WILL THINGS EVER GET BETTER?

[lcerveny]

I have said before that I surrendered to the Lord on Nov 12, 2008. Since then I have worked hard at repairing my relationship with my daughter with God's help. For the most part my daughter has been gracious and forgiving...........or has she? She will still sometimes bring stuff up to hurt me. She is not saying she was hurt by what I did but she knows I will feel bad about it which I still do. Actually, I shouldn't feel guilt and/or shame anymore because Jesus forgave me....but it seems my family and even my own daughter won't move on. How can I not keep from feeling guilty if they keep reminding me?

This is a cycle that keeps going on and on. Were good for awhile and then she starts an argument. Or she asks for my opinion and once I give it to her she does not like it and gets mad at me.

I have no doubt she has been hurt by my past drinking problem and my heart breaks a lot whenever I think about it. I wish she would seek help like I did and talk about the hurts, fears, ect....and move forward.

I have told her I can no longer be on this roller coaster ride with her. I will not allow her to disrespect me anymore. This sick behavior has to stop. Am I wrong?

 

[damombomb]

Have you asked her to forgive you so mabe she can heal.

 

[lcerveny]

Yes we have talked it to death and she said she forgives me. Maybe she needs to ask the Lord to help her forgive me and to be healed?

 

[J-Kay]

“May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and by his grace gave us eternal encouragement and good hope, encourage your hearts and strengthen you in every good deed and word.” 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I am giving you a couple of scriptures to read and
hold onto when you feel the enemy coming against you.
I don't know what to say that can help things change. I do know it came to mind she is using
manipulation by her actions. Only you know the reasons behind her actions toward you. I do
know as a mother, nothing hurts worse than to lose that connection with your child. There is
a quote I always heard, "they step on our toes when they are little, and step on our hearts
when they are big."
Whether she forgives you or not, is going to be up to her. You did all you can do.
On the spiritual side, I would personally take some oil, I use olive oil, but the other will do.
I would go to the door of my house and touch the door and pray to Jesus and ask Him to bind
the enemy from being able to enter. I ask for His peace to reign. I know the times I have had
in past when I knew during our family get together, we needed peace, and would bind the spirit
of conflict..
You aren't wrong in asking her to respect you. And you do not have to grovel for her or your
family forgiveness. As you said, You know Jesus has forgiven you. Also, playing Christian music
helps bring in peace. I am sure others will have better answers to give you. But I ask the Lord
to help you find your peace and be able to shut out all the negative .
God bless you.~ I will pray for you and your home situation ~

 

[damombomb]

Yes we have talked it to death and she said she forgives me. Maybe she needs to ask the Lord to help her forgive me and to be healed.

Mabe tell your family when they bring it up that you are not going to put up with it, draw the line or they will keep doing it.
Or just say, you don't know the half of it, but I have been set free and forgiven

 

[storm09]

Things will get better. This is life for a christian, people will always bring the past to hurt you. Even your own family. I've been there though and what I have to say is be strong! x.

as for your daughter? well don't give up on her because from my own thinking she is rebelling against you, and rebellion my friend is sin, there is a curse for rebellion (unless she repents). So instead of being angry at her: pray for her to forgive nad to respect you.

I was a rebel to my parents, I changed because every time I purposefully try to hurt them, they always in response had something good to say, when I was sick in bed I would wake up with them on my bedside laying hands on me praying. Its like they never gave on me.

So I'm thankful for that.

Your not wrong though, its good you told her that you do not allow her to disrespect you, maybe you should of said that in the first place.

Don't think about the past if it hurts you, you are a new creation, old things have passed; behold all things are new.

Things will get better just not as fast as you want it unfortunately lol

 

[lcerveny]

Thank you everyone your comments helped a lot God bless you.

 

[Sanashankar]

it will be there for sometime. i remember my brother getting angry with my father. Father asked him forgivance, but he bings the matter whenever my father advises him abt anything in his life....slowly things started changing..now they are like gud friends. He never speaks abt it anymore. Everything will be fine. Just give ur daughter some time. And show the love which u have for ur daughter. God bless u