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    My husband and I have not spoken in 3 days. I told him if its gna keep being this way lets get a divorce. And he doesn't care I think he's having an affair. He doesn't care if I talk to other people, or if I sleep around. That would hurt me if he did it. Why am I gna stay in this marriage any longer he doesn't love me :'(. I have no where to go I don't have a place to go. I just wish I never met him and never married him. Why would he marry me if he doesn't care about me. I just hate life right now. This life sucks!

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    Bgirl,

    will pray for you, draw near to The Lord and seek comfort and guidance from him about your marriage

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    I wanna serve GOD but when someone cuts my heart to the point I don't feel nothing I can't even think about GOD right now. I'm just supposed to sit here and let my heart rott while my husband is happy that he's causing me this pain and he's gna keep doing what he's doing while I sit here and my heart just feels like I'm being stabbed continually. I have no help no one will tell him nothing. He has no heart he has no feeling he laughs at everything I say. I hate this life it's so unfair. We love and give all our freaken hearts out to love and this is what we get! I don't care about anything so how can I pray to GOD how can I draw near to him when I just feel hate! And rage! :'(

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    I can feel yourpain ive been where you are right now lean on GOD and any other close friends that love you

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    Hi bgirl. I know it's hard but you gotta keep praying. Pray for your husband. Ask God to comfort your heart and give you tongue filled with wisdom so when it comes to a convo with your husband, God is speaking thru your mouth. Praying for you bgirl! Stay strong and don't give up in your marriage! God will lead you...
    But God can be funny at a cocktail party when listening to a good God-themed joke, or when the crazies say He hates us and they get so red in the head you think they're 'bout to choke. God can be funny when told he'll give you money if you just pray the right way and when presented like a genie who does magic like Houdini or grants wishes like Jiminy Cricket and Santa Claus. God can be so hilarious. Ha ha Ha ha

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    I will PRAY that jesus may touch your husbands heart

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    Praying for you friend. Praying that God subsides the anger, frustration, and disappointment in your marriage. I know you are frustrated now...but God is greater than our storms, disappointments, trials, bad marriages, drug addictions, and sorrows. Asking God for peace in your life, so you can start the process of healing your mind & marriage..in Jesus name.

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    You are giving this man the power to hurt you. He may be your husband, but you belong to God first and foremost and no one should have the right to bring you so down. I don't want to say the wrong things, but think of yourself and your needs more, and let him come second, at least for a while and think of who you are and what you want.
    "A moderated religion is as good for us as no religion at all—and more amusing."
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    Hey,

    I know your pain. Would be happy to help u deal with it. I been married almost 34 years.....God has helped me and still is. Sometimes it just helps to vent....but with Gods help u can have some peace and the joy He wants for all his children.
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    Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. Colossians 4:6

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    was in similar situation. i was the a quiet man. my wife responded exactly as you did. so i suppose your husband may have had a similar mind to mine.
    we had a quarrel my wife and i and she said many hurtful things probably because she was not trying thru to me. bad move cause i then froze having been confused by her emotions. could gain with her and felt she was not being careful. i felt pushed away and that she was not valuing our marriage. but anyhow i now needed something in order to know that we could relate as friends again. trust was lost. i forgave butt trust wasn't there.
    revise what transpired in the near past and assure him you love him and need him. probably there are some bonds that were damaged and need you to open the door again. he is just sulking.
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    Thank you all for your prayers and encouragement I have a lot to think about. I really appreciate it.

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    I am in your situation right now for almost 17 yrs. My husband nver been faithful to me since the day we are married..but i keep holding on for the sake of our children. The love i felt for him is not the same anymore bcoz i been hurt a hundred times.. but i believe God has a reason..i need to be strong for my children's sake. ... let us keep our faith that He will be rewarded with much love by Jesus
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    dear sister,
    how are you today?i hope you are feeling better now?i saw your post and my heart went out to you.please be strong for these reasons;
    1.God loves you so much.He still loves you,love yourself more and learn to love GOD MORE.
    2.God is your first lover and he will be a husband and a comfort to you when you realise this strong fact and accept it.
    3.God will not fail you,He will always do whats best for you.
    PLEASE put away every grief,anger,hatred and bitterness you carry for your husband,it wont be easy but you can.Focus on the Most High now and HE WILL give you the comfort love and peace you need so much now.you are blessed and your distress also concerns GOD.He has not forsaken you.remember that if you come to Him as you are repentant,full of faith and belief,He will make you the apple of HIS EYE.TRULY,GOD IS LOVE!
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    Dearest Bgirl

    I am saddened to hear this, my heart full of love goes out too you. I shall pray and think of you for the next few days, I shall pray that you find happiness and comfort, please remember we are all here to be tested, just think of it has a way to be a better person, rise above him and I promise good shall come out of it. God bless child.

