Is it possible that I've just been missed or overlooked?

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JLH

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I am really at the end of the road here. I am feeling like there is no point and I am actually considering just ending it all which is a sin in itself so I am conflicted. I'm so tired. I'm 39 years old and I can honestly say not one good thing had happened to me with the exception of my children in all those years. I have never felt true love. Every man has either used me or treated me like I am disposable. I have never had a friend in my life. People in general are mean and no one wants to be bothered with me (not even people at any church I go to). I have some major health issues. I am a failure. All I do is fail. I am afraid that since I was not meant to be anything or even a functioning person that this will carry over to my small children. I blame myself that I guess I am not good enough to be blessed or to even live any sort of a good quality life. I try to do everything I am supposed to. I pray. I have surrendered everything to God. I have asked for forgiveness. I try to be a good parent. What else can I do? Do I just keep living this way? Should I just somehow understand that this is what it is? Was my life meant to be nothing but struggle, pain and heartache? Is it possible that maybe I am just not important to God at the moment? Maybe my children and their father would be better off with someone else in their lives.​
 
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Richie_2uk

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We are all failure's. and its thru our failures we sin. I am sorry to hear that you have been thru the mill sort to say and in some point still going thru it. As we all Christians. But this also reminds me of Job, If you have not read the book of Job. please read it, you be surprised what he went thru and still came out Good. Why? because he was still thankful even with all the bad he went thru. there is nothing in the bible that says we will go thru life without any struggle. Of course we will. its the way the world has gone from the start. and without sounding a bit negative here, but its our own fault.

But Jesus has opened a way thru it all. How? Well pray, be thankful, believe in God, and be faithful. However you feel how hard it is. just do it. God knows your troubles. but how is he going to help unless you show him some faith and belief and pray to him about it? I' not saying you haven't, But there is something lacking in your prayers maybe?
 
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JLH

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See what I am mean? No one cares. Thanks anyway guys. Moving on.



Thanks for the reply at least Richie_2uk .
 
Yahshua

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JLH said:
I am really at the end of the road here. I am feeling like there is no point and I am actually considering just ending it all which is a sin in itself so I am conflicted. I'm so tired. I'm 39 years old and I can honestly say not one good thing had happened to me with the exception of my children in all those years. I have never felt true love. Every man has either used me or treated me like I am disposable. I have never had a friend in my life. People in general are mean and no one wants to be bothered with me (not even people at any church I go to). I have some major health issues. I am a failure. All I do is fail. I am afraid that since I was not meant to be anything or even a functioning person that this will carry over to my small children. I blame myself that I guess I am not good enough to be blessed or to even live any sort of a good quality life. I try to do everything I am supposed to. I pray. I have surrendered everything to God. I have asked for forgiveness. I try to be a good parent. What else can I do? Do I just keep living this way? Should I just somehow understand that this is what it is? Was my life meant to be nothing but struggle, pain and heartache? Is it possible that maybe I am just not important to God at the moment? Maybe my children and their father would be better off with someone else in their lives.​
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Well you've got a friend now...and there's nothing you can do about it. :) I'll show you true love; and there's no truer love than the unconditional love taught to us by Christ.

So JLH, I'm curious about the title of your thread here; have you ever understood the gospel of Christ like I explain it in this thread? I know, the linked thread is talking about a subject unrelated to yours, but aside from that I'd like to know your opinion on what I explain Christ actually did for us on the cross; whether this is what you've possibly overlooked. I can't be sure, but if this IS missing from your understanding it may make a world of difference in your perspective.

Let me know if you need me to explain it more clearly for your situation.
 
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overcomer2

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Your message is so full of despair. When one member of the body hurt we all hurt. You are right about taking your life. One way ticket to hell. Thou shalt not kill includes you.

You sound like you have a spirit of oppression on you. I can get that at times. Keep pushing and striving. Get a tapes of the word and let them just play in the house all the time. Amazing what that Word can do.

I will be praying for you tonight.
 
windspirit

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To have a friend, you need to become a friend. :heart:

Take time to volunteer somewhere, where you can meet other ladies. Show kindness and it will be reflected back unto you. Don't ever give up. Ending your life would be the most selfish thing you could ever do in your life and would hurt your children every moment of the rest of their life. (p.s.) I friended you on here. Just hit accept :)
 
mystdancer50

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Wow. I am so sorry you feel this way. :( All I can do is offer you the simplest of truths:

You are passionately loved by Jesus Christ.

I know you're thinking, "Psh, yeah." But, really, you are. Don't let the darkness of the enemy prevent the light of His love reach you. There are countless examples in His word about His love. Psalm 45 says, "The King is wild for you!" (the Message) and we all know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Did you know that you were designed with a purpose? Did you know that your smile lights up God's day?

