My Sister cheated on her husband and wants the family to accept the other guy

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svdbygrs

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My family is going through a lot and I need advice as to how I should handle this . PLEASE!! My sister has been with her husband for 10 years and always seemed very happy , we are a very close family . We love her husband and he is a very good man. 1 month ago My sister started a new job and started to act very strange , not showing up for work , very angry ,just very rude and closed up to us . One day her husband calls around to each of us her siblings and asks if we have talked to her because she has not been home in a week and he finally decided that he needed help . I had seen my sister 2 X that week and she said nothing to any of us .We decide to confront her on the phone because no one knows where she is ,She flat out refuses to tell us but informs me that she is done with her marriage that it is not what she wants anymore because my brother in law does not tell her he loves her and give her attention and that she has found the love of her life and wants to be happy and if no one can accept him she will walk away from all of us and we have to sever all ties with her ex because if not that is taking his side and are against her . I love my sister and want her in my life but i love my brother in law he is more like a brother . My sister is acting like a spoiled brat . I know her husband is a good man I have seen it I use to live with them and saw them everyday . Please help us .
 
JimJimmers

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I hate to say it, but there's not a lot you can do. I don't think you should cut off contact with your brother-in-law. If she wants to take that as taking his side, by all means let her go get mad at everyone. She's spoiling for a fight, because she knows she's doing the wrong thing.
 
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svdbygrs

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Thank u for your advice and if U would please pray for my family i know we don't know each other but we really need prayers
 
JimJimmers

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Absolutely. I will pray. But it may be that your sister will be allowed to go down this path for a time. She ultimately is in charge of her own life. God bless. -JIM
 
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colalella2891

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Since I don't have the experience or the wisdom to give you any kind of advice on this, all I can do is pray. And I will. It sounds very stressful though, i'm so sorry this is happening to your family.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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I agree that you should continue to support your brother-in-law, and what is right. She is in sin and "siding" with her will only enable her to continue sinning. Hard as that sounds, I'd stand firm. I'm sorry this happened. She will probably come to her senses once the obsession has worn off and real life sets in. How much damage she'll cause in the meantime is up to her, and there isn't much you can really do about it other than standing firm and not supporting her terrible choice to leave her family this way.
 
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svdbygrs

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Thank you I really appreciate the sound advice and prayers .
 
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jimmydiggs

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She is an adulteress. Don't break off communication with the brother-in-law as has been said. If she breaks it off, then so be it, you've done the right thing.
 
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Alicia

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It could be that this affair will run it's course and the other man will get tired of her or that she will realize what a decent man her husband is. I think you should support your brother in law although I am going to say that only the two people involved in the marriage know what's really going on. I'm certainly not saying your sister is justified in what she's doing if she's having trouble in her marriage she should have talked to a therapist, now that there's a third person involved it becomes so much more complicated. Pray for your sister even though it may seem hopeless, God is there by her side just waiting for her to let him guide her.
God bless.
 
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GraceBeUntoYou

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Do not break ties with your brother-in-law. It sounds as if your sister is acting like the victim, and the way she is behaving is totally inappropriate. By giving her family an ultimatum ("you do this or else"), she is ultimately trying to take it hostage. If she loved you as much as you loved her then I doubt she would even consider breaking ties. Let her know she doesn't have your support, and hold firm.
 
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:hrmm: as it is written
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Pahayag: 20. 12. And I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God; and the books were opened: and another book was opened, which is the book of life: and the dead were judged out of those things which were written in the books, according to their works. 13. And the sea gave up the dead which were in it; and death and hell delivered up the dead which were in them: and they were judged every man according to their works. 14. And death and hell were cast into the lake of fire. This is the second death. 15. And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.

~;> TELL THIS VERSES UNTO YOUR SISTER ASK HER
IF SHE FELLS ANYTHING AFTER YOU TELL HER AND TELL HER ABOUT HOW SHE WILL SUFFER IF SHE WILL NEVER CHANGE
BECAUSE OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST OUR SAVIOUR
THE ONLY BEGOTTEN OF SON OF GOD
SAID THIS BEFORE
as it is written
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Marcos: 10. 5. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
6. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
7. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
8. And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
9. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

:ty:

godbless us all always
 
blue_ladybug

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This is a three year old thread, and the OP hasn't been online since October 2013. AND many who posted aren't here anymore.. Please don't pull zombie threads forward...
 
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WarriorForChrist

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blue_ladybug said:
This is a three year old thread, and the OP hasn't been online since October 2013. AND many who posted aren't here anymore.. Please don't pull zombie threads forward...
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This almost proves some people don't read posts in the thread
 
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patriotusa

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He loved us while we were still sinners...Pray for her redemption...
 
blue_ladybug

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blue_ladybug said:
This is a three year old thread, and the OP hasn't been online since October 2013. AND many who posted aren't here anymore.. Please don't pull zombie threads forward...
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Zombie threads

Lol
 
Fenner

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I'm nosy and wish she'd post an update.
 
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popeye said:
I'm thinkin I might have you figured out.

You drive a blue vw beetle,don't you?
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oh yeah, and sometimes it changes colors, of course according to the course!:rolleyes:
 
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