive. That my dad thinks saying sorry doesn't mean being forgiven. They think they raised me to be how I am now but looking back on it, I was a very terrible and selfish person before I met God. I really just want my life back, to be able to go a day without crying, and to stop starving myself and then over eating. I find comfort when I read the Bible and pray but is there anyway to solve this? Do I just have to live with it? Is there something I can do??

I'm really confused and hurt. Thank you for youe advice.

 

[HeIsNowHere]

I suggest you start with the book "Without Excuse" as this book explains why there is a God from information science. The first book In the Beginning was Information is also great. Get these and discuss these books with them. Information science and coded universal information is the achilles heel of atheists. All life contains myriads of coded information and life cannot exist without it. Matter and energy cannot and have not every produced code based information. So where did the information come from in life? It had to be a creative genius of geniuses. There are other books like Creation Facts of life for you to use.

 

[Nautilus]

Well I'm completely unsure what their political affiliation has to do with christianity or atheism, but the best you can do is live the christian lifestyle and be forgiving even if they aren't. Sure you might be painful but you have a new source of strength to draw upon. The best you can hope for is for them to see how becoming a christian has changed you and hope they decide the same.

 

[Jeshuvan]

Hi,God Bless You.First of all u r 2 love your parents with know conditions.As u have come 2 the truth and light=
Jesus and salvation,they r still in darkness and do not know the truth.Also your war is not against your parents=flesh,its against spiritual wickedness in dark places,meaning the devil working through your parents.Ephesians 6:10 u r at war with spiritual strongholds.U need 2 pray immensley 4 them and realize that God is going 2 use u 2 lead them eventually 2 him,just have faith know matter whats going on,God can work great miracles.The devil always works at stealing our peace and joy if we let him and most of the times he uses people closest 2 us.Just stay on your Journey and relationship with God.Jesus puts up with us and always forgives us.God never promised the journey with him would be smooth sailing,but he will provide us always with a safe landing.Jesus is always 4 us,so no one can be against us and be victorious. Amen Jesus and I love u.Remember u r very young and God has a great plan 4 u. John

 

[DavEtheBravE]

Honor your parents the way they are and forgive them. You have to forgive them but you also have to listen to them, because there you parents. Pray to God for guidance and wisdom for dealing with your parents and he will give you a clear guideline and vision of what you should expect from you and your parents relationship.

Stay Blessed

 

[Lucy68]

Hi Sarah,
That is WONDERFUL that you have given your life to Christ!! Welcome to the family .

Whether it's parents, siblings, relatives, or friends, you will find that a Christian worldview is going to result in some level of animosity when it comes up against a 'love of the world'. Jesus said we can't serve two masters...we have to choose between Him or 'the world' (which is Satan essentially). We either love Him, or love the world. It's just human nature. He also said that the world will hate us (Christians) because it first hated Him. By NO means am I saying that your parents hate you...I'm sure they love you VERY MUCH. But if you have a different worldview then you will see things differently. Like forgiving instead of holding onto resentment. The Bible says to honor and respect your parents and you definitely sound like you do...God will honor that .

Will they allow you to attend church? You can find other like-minded believers there and get support and guidance as you strengthen your relationship with Christ. And definitely bible study and prayer in your room will be a great benefit to you .

Praying for you....wisdom, strength, guidance, and patience...keep in mind that many people become Christians in non-Christian homes. It is possible to find a way to live in harmony with non-believing parents.

 

[Tommy4Christ]

Alright so obviously I'm a Christian and I have Atheist parents. Lately it has been very stressful for me, trying to live with people who have completely different views. They are pro-abortion, democrats, and atheists while I am against abortion, a rpublican, and a Christian. And its not only that, they also don't forgive, especially my mom. I can ask for her forgiveness and she says "I don't feel very forgiving right now". She doesn't realize how much it hurts when she says that. My dad thinks that your not supposed to say sorry to be forgiven. Now, my parents don't get along very well and my mom is always expecting us to be perfect. My Christian bestfriends says that its "her way or the highway".

