my husband passed three weeks ago of 32 yrs how do i get through this

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nanasmith

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my name is nanasmith my husband passed away night time is the hardes to get through need someone to chat with
 
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Painter

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Wish I knew how to comfort you nanasmith. Married 15 years and can only imagine 32. God Bless you. You will see him again. I pray God gives you the strength to bear the pain and comforts you in the meantime.
 
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nanasmith

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i will be strong and get through this with the lords help friends and family and my church thank u for your kind words
 
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You will see him again; I just know it with my heart. It's time now to wait on God to show you the way to finish the work you need to do here. Focus on God. He'll embrace you with the Holy Ghost. God Bless.
 

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God bless you,

I just saw this and hope you have had company. I can not imagine your loss.
If you want to pm me or just talk here I'm available.

Love you,
lexi
 
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Sarahm

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Oh wow I'm so sorry for your loss !! May god give you strength, and peace !!!! Your not alone even when you feel that way ! God never leaves us ! I recently watched my nana pass and I'm not trying to compare this to your loss !!!! Just no it's hard and god is our strength I'm glad you no you will be together again !!
Keep in touch with fellow friends , church , pray and pray and then pray some more :)
god bless you in this time of hardship xxxxxxxx
 

kim12345

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sorry, do you have a support group at your church for widows. Other ladies that have been through what you are going through? You must have had a good marriage
 
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Karraster

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Nana I'm so sorry..words can't express. It will be difficult for sure, but hold on. This life is filled with tragedy but then also the sun rises again and we must pick ourself up and put one foot in front of the other. Do you have children? If you do I hope you comfort each other and if you don't I pray there are some you feel very close to. Talking about him may be the best way to get thru it, we're here for you, keep checking in with us please. Loosing a mate affects every aspect of your life and so be encouraged that you have made it thru the first weeks. One day at a time, sometimes minute by minute..God be with you~remembering you in prayer~K
 
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nanasmith

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thank u so much i have a 9 yr gradson that i adopited and 3 grown children and 3 grown step kids and 7 grandchildren.i hold on to God with all my might my church friends and family i know God has a plan for me
 
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Karraster

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Hi Nana, it does help to have kids who look to you for strength. Actually it makes you be strong for them, doesn't it? How you doing today? Get any sleep last night?~K
 

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God never asks more of us than we are able to bear. God will make a way for us to get through what ever lies before us. All we can do is trust Him.

See this as an opportunity to know the presence of God in your life in a very special way. The more difficult the path the more we must hold onto His hand.

For the cause of Christ
Roger
 

Angela53510

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The death of a spouse is not something you just "get through." Instead, allow yourself to grieve, to get counseling help and support and let those who love you comfort you.

I have also been married as long as you, and I know it would be so incredibly hard if I lost my husband. Praying for you to find help in people and in God. But never feel bad you are hurting. God understands the loss of death, so reach out to him, and tell him everything you feel. He will understand.
 
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my name is nanasmith my husband passed away night time is the hardes to get through need someone to chat with
As others have already said nanasmith, recovering from such significant loss is not an easy task, I know. You are still young at your age. in fact I was getting married at 32 myself. To be honest, I cannot say that I know how you feel or I understand how you are affected by the loss of your husband. But I certainly know you are deeply grieved and you indeed need recovery. May the greatest comforter, the Holy Spirit comfort you.
However, I want to encourage you that taking actions leading to your recovery will require your attention too- your open mindedness as you have done here, willingness and even courage. One thing I can say is that the first step is to get away with the thought that makes you not accept the loss. You have to accept this great loss in your life, and be willing to finding new meaning in life. If you find this helpful, post in my inbox for more that will help you my sister. I grieve with you.
 