It would be hard, here, in a forum, to truly help you enter into the rest of Christ's love for you. I have been where you are, alone and unloved and sorrowing, and only the amazing love of Christ could pull me out.

I have been single my entire life, have no children, and have no friends, and yet I have joy. Why? Because I have Christ and I have tasted and seen His goodness, I have understood a mere sampling of the depth of His love for me.

I pray that you experience His love for you. If you'd like to PM me, please do. I will gladly be your friend here, since we don't live close enough for me to be your friend in person...if that makes sense. :) I check my mail constantly and, though I take a day or two a week to fast from internet and won't check on those days, I will check the next day. :)
 
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ServantStrike

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JLH said:
See what I am mean? No one cares. Thanks anyway guys. Moving on.



Thanks for the reply at least Richie_2uk .
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Sometimes it takes time for you to get a response. Please don't confuse that with no one caring.

I don't know what to tell you other than at least be happy with what you do have. You have children. You don't have the option of of ending it all any more, and you never did to begin with. And it sounds like their father is still in the picture so too, if so then you're already in a better place than many. A perfect place, probably not, but unless you're living in a cardboard box with rabies, then you still have something to be thankful for.

Chronic illness can and does happen. Not everyone gets healed, and I can't tell you the rhyme or reason to it, but I assure you God has a reason, and it isn't necessarily you as much as it is about you - as in you'll be blessed in some other way. All I can tell you is that I've learned God can and DOES bless people for sticking it out, and I promise you even if you don't feel like He's doing it for you here on this earth, He will when you're in heaven.

I don't really know how to advise you. I don't really know any of the details of all of this, but stick it out. And if you post more, perhaps we can help more.
 
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evenatthedoors

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JLH said:
I am really at the end of the road here. I am feeling like there is no point and I am actually considering just ending it all which is a sin in itself so I am conflicted. I'm so tired. I'm 39 years old and I can honestly say not one good thing had happened to me with the exception of my children in all those years. I have never felt true love. Every man has either used me or treated me like I am disposable. I have never had a friend in my life. People in general are mean and no one wants to be bothered with me (not even people at any church I go to). I have some major health issues. I am a failure. All I do is fail. I am afraid that since I was not meant to be anything or even a functioning person that this will carry over to my small children. I blame myself that I guess I am not good enough to be blessed or to even live any sort of a good quality life. I try to do everything I am supposed to. I pray. I have surrendered everything to God. I have asked for forgiveness. I try to be a good parent. What else can I do? Do I just keep living this way? Should I just somehow understand that this is what it is? Was my life meant to be nothing but struggle, pain and heartache? Is it possible that maybe I am just not important to God at the moment? Maybe my children and their father would be better off with someone else in their lives.​
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children has been the only good thing to you ? whatever happened to Christ dying on the cross for you ? Isn't it simple when you put right things first ? Put Christ and lo, you have your answers. It is specifically for you and this life that you are leading, that Christ paid for. Not just cared and loved, but paid in full. And you owe it to Christ, every moment you live.

Your worth is not of the children born of you, but you born of God. How easily do we miss things of above and look for happiness in things visible ? Isn't that the vice of all beginnings ? No life for which Christ died is vain even in its fleetest moment. If you want to know your worth, know by Christ and how He died for you. You are not just important to God, but you are His everything. Thats why He gave up His everything for you. There lies all your answers, and should you have any more questions, i am around to help you pick yourself up again.

Remember, you are not giving upon yourself but upon what Christ did for you.
 
Angela53510

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First, there is nothing more damaging to children than the suicide of their mother. So just take that off your list.

Second, you are very depressed. You need medical help. See a doctor, and find out if you can get something to lift your mood and maybe some therapy.

Last, I am going to be honest and tell you that most people find it hard to be around a "Debbie Downer". People are selfish, yes, but if you make the effort to put on a happy face, and smile, you will win more friends than if you are always in a state of despair. I've been very depressed in my time, and your black and white thinking leads me to think that you have some mental issues that need medical help.

It is not all or nothing. God can take your world and turn it into a bright and shining star! That is what he did for me. Please read that gospel presentation. Start reading your Bible. And find some Christian music you like, and play it when you feel bad. I did that for years, and it pulled me out of a very deep depression. Here is one to start!

[video=youtube;XQan9L3yXjc]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XQan9L3yXjc[/video]

Praying for you to find Jesus and his peace and joy and new life in him!
 
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nw2u

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Search for each tiny good thing that happens each day and say "thank you" in prayer. One little thing adds to another. In time, you will find it easier to find the good things that happen. Sometimes they are small and other times they are great.
 
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