I just need some advice. What do i do? I know that things will get better but i want to know how to stop the pain. Does anyone else have/had anything like this? If you have, what did you do? Its been really bad lately and I have gone from starving myself to over eating and I can't stop crying. I love my parents so much and I try so hard to listen to them and be perfect like they want but i just can't win . They don't understand and it hurts me. It hurts that my mom is so bossy to my dad and that she can't forgive. That my dad thinks saying sorry doesn't mean being forgiven. They think they raised me to be how I am now but looking back on it, I was a very terrible and selfish person before I met God. I really just want my life back, to be able to go a day without crying, and to stop starving myself and then over eating. I find comfort when I read the Bible and pray but is there anyway to solve this? Do I just have to live with it? Is there something I can do??

I'm really confused and hurt. Thank you for youe advice.

Remember, Jesus never promised a rosey path for His true saints, your parents have made a decision to turn from God, and serve their flesh, BUT you young lady have a choice!

It wont be easy, Jesus came to divide the sheep from the goats, the dark from the light, and those who truly sek HIm over the lip service crowd who thinks they are saved because they said the sinners prayer, and are still in bondage to sin and the world.

Jesus said you would be hated by all for His name sake, BUT you must endure to the end, and He also said your love for Him and His truth should be your utmost priority, where your love for your family pales in comparison to your love for Him, and this is not a passive love, it involves repentance, obedience, forsaking the love of the world and its vain attractions, seek comfort in His word, and get right with God first, as you then can be a good witness to your family.
I know many walking the narrow road are in your same position especially with family, past friends, and the lukewarm church people, who live as the world, and claim to be saved!

Counting The Cost!



For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it— Lk14:28



In Luke 14 the Lord explains Very Clearly in what manner MOST people will FAIL to enter the Kingdom of God. They simply Will Not Count the Cost! Jesus said time and again that entering through the Narrow Gate to eternal life would require Great Effort. To STRIVE and Dig Deep was the very essence of His Gospel Message. But there’s not a Preacher alive today anywhere who consider this the Message of Salvation. Rather they sell the Gospel as a FREE invitation into eternal life with Pre-forgiveness of sins and Nothing required but to Believe.



This Method has filled up the churches, but also has given us Masses of Professing Christians without a CLUE what it means to follow Jesus. Even more disturbing are the awakening remnant, who SEE the dilemma, at least in part, and still refuse to go all the way with Christ. They agree that the present day churches are reprobate and in gross error, but remain on the side lines, watching and waiting for some mysterious sign from heaven to prompt them to take action. Although it’s difficult to judge their motives as to why they lack the urgency clearly revealed in scripture, you can’t help but see the results of their neglect in disobeying the Commands of Jesus.



Obviously, even a casual reading of the Gospels will confirm that Christ Expects FAITHFUL Service from His Disciples. Repeatedly He warned them they would encounter the hatred of the world and especially the Religious establishment. They would face constant opposition from family members, friends and loved ones. In spite of it all they had to ENDURE to the end to be Saved! Stand fast in the Truth, bear their own Cross daily and NEVER regret that they embarked on the Narrow Way. ALL THIS is Cleary Written (recorded) for our admonition, to Heed, IF we are to inherit eternal life. God has entrusted His Disciples with talents and given them the responsibility to produce fruit for His Kingdom. Failure to DO these things will result in ultimate loss at the Judgment.



BUT NO ONE is telling you any of this in the Churches! Far as most of you are concerned you’re on the Fast Track to heaven no matter what. You are absolutely clueless when it comes to Contending for the faith, exposing the Wolves in Sheep’s clothing all around you. All because you REFUSE to Read your Bibles! And even if you do it’s with a clouded understanding based on your Doctrinal slant. Consequently Obedience to the Truth is OUT of the question in most circles. Unless it’s some kind of blind adherence to Pharisee like rules that have no advantage over the indulgence of the flesh. But with MOST Professing Christians, ANYTHING Goes! Self Denial for Truth is FAR from their Minds.