    Love to you sister.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bgirl1231 View Post
    Thank you all for your prayers and encouragement I have a lot to think about. I really appreciate it.
    Let me share a little of my testimony. My life isn't God's Word... but I hope some things from it will help you in your discouraging situation.
    From the time I found out what sex was I wanted it... and I let the desire to experience sex control my life. Such desire to experience sex led me to being a cyber sex queen, a cam girl, and eventually a Christian society reject. I was even expelled from a Christian college because I was so obsessed with the idea of sex. I remained a virgin, but my mind was not innocent. Not long after leaving college I met the man who is now my husband. After a few months we met, and all of my dogmatic reservations about having sex before marriage flew out the window the first time I laid eyes on him. He was everything I thought I wanted: popular, fun, appreciative, attentive, and built. Who could not be happy with that, right? Then, after moving in with him, I found out that he was addicted to gaming and watched porn. Suddenly I was stomping around the apartment and grumbling about being lonely. He still gave just enough of himself, however, that I decided we were making progress. When he asked me to marry him I dreamily agreed. Then the boom was lowered on all my hopes of courtship, dating, being coddled, and "fixing" the man I thought I loved. A little plus sign on a pregnancy test. I was six months pregnant when we got married and was so full of hurt from being neglected and having so many unmet expectations. His gaming got worse... and so did the emotional abuse and hints of physical abuse. As a single mother I became a lioness... demanding he sacrifice his wants for his Family without taking into account with compassion that he'd never known his father and didn't really know his God. I started entertaining thoughts of an affair, which only led to more problems, more discontentment, and more mumblings of divorce. I was the one to introduce the D word and gave my husband the same ultimatum. He too withdrew into himself and would often refuse to eat what I cooked; refused to speak to me; and even refused to sleep at home or in our bed. Now, three years later and 2 rounds of divorce court God has brought together again what no man could put asunder. You may give up on your marriage, but God won't. In His eyes you are still married and always will be. Who cares if your husband is having an affair. You are responsible for YOU. Don't let unmet expectations shadow the love you have for your savior. He is the one that brought you together as a married couple and He is the one that redeemed you from your bondage to sin. Choose it. Live it. Love it.
    “It is funny how mortals always picture us as putting things into their minds: in reality our best work is done by keeping things out.”
    C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters
    http://www.monergism.com/thethreshol...o_gnostic.html

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    That's great advice bgirl. (from mammachickadee) And not much more need to be said.

    But I so recommend "Love Must Be Tough" by James Dobson (...a Christian classic)

    Basicly, you've got to re-establish yourself as the prize, if you want your marriage. (Which you don't at the moment, I know, with all you feel - but over on the "d" side is not the answer you think it would be.) Like mamma says You are responsible for you. If you get the support of friends around you can talk to and let it all out, but present to him someone who knows what she believes, is too much an awesome woman to stoop to rubbish behaviour and if he's not up to it I little time apart might help, he should come round.

    You ARE awesome. And God bless your marriage, through our redeemer, Jesus Christ.

    Love to you, from us all.

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    Praying for your broken heart .

    The only thing we can do with broken hearts that will get them mended in the right way, is to take them to Christ. He cares about your hurt...very much. But before He can help us, we have to turn ourselves over to Him completely. It's like going to a doctor ...we have to tell him all of our symptoms and trust that He knows best and then follow His prescriptions for our healing.

    When you say you can't even pray....that is when you really need to. Don't let hurt and resentment turn you away from God....this is EXACTLY what Satan is trying to do to you. I'm not calling your husband 'Satan'....though he can be influenced by the evil one (as we ALL can). Use this as an opportunity to develop a Christ-relationship. People will always let us down, but our Creator never does. He loves us with an everlasting love that even looks past our sins once we accept Christ as our Savior and follow His ways.

    Our most painful situations can be stepping stones to heaven...IF we react the right way.

    Take your rage to God and get that under His control. Then after prayer and bible reading (especially the gospels...I like to start in Matthew), go to your husband with calmness and try to talk to him about the future of your relationship. Be ready to admit your errors also. None of us are guilt-free when a relationship suffers.

    Praying for you both....calmness, forgiveness, love, and open hearts to Christ's leading. Attending Church together can really be helpful. The love and support you get there plus hearing God's Word preached can be very powerful!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bgirl1231 View Post
    I told him if its gna keep being this way lets get a divorce. And he doesn't care I think he's having an affair. He doesn't care if I talk to other people, or if I sleep around. That would hurt me if he did it. Why am I gna stay in this marriage any longer he doesn't love me :'(. I have no where to go I don't have a place to go. I just wish I never met him and never married him. Why would he marry me if he doesn't care about me. I just hate life right now. This life sucks!

    I don't think you should get a divorce over this. My husband and I have not spoken in 3 days. Can you really read Matthew 5, Matthew 19, and I Corinthians 7 and think that it is right for you to divorce him over this? I Corinthians passes on a commandment from the Lord, "Let not the wife depart from her husband."

    This may be the way he reacts to a really bad fight. Or maybe he's treating you that way to discourage you getting emotional with him, or even to provoke it. Some men will act that way if their wives are irritable, always snapping at them, or being a bit dramatic.

    Did you have a big argument about three days ago? Think of your part of it. What did you do that wasn't right, if anything? Wives are supposed to respect their husbands and submit to them. Did you do anything you shouldn't, like raise your voice at him, insult him, or call him names? He may have acted badly to you, but 'own' your own mistakes and sins. Ask God's forgiveness, and ask his. Then pray together about it. He may actually soften up and apologize. And next time, don't let any argument between you continue on until sunset. The Bible says do not let the sun go down on your wrath.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bgirl1231 View Post
    ... He doesn't care if I talk to other people, or if I sleep around...
    Please, I hope you do not sleep around. When all else fails do not lose yourself you are precious in God's eyes.

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    be strong and lean on god

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