Would God tell my husband to divorce me?

[Lucy68]

So sorry to hear about this painful thing you're going through!

If he's the one that wanted the divorce, why did you move out? If we accommodate someone's sin then we may become their enabler. That's a tricky thing...how to be loving and compassionate without enabling someone's weakness or wrong-doing.

It sounds like your husband is rejecting God ...and therefore you too. You said he can't stick with a job and never finished school,etc. It looks like he constantly bails out of just about everything after a while. Counseling would probably help him...why can't he finish what he starts? What causes him to give up easily?

I admire your determination to help him . Praying for him is definitely a good thing.

But remember that we all have free choice. Some people will rebel even harder when being nudged toward God. They may also react with anger when guilt sets in. Instead of responding correctly to feelings of guilt, they just get angry with the one making them feel guilty. The human heart is fickle if not instructed by the Holy Spirit.

Praying for you both...that his eyes and ears will be opened to what the evil one is doing in his life...and healing for your heart. May this bring you closer to Christ .

 

[yasuko]

The most terrible thing has happened.

My husband has had an affair.

I spoke with the other woman who was devastated to discover he was married and was sobbing and felt so betrayed and horrible. She broke it off and told him to go be with his wife.

The thing is that he now wants a divorce from me more than ever because I broke into his phone without permission and discovered his affair, told his mother, and got the contact info for the other woman. He said this is the last straw and that he feels nothing for me.

I don't know what to do here... I pray that God can heal this. Anger won't last forever and with the affair gone I hope he will see what our marriage truly is... something beautiful.

I am lost!!!

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Yasuko, I am so sorry this happened. Good for you for catching him, contacting her, and telling his mother. They will try to make us feel terrible for these things... they will try to tell us that "we crossed the line" when we tell someone what has happened. This is just a way to try to manipulate the situation and blame someone else for what is happening. Telling someone brings the sin into the light. The sad part is that if he were repentant, he would be begging forgiveness and willing to do whatever it takes to make things up to you. Until you have that reaction from him... I would remain on guard.

The truth is that as much as you love this man... as much as you think you can't live without him... YOU CAN. There is life after this. My prayer for you is that he will repent, renew his vows to you, and work to heal your marriage. But please know that if that doesn't happen, the Lord will provide for you, and in the end, bring you joy. (((hugs)))

 

[christianwife87]

I'm so sorry to hear that this has happened, please be careful about the information you tell others about your husband and the advice you take. It's no use in telling you what you were supposed to do because it's already done, it's not about trusting you husband, it never was, it's about trusting God, men/women will fail you because we are emotional human beings who are not perfect and we are sinners! God is PERFECT in everything! God knows everything everyone does, he know every sin that has been committed, no matter what your husband did, you have to forgive, give the situation to God because only he can fix it. Don't take things into your own hands, trust God! You have to give your husband some space and let God have him because God deals with him better then you, you can always pray but when you step in the middle and take certain situations in your own hands you are hindering your own prayers, let God take this one. Calling his mom and confronting the other woman is not going to make any difference in the situation, his mother is not going to love him any less. You cannot gossip about your husband or reveal his sins to others. God is allowing this situation to go on until you learn to trust HIM and cry out to HIM.
This situation can be salvaged you just have to pray, forgive and ask for forgiveness, be still and let God work . When you stop focusing on your husband and start focusing on God he will reveal things to you at his own pace, you don't need to go through his phone, your husband can hide things from you but not from God. Praying for you. Send me a private message, I have some information I want to share with you, it helped me a lot.

 

[yasuko]

I am trying my hardest to give the situation to God. I want nothing more than to salvage my marriage and I know God can heal it and is working on my husband, but I know the adversary is working on my husband too. He has a friend who encouraged him and is packaging all of this in a very attractive package of independence, freedom, pleasure, and other things. That is the path he seems to be favoring. He isn't repentant because he is doing exactly what he needs to do to be happy, or that's what he thinks.

I do forgive my husband but I also know that the path back to me and back to God will require work on his part.

I pray that the path back to me is easy to him and the path to where he is going is full of thorns and obstacles. I am so heartbroken and I know God can heal this. I just hope my husband is willing to do what it takes.

Prayer!

 

[faroukfarouk]

Praying...

 

[yasuko]

Praying...

thank you. that means so much to me.

 

[FlowerFragance]

Dear friend. If your husband has been praying and heard God's voice in his heart to divorce you with "NO" Biblical reason, I may think that he's really praying a God different from the one in the Bible and he's not really a true Christ follower. Now, you've not mentioned what's the reason for the divorce. You don't need to answer this, but, have you committed adultery? Mathew 5:32 says "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery" (KJV). I see this could be one cause of divorce; however LOVE and FORGIVENESS is what God's demands also from his children. I would say that if that's the case, pray and seek for counseling and wait in the Lord that He touches your husband's heart. If he kicked you out of the house, he may be really angry, so dear friend, pray that the Lord softens his heart and give both of you a second chance for His Glory.

 

[savedandIknowit]

Satan is a copy cat and wants to be like God. you have to question "Which God" when your husband says "God" is telling him to divorce you. Satan is a god but a god with a little "g" so your husband is listening to a defeated side, you ust know your enemy if you are a christian, Ive seen too many spiritual penticostals fall into a false god telling the something that is against the word of God and against reality, I know the fight you must face if you are to get out of the deceivers hands, so with your marraige the devil wants to devour him because of these promptings, A God - honouring marraige is a safe place and it is designed to make us Holy. God can fix the nature of your marraige as you fight for your faith, Keep your eyes on the Lord and stay true to His Word. Witness for Him so youl