Jesus said specifically that Following Him was exclusive of everything else. If need be you must be prepared to disown your family members, spouse and friends. Without exception Christ’s Disciples are to have no permeate attachments with the things of the World. But today the Church is the WOLRD|! People would not attend unless the programs and activities were entertainment based. They Pose as wholesome family orientated amusements, but NONE of it is focused on Truth or bringing people out of their sins. How anyone whose eyes are open to the reality of the situation can remain inside the System is beyond reason! It’s like being n league with the Devil.



In the Bible we find Saints striving to maintain a Clear Conscience and Pure Heart. They were told that was the PURPOSE of the Commandment and the Doctrine that is according to godliness! Today the so-called Christians in the churches take great pride in having a defiled heart. They boast in being the Chief of Sinners and Wretched man. Everyone admittedly sins daily in thought, word and deed and believes it humbles them to be vile. Yet the Bible says that Sins HARDENS the heart not humbles it! No Wonder most professing Christians have a seared conscience. They have sinned with impunity for so long, the natural defense mechanism God has created in every person (to accuse or excuse them) is Gone!



Could anyone WALK in the Righteous Requirements of the law, or KEEP themselves Pure in the Love of God, Resist the Devil and Maintain a Clean heart when they are Sinning daily and disobeying the Commands of God? Certainly Not. BUT this is what they are taught! And they argue for it.

This is Why no one is Counting the Cost, or Repenting of their sin. They act as though Jesus went around telling people they were forgiven in advance, eternally secure and declared Righteous for receiving Him. You must always remember that the pastors inside the system are Convinced everyone attending their church is already saved. So if someone comes along and starts telling these people they have never counted the cost or truly repented of their sins is automatically a BAD person.



Counting the Cost means Opposing Traditional Doctrines. Pulling Down the Strongholds of Lies surrounding everything the people are hearing in the religious world. The Cost is the Loss of friends, family members, business associates, and colleagues. It’s exposing the hypocrisy and calling out the sins! It’s being unpopular, disliked and even despised by people who consider themselves pillars of the church. Finally it’s losing your life for His Sake and cutting all ties with the world. They will call you Beelzebub and do everything within their power to rid the churches of your presence. You are the Enemy.



The Professing Christian Systems of the World have NEVER been receptive of the Truth. The Cost to them is what they can Gain by Greed, conflict or theft. They will willingly go to War, but NEVER Contend for the Truth! They will grab for all the riches the world can provide, but NEVER store up the true riches in the Kingdom. They will win the favor of multitudes with flattering speech and great swelling words of emptiness, but NEVER Demand that Repentance be Proven by Deeds. To them the Bible supports the fallacies and Myths they preach and teach. They really believe sins are forgiven in advance and Jesus Obeyed for them! It’s a foregone conclusion that everyone is born a sinner, hating God, and must be Saved in their sins. So everyone in the System is sitting around Waiting for God to Change their Desires and make them stop sinning, thinking they are saved!



The Reality is NO ONE is Preaching the Real Gospel. WORLD WIDE the so-called Christian System is Presenting a False Image of Jesus to the people and multitudes are buying into it. MOST people have Never even been exposed to the Truth and wouldn’t Know it if they heart it! As the Bible so rightly says: They have exchanged the truth of God for a Lie and gone under Strong Delusion. BUT they think they are of the Light! They Turn NO ONE from their iniquity and make the heart of the Righteous Sad. The Great Religious System built on shifting Sand will come crashing down with all its phony pundits. They Cry Peace today, but soon they will face the Judge. God help you awaken to truth before the Bell tolls. www.standingthegap.org

 

[Batman007]

Have you told your parents any of these things? This really sounds like a conversation you guys need to have. Be open and honest about your feelings. Tell them how what they do impacts you; they may have no idea, and you can't expect them to change if they're unaware.

