Really need some encouragement

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ladymarie

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My husband and I have been married for 11 years, and we have 4 great kids, and we just seperated a couple of days ago. He all of a sudden says that he isn't in love with me anymore, and he doesn't know why. He says that he is confused, and doesn't know what he wants. He has agreed to go to individual counseling, for himself, because he believes that his confusion may be more from childhood issues than because of our marriage. He is feeling very unworthy, and feels he isn't good enough for us anymore. I have tried to encourage him, and let him know that he is a good man, good husband, good provider, and a great dad, but nothing seems to get through to him. I feel like he is pushing away the very ppl..(me and the kids) that love him the most in this world...i don't know what to do. I feel so powerless. I have prayed and am trying to give God my worries, but i am finding it sooo hard to believe that he can find his way back to us. Please if anyone has had a similar situation, and have had a happy ending, i could really use the encouragement right now...i feel so lost and alone..i keep trying to remind myself that i am never alone, that God is always with me, but i just don't feel it right now...please help
 
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machew

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I'm praying for you and your family ladymarie. Keep pleading the blood of Jesus over him. If he feels as if he is unworthy somehow, he needs a greater revelation of what Jesus did for him on the cross. Your husband has the righteousness of Jesus no matter what he did or what happened in his past. The shame and guilt and unworthiness are from the enemy.

God come and show ladymarie's husband how You see him.

In Jesus' Name, Amen!
 
Kathleen

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keep praying, i know i am. God will help you through this.
rember the story of Job, he has things much worse, and yet he some how manages to stay close to God.
Things could be much worse. But lets just pray things dont get worse.
God will help you through this
God Bless
Kath x
 
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Liam

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Love him, love your children, love the Lord and let him know that you're there for him. Don't smother him, don't indulge his weakness. He has to pray and come to terms with his stuff, the coincilers a good idea but the only answer that will fix anything will be the one that comes from Him. Sorry of this sounds a bit tough love but your hubby is a man, a husband, a father.

Those are responsibilites that come before his own "chilhood issues"
we all have them. As a man you never tell your wife and the mother of your children you don't love her, you never be that selfish or heartless. You must have been devestated?

This is something he shoulda worked out, you don't just stop loving someone. The Morning Stars at work on your home and your husband is letting himself fail his family.... Gag, boils my blood. It's his duty to protect that home. :(
 
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r32faisal7

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ladymarie.. I think he is going through some internal issues to a point where he doesn't feel he is worthy around those that he truly does love.. so I think he does not want to be loved by them as it might hurt him at this point. maybe something happened in his life where he feels disconnected from things lately.. maybe you should avoid expressing and showing fear over the situation and just be strong, tell him that you know he loves you all but that he should feel free to do whatever he feels necessary, and that you are available any time if he wants to come back. and pray to God.
i hope that helps.. good luck
 
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Gabriel777

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Oh man, sounds like a huge trial. Just pray and endure. The demons that are messing with him are not gonna quit that easily.
 
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dee133

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Oh, the pain you must be in! This trouble will pass and you will get to the other side of it. Of course, I don't know how it will all play out, but I do agree with the above posts that you shouldn't pressure him, get clinging toward him, or try to control the situation, because you can't. I wonder why he would say he doesn't love you anymore and then go into explaining that he's confused and it may be something in his past? I've been married for 31 years and can't count the times that I've felt I wasn't "in love" with my husband. Love is a committment, not always a feeling. Feelings come and go, but I assure you after 11 years and 4 children there is love there. Maybe it's being covered up by other things or there may be someone else that has struck his fancy, offering an escape from responsibility and the illusion of fun, fun, fun, but regardless, of what it is, you can't control him. Run to God. Press into His safe place, and He will take care of you and the children. There will be resolution. You won't be in this hard place forever. God knows your hurt and He specializes in broken hearts and broken dreams. He is a restorer. YOU will be O.K. in the end. I will be praying for you.
 
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