another baby?

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silnyc

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Trying to listen to His still, small voice about whether or not to have a third child. Interested in feedback and personal experiences from those who found themselves in this same situation in the past and/or anyone currently going through this right now. How does one really know...all thoughts welcomed and really appreciated.
 
Angela53510

Angela53510

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I stopped at three children and went back to work. About a month later, I found out I was pregnant with twins. Then I lost one of the twins. Got my baby girl, (I had 3 boys) and she turned out to be set from God. Helped me through getting extremely ill. Although she was only 10 when I became sick, she learned to help me in many ways.

And she liked helping people so much, she became a social worker, and is very well adjusted.

Some people like to look at issues like finances, or rooms in the house, etc. I found that my gifts from God were exactly what I needed at the time, and God always provided for us and the children.

I wish I had had more children. Although I guess God knew what he was about.
 
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silnyc

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Thanks for the insight, very much appreciated. Not sure what is making me doubt if it's really God nudging me or my mind thinking too much...
 
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Missachu

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We tend to second guess and doubt God alot. I say go for it if you truly believe it's God putting that into your heart.
 
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starfield

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Children are a blessing from God, not a burden. Ask God for guidance and be open to His gifts. :)
Psalm 127:3-5
3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

 
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silnyc

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Thanks for your words of wisdom Star and Miss.
 
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AgnusDei

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Children are the legacy you are going to offer to this world to continue this sacred duty of turning people back to God.
They are an offering to God to reminds us they are His and His only.

Hannah offer Samuel to God and that tiny boy became the most righteous man of Israel at that time.
Offer your children to God and He will transform them into jewels that will shine into a dark world.

God the Father did it with His son.
He spared no expense for you and me risking it all.
And now look. There are millions of Christians around the world proclaiming His glory.
Because He gave His most precious treasure.

Yes. Children are a gift from above. To remind us we need to leave a legacy. Like Jesus, who left twelve men to turn the world upside down.
 
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AgnusDei

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silnyc said:
Thanks for your words of wisdom Star and Miss.
Click to expand...
Children are the legacy you are going to offer to this world to continue this sacred duty of turning people back to God.
They are an offering to God to reminds us they are His and His only.

Hannah offer Samuel to God and that tiny boy became the most righteous man of Israel at that time.
Offer your children to God and He will transform them into jewels that will shine into a dark world.

God the Father did it with His son.
He spared no expense for you and me risking it all.
And now look. There are millions of Christians around the world proclaiming His glory.
Because He gave His most precious treasure.

Yes. Children are a gift from above. To remind us we need to leave a legacy. Like Jesus, who left twelve men to turn the world upside down.
 
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AgnusDei

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sorry I posted twice. I apologize
 
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tenderhearted

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Hello,

You are wise for seeking God about whether or not to have a third child. God wants to be a part of all our major decisions. Children are a blessing, but God's timing is the best timing. I'll share my personal experience-- three years ago I started to getting this desire for a third child and I prayed about this; God even gave me a name for the child. However, even though God put the desire in my heart, he didn't tell me when. So I shared this desire with my husband and he told me he wanted a third child too, but he just didn't wanted at the moment. See we don't live near family and not having a support system has made it difficult for us. At that point my youngest was starting school-- getting more independent and my husband wanted to enjoy that time with me. Well, I didn't agree with my husband and I didn't think we needed to wait. I kept trying to reason with him and he was certain that God was saying not now. I was frustrated and I said to God why would you give me this desire when my husband is not even on board? I was wrestling with this for sometime. Then one day I heard God loud and clear not in (an audible voice) say "Do you love me more than this?" I had given this situation too much of my attention... the same attention that belonged to God. I also allowed it to drive a wedge in my marriage. On this particular day I was at church and I told God, you come first and I am laying this desire to have a third child at the alter. Then I apologized to my husband and came to the realization that my husband as the leader gets the final say and if he isn't ready, then neither one of us are ready.

Let's fast forward to a few months ago 2013 the desire to have a third child returned. My husband and I started talking and he said that he wanted to try in the spring of this year 2014. I have to admit I was confused because it'd been 3 years and he still wasn't ready. I didn't make too much of a fuss. HOWEVER, a friend once told me a saying that man makes his own plans and God laughs. It turned out that during the time my husband and I were having that conversation I was already expecting and we didn't know it. A couple of weeks later I missed my period and shortly found out that we were having a baby. We were totally shocked and excited at the same time. Currently I am expecting and I am so thankful to God because he placed that desire in my heart 3 years ago to prepare our hearts for now. I am also thankful that we waited because it has made us appreciate this wonderful gift even more.

If your husband wants to have another child and God hasn't told you to wait-- I say go for it. Children are a blessing and God has a different plan for everyone.:)
 
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silnyc

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Tender and Agnus, thank you so much for chiming in and sharing your thoughts and experience. Very much appreciated.
 
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