 

[icehorse]

Sarah, you are conflating ideas. In other words, you are mixing and blending concepts that really are not related to each other or dependent on each other. For example, as an earlier responder mentioned, politics have nothing to do with religion. It seems as though you live in the U.S. For those of us who live in the U.S., we are extremely fortunate that in our country religion is guaranteed to be protected from politics. So start by focusing your thinking. Perhaps you have several different issues with your parents. That's quite possible. But your religious differences are separate from your political differences. You'll make more progress in general if you keep your thoughts on one topic at a time.

 

[hattiebod]

Alright so obviously I'm a Christian and I have Atheist parents. Lately it has been very stressful for me, trying to live with people who have completely different views. They are pro-abortion, democrats, and atheists while I am against abortion, a rpublican, and a Christian.
I think someone else replied here saying you need to try and separate out the religion from the politics. Bottom line is your parents do not believe what you believe...yet!! so you need to pray for them!! You cannot expect them to subscribe to your Biblical world view. All you can do is trust in God, pray and be loving, respectful and communicate clearly with them. You say they do not 'get it'. Maybe try talking to them? explaining, not in the heat of an argument though, gently, without condemnation, how you feel?
And its not only that, they also don't forgive, especially my mom. I can ask for her forgiveness and she says "I don't feel very forgiving right now". She doesn't realize how much it hurts when she says that. My dad thinks that your not supposed to say sorry to be forgiven. Now, my parents don't get along very well and my mom is always expecting us to be perfect. My Christian bestfriends says that its "her way or the highway".
Again, maybe you are looking for forgiveness in a way that your parents do not understand...and just cannot give and by asking, you are annoying your mother? Your beliefs are now 'foolishness' to them. Look up Galatians 5:22-23 The fruits of the Spirit are a challenge to us, but through the Holy Spirit in us, we can let them grow and develop! you are forgiven by God, instead of pushing for forgiveness from your mother, just be accepting of your forgiveness from the Lord, repent when you do wrong and through your walk He will convict you and help you to live humbly, loving your mother and father, giving you peace in this. As you grow in your relationship with Christ, your parents will notice changes in you, your behaviour is your biggest witness to them, not what you say. God will give you the grace to accept their parenting style, try to spend time with them, doing things together, giving you time to talk things through.
Its been really bad lately and I have gone from starving myself to over eating and I can't stop crying.
What you do to your own body cannot be blamed on anyone else. If you are struggling with over eating / starving yourself, you need help. If you cannot speak to your parents, is there another adult you can talk too? Look in your Bible too, see how loved and special you are to God, how he has such plans for you, you are His special child. I know that may not be enough right now, you may need someone to walk through this difficult time with you in person, if you cannot speak with your own mother, do think who you could approach...a friends mother? someone in your church, youth leader?
I love my parents so much and I try so hard to listen to them and be perfect like they want but i just can't win . They don't understand and it hurts me. It hurts that my mom is so bossy to my dad and that she can't forgive.
You are a young girl, you are not responsible for your parents relationship, nor can you make them understand how their arguments etc affect you. You have no control over them, or anyone else...but you do have a say in what you do and you have the strength of God to call upon. Keep loving them!! because no parent is perfect and I am sure they love you too! <><

 

[leelee]

Oh honey! this is not a nice situation to be in and I do know how difficult it can be when your parents don't understand your beliefs.
I agree that you need to seperate your isiies but I do want to remind you that nobody is perfect. You are not but neither are your parents or me or anyone else here. We all have difficult times and do silly things but you have God on your side! He will not leave you. Be the best that you can be and show your parents what God is doing in your life. Talk to them, be honest and frank but not criticizing. Forgive them, you are only punishing yourself by not. And talk to God, He always listens.
Surround yourself with your brothers and sisters in Christ and let them help you. If they allow you to go to church can I suggest you seek out one of the pastors and talk to them, they should be able to guide you and help you.
Good luck and if you want a chat I completely understand difficulty with parents, I had them too but now both parents accept me for me.

ps. sorry for any typos, my phone hates me.

