Wife - Social Media- Sex talks - Is it inappropriate.

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wingman

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My wife is an avid social network user. Her networks of choice are Facebook and Twitter. It is not uncommon for her to post or tweet the majority of the day. She is also an avid reader of romance/ erotica. The majority of her friends especially on Twitter are erotic/ romance authors. Some of which she also follows on FB and share words. In this sharing I find post of men. She says its girl talk which maybe it its. I also find this on Twitter. As you know the comments are sexual innuendoes. Were all adults and were not fooling anyone. Most of her friends are woman but I have seen a few men here and there.
As for my self I do not follow or interact with post in relationship to women in reference to sex. I choose not to because I think its disrespectful to my wife. She is the only woman I want to see when I close and open my eyes. Just like most couples they share a few social friends. I am uncomfortable when she post, repost or share pictures of so called book boyfriends. If if they are in a book I find it an excuse to post a man in is underwear. I wonder what her our friends think of me and her when they see this. I don't ever see anyone else wife or woman posting such things. She tells me that her reading material doesn't define her character. As we all know of the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon. I found her FB a picture of her self with her ring off lying in bed from chest up. No breast or or anything but her shirt was off. She says it was dumb and she will never do it again. Do I believe her I don't know.

CHRISTIAN LADIES - Is this ok? Am I being insecure? Now Im not a glamour model but I am a well descent man shy of a 6 pack. Im educated, I tell her I love her everyday, I buy flowers, I speak kindly, I might add I'm not that bad when it comes to.... Is this right? how should I feel. Be honest.

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nimbus3852

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From your perspective I would be concerned. Consider couple's therapy.

Keep hope, she sounds like she loves you and is committed to you.
 
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Ugly

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wingman said:
My wife is an avid social network user. Her networks of choice are Facebook and Twitter. It is not uncommon for her to post or tweet the majority of the day. She is also an avid reader of romance/ erotica. The majority of her friends especially on Twitter are erotic/ romance authors. Some of which she also follows on FB and share words. In this sharing I find post of men. She says its girl talk which maybe it its. I also find this on Twitter. As you know the comments are sexual innuendoes. Were all adults and were not fooling anyone. Most of her friends are woman but I have seen a few men here and there.
As for my self I do not follow or interact with post in relationship to women in reference to sex. I choose not to because I think its disrespectful to my wife. She is the only woman I want to see when I close and open my eyes. Just like most couples they share a few social friends. I am uncomfortable when she post, repost or share pictures of so called book boyfriends. If if they are in a book I find it an excuse to post a man in is underwear. I wonder what her our friends think of me and her when they see this. I don't ever see anyone else wife or woman posting such things. She tells me that her reading material doesn't define her character. As we all know of the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon. I found her FB a picture of her self with her ring off lying in bed from chest up. No breast or or anything but her shirt was off. She says it was dumb and she will never do it again. Do I believe her I don't know.

CHRISTIAN LADIES - Is this ok? Am I being insecure? Now Im not a glamour model but I am a well descent man shy of a 6 pack. Im educated, I tell her I love her everyday, I buy flowers, I speak kindly, I might add I'm not that bad when it comes to.... Is this right? how should I feel. Be honest.

Thanks
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She's a porn addict. Female porn is not the same as mens porn. She is not only addicted she is also caught up in a lifestyle of casual sexuality. And her reading material doesn't define her character it REVEALS her character. If she's engaged in this behavior and even has gone as far as taking racy photos it won't be long before she takes it all the way and begins cheating. That is simply what the lifestyle is all about. Meeting your own needs and sexual desires above all else. Its a monster that feeds on itself.
As a couple you may need more than counseling. She is going against Gods standards for both a personal spiritual life and the marriage bed. Mentally she's as good as cheated on you. The question now is has she, or how soon until, she follows her mind and does so physically?
 
Angela53510

Angela53510

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I am very sorry you are going through this with your wife. You sound like a decent, loving husband.

Please get counseling, starting with yourself, and also with your wife. She is definitely addicted. I personally do not understand romance novels and that sort of thing, but staying on-line with this object is certainly troubling. She may be mentally ill, or just feels frustrated and a lack of purpose in her life.

Have you tried to get her involved in a women's group, or Bible study? Prayer group? She needs some older women to be mentors, to teach her what it means to be a loving and faithful wife. She really has been seduced by the world, at this point. Is she even a Christian?

I would not force her off the computer. It will only make her more resentful of you. Instead, pray, pray, pray! And keep on loving her, while you seek counseling to find some ways to help her free from this dreadful addiction.
 
Agricola

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Well I am not a woman, but I know this is not right for a married woman. One day its erotic literatutre, which face it is a form of porn, next watching videos.

This world seems to be so mixed up with double standards when it comes to gender and habits such as this, if woman caught a man reading stories out of a porn mag, then he would be lynched.

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I wouldnt not be surprised if you feel cheated on, betrayed, unwanted, rejected, hurt and emotionally drained bruised and battered. this is literally soul destroying and she must stop and pay more attention to you.

If she likes erotic stuff, then why dont you give her what she wants, its ok to tell her all the things you want to do to her, speak it like you are telling a story, then she can get her fix and its within what is acceptable for marriage, you are talking about each other, not a 3rd party even if its fiction.
 
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