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My wife is ill and I went to God in my pain, God told me this: When I said the two become one, that is throughout eternity. That I should look forward to the day our spirits are intertwined as one in the euphoria of peace and tranquility our spirits have always found together.

my name is nanasmith my husband passed away night time is the hardes to get through need someone to chat with
 
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My wife is ill and I went to God in my pain, God told me this: When I said the two become one, that is throughout eternity. That I should look forward to the day our spirits are intertwined as one in the euphoria of peace and tranquility our spirits have always found together.
I am sorry woodartdon. I seem not to understand what you mean by the whole statement above. may you explain so that i learn and understand better. I am asking because i believe if it is in the kingdom of God, we shall almost not know each other as a husband and wife (Matthew 28:28-31; Revelation 3:12). I would suggest nana need to be comforted with the word of truth which she can live by as a Christian. I understand we shall see each other as the saints but certainly not as husbands and wife.
By this, I mean, it is okay if nanasmith can mourn over her husband's loss knowing they will never be together as a family anymore. I am sorry. i did not mean to diminish your post, but rather, help one another in helping the grievers to heal by the truth of the word of God.
 
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I can imagine the warm memories and tears. though good tears and a love that isn't gone forever.
God bless you Nana.
 
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First, Matthew 28 only has 20 verses and as for Revelation 3:12, how do you understand us not knowing each other from this verse? Your anger should not give you the felling of superiority necessary to the finish of your statement. Clearly I find over and over again that the traditions of man make the word of God null and void or as the original script reads "The traditions of man make the word of God as though it never has been. Before we add to the word to make it say what we want it to say, we might want to consider the warnings in the Bible about doing just that. Did not the Lord Himself say that the two become as one before God? And what is wrong with looking forward to a gift from God rather then being content with the outcomes of this world?

I am sorry woodartdon. I seem not to understand what you mean by the whole statement above. may you explain so that i learn and understand better. I am asking because i believe if it is in the kingdom of God, we shall almost not know each other as a husband and wife (Matthew 28:28-31; Revelation 3:12). I would suggest nana need to be comforted with the word of truth which she can live by as a Christian. I understand we shall see each other as the saints but certainly not as husbands and wife.
By this, I mean, it is okay if nanasmith can mourn over her husband's loss knowing they will never be together as a family anymore. I am sorry. i did not mean to diminish your post, but rather, help one another in helping the grievers to heal by the truth of the word of God.
 
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my name is nanasmith my husband passed away night time is the hardes to get through need someone to chat with
Cry a lot, mourn for him, read the book of Job and pray heavily for strength, grace and mercy to endure the seemingly unendurable. Jesus can comfort you and strengthen you sister.
 
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seashorechurchofchrist

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lord will guide u , pray more
my name is nanasmith my husband passed away night time is the hardes to get through need someone to chat with
 
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kenthomas27

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I heard a story once that helped me. There was a "lost" time I had gone thru, a dark period that I think back on and liken as the "dark ages" or the period of time where intellectual reasoning, plan making, all the emotions of a carefree life don't exist. But this story (which took a lot of imagination - which I have) was a story of hope. Hope is a good thing - maybe the best of things and it's sometimes all we have to guide us through the dark ages.

There was once a spark of God-touched cell that divided into two. Then four; then eight. This cell within a matter of days grew to an embryo that you and I will call Embryo Joe. Well, let's say that in some kind of magical way, all the other embryos in all the other wombs of mothers in the world could communicate with each other and get to know each other. Let's say Joe was no different and began to have lots of friends. Well, ole Joe started to develop just like most embryos and before you knew it, Joe was a fetus then grew from there in leaps and bounds. Pretty soon, Joe had all his fingers and toes and a friendly little smile that every embryo loved. Ole Joe was strong and he started moving around and feeling like there was more to this universe and he stretched and he groaned and he pushed. Then one morning Joe felt like he was being pushed towards the brightest light he'd ever seen. He fought hard but he fell towards that light and Joe soon took his first breath of our earth's air and was born!

And all the other embryos in all the other wombs in all the mothers of the world who knew Joe and loved him said "Poor old Joe - he's passed away".

I guess this story gave me a Godly hope of things to come in a world where promises are often broken and hopes are regularly dashed. I pray you understand your gift of memory, of pain, and of hope. God bless.