 

[nonicknametouse]

Hi, Your are so young to be going through this, but the Lord can and will use you for His kingdom to help others in your situation. I have a family that are not believers and you can't take this burden of their unbelief on your shoulders. Read Matthew 11:28,29 and 30. He knows what you are going through and he is carring you through this situation. Learn all you can form Him and trust His word with all your heart. Do you go to church and can you speak with your pastor about this. I would love to mentor you and be your prayer partner if you would like. Pray about it and get back to me,ok. God loves you so much and you are not alone in what you are going through.

 

[Jordache]

Alright so obviously I'm a Christian and I have Atheist parents. Lately it has been very stressful for me, trying to live with people who have completely different views. They are pro-abortion, democrats, and atheists while I am against abortion, a rpublican, and a Christian. And its not only that, they also don't forgive, especially my mom. I can ask for her forgiveness and she says "I don't feel very forgiving right now". She doesn't realize how much it hurts when she says that. My dad thinks that your not supposed to say sorry to be forgiven. Now, my parents don't get along very well and my mom is always expecting us to be perfect. My Christian bestfriends says that its "her way or the highway.
first, my dear, you are not alone. Christian or not, we've all dealt with family like this. I want to encourage you to not view their opposing opinions as the evil. People are not evil because of their political stance. There are plenty of Christians with unpopular political leanings. second, forgiveness is between the one who needs to forgive and God. If you hurt your mother and she chooses not to forgive, her choice doesn't affect you. It may hurt, but she also has every right to say she doesn't feel forgiving. Let her. You say right with God and let Him deal with her on her unfrgiveness.
Your dad is correct. Forgiveness is on the side of the person who needs to forgive, not the one who needs to be forgiven. God will always forgive you.

I just need some advice. What do i do? I know that things will get better but i want to know how to stop the pain. Does anyone else have/had anything like this? If you have, what did you do? Its been really bad lately and I have gone from starving myself to over eating and I can't stop crying. I love my parents so much and I try so hard to listen to them and be perfect like they want but i just can't win . They don't understand and it hurts me. It hurts that my mom is so bossy to my dad and that she can't forgive. That my dad thinks saying sorry doesn't mean being forgiven. They think they raised me to be how I am now but looking back on it, I was a very terrible and selfish person before I met God. I really just want my life back, to be able to go a day without crying, and to stop starving myself and then over eating. I find comfort when I read the Bible and pray but is there anyway to solve this? Do I just have to live with it? Is there something I cando?"
you are young and I wish I could tell you how to stop the pain. But I've learned that if you stop it, it only hurts more later. You must go through it. I hear your hurt, but trust God and he will lead you.

I'm really confused and hurt. Thank you for youe advice.[/QUOTE

 

[Earlmayknowornot]

Young lady, My heart sorrows for you. But I say to you don't give up. Obey your parents as long as it is biblical to do so. Do not provoke your parents to wrath. Rather show them the love that Jesus has planted in your heart. Go out of your way to please them and when they ask and they will why are you doing this say because I love you and Jesus loves you to. If there is anything an atheist doesn't understand it is love. Keep seeking the LORD He will guide you and give you peace.

 

[DannyC]

Young lady, My heart sorrows for you. But I say to you don't give up. Obey your parents as long as it is biblical to do so. Do not provoke your parents to wrath. Rather show them the love that Jesus has planted in your heart. Go out of your way to please them and when they ask and they will why are you doing this say because I love you and Jesus loves you to. If there is anything an atheist doesn't understand it is love. Keep seeking the LORD He will guide you and give you peace.

'If there is anything an atheist doesn't understand it is love.' Foolish statement.

 

[surprisingrose]

Sarah, Jesus loves you. I gave my heart to Jesus at a very young age and I lived in a home of abuse. My parents didn't serve the Lord either and I live with constant critizism. I grew up always putting myself down. I wasn't one to cry too often, I knew it didn't change anything. Unfortunately the church I attended had no clue of what my life was like and they didn't take me under their wings to teach me how to live for Jesus. I had the word in my heart from going to Sunday School and the sciptures I did know were a comfort to me. Everybody has coping skills when dealing from hurtful homes. My skill was to live in denial and I use my big imagination to help me cope. I walked away from the Lord when I was 13 and came back to him at 19, at that age I had a church who did take me under their wings and help me know how to live for Jesus and Jesus began a work of healing in me. You can't change your parents only God can do that. The best thing for you to do is to ask Jesus to heal you. There is a verse in the bible that says, "Casting all your cares on him for he cares for you." That mean Jesus wants you to give these cares to him and trust that he is big enough to take care of you and what concerns you.
Look up scriptures to build you up of how Jesus sees you, like Psams 139:14 "You are fearfully and wonderfully made." That's how Jesus sees you. I hope you are going to a church that will love you and take you under their wings and help you know how much Jesus loves you.
Ask Jesus to help you to know how to live for him. The best thing you can do is to live for Jesus in front of them and realize they are lost and carnal minded which means they cannot comprehend or understands God's way of doing things. It's not on you to get your parents saved that is on Jesus. They love him in front of them. Jesus is your helper ask him to help you in everything in your life, from the big to the small.
I did have one day when I was eleven when I was alone in my bedroom and cried out to the Lord that this was too much for me and his sweet presence surrounded me and lifted all the weight and concerns I had on my shoulders from living in an abusive home. I immediately felt totally lighter as if I didn't have one care in the world and I didn't because Jesus took them that day. It still wasn't easy living in that home, but even when I went away from Jesus his love never left me. Sarah, he won't ever leave you or forsake you. Hold on to that promise. I'll be praying for you that Jesus will heal on the wounds in you heart and that he will lift all the cares on you shoulder, will you pray the same. I am a christian, republican, and pro-life too, I'm proud of you sweety that you hold on to what is right, Jesus is proud of you too. Keep it up, hang in there, Sweety, with Jesus in your heart you have enough hope for a life time. Think on the good things. Surprisingrose

 

[devekuth]

ever hear the term "highly sensitive person"...I bet that's you. You connect with others to the point of being empathetic. You feel others pains more deeply. You are greatly affected by the dissonance in your home. Two questions I'd like to ask: Do you have any siblings...and 2.) are your parents abusive or immoral? Give your parents the freedom to be who they are by researching MORE DEEPLY WHO YOU ARE. It may take some counseling from a pastor or youth leader...or even a mental health professional, to help you separate who you are from who they are. Remember...it's impossible to change another person, only G-d can do that...but you can develop coping skills that help you feel content with who you are and who you want to be.

 

[my_adonai_]

whenever tough situation come in, and offenders come in. trying to knock us off our ""happy place"", although tough but what we can do is lean on Christ, having faith in HIM. always and whenever patience is trying to run out, we just ask HIM to fill up the meter again. You can trust GOD for anything, and even the slightest of bad feelings just lean to him sis. you might hear contradictory statements to the word of GOD, dont be harsh to judge or conclude, just lean to HIM.
READ the word of GOD daily, asking that GOD reveals His son to you, and you will see how such offenses are things we MUST FACE no matter where we hide our faces at, they will keep coming, but when the devil attacks through your parents, we have the wings of the most high to protect us.

Psalms 57:1 Be merciful unto me, O God, be merciful unto me: for my soul trusteth in thee: yea, in the shadow of thy wings will I make my refuge, until these calamities be overpast.