Help I want a divorce but I'm afraid I will lose my daughter because I have no job

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emcmahon2288

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I'm a housewife who no longer wants to be with her husband due to his ways of being; control freak, male shovenist, etc... The problem is we have a one yr old and I don't want him to take her away because I never worked a day in my life. I have been a house wife my entire life. He has lots of money and I have nothing and I'm afraid I will lose her. I will work to death for her. He can't take care of her at all. I asked him before what he would die if I wasn't in this world anymore he said I would hire a live in nanny because I can't take care of her and it's hard. Help me :(
 

konroh

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Wow, I don't know what you're going through but you need to find your identity in Christ first, wife second and mother third. I don't know if you can work out your problems with your husband but divorce is not the easy answer, it's the hard one. You should for sure recognize that you're not incapable of taking care of your daughter or working, and that you have contributed, it's not about your husband who has the money and therefore should get your daughter.

You seem not to value yourself, your problems don't start with your husband or your daughter, they start with how you perceive your relationship to God. Work on that.
 
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Ecclesiastik

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"Most Christians in our culture live like everyone else. There is little distinction between our lives and the lives of the pagans down the street. We wear the same clothes, watch the same movies, read the same books, send our children to the same schools, and sign the same divorce decrees as everyone else." ~ Voddie Baucham
 
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You are doing a wonderful thing for yourself, you are admitting you belong to God. God has an entire book with how His family can have what, in the original language God used to write that book, is shalom. There isn't an English word for it, but it certainly does not include "I want a divorce"!!

Our lives aren't to be taken up with managing how others act, it says to leave that to God. But for you, there is a lot of doing involved. Especially, if your husband is supporting you, you have just as big and serious a job to do in supporting him. If he prefers TV and his cars to you, that is between him and God, not you and him. You don't have to do all your job as wife requires because you love him, but you have to do it because you love God. Besides, when you "act as if" often it spills over into something real.

We are living in a world where marriage is not reliable, few are truly married so the welfare of one is the welfare of the other, for the two are one. If your husband feels this way, you are lucky, and you should feel that way, too. In this uncertain world, it is necessary for women to prepare themselves for a job. There are ways of training yourself for work, and certainly you should be doing that. Your days will fill, anyway, and be gone. If you use them well, or if you don't, time will pass. You just as well use the time well.
 
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nimbus3852

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You might want to spend a few visits with a therapist.

Couples counseling can help.

Life will be less comfortable separated than with a man who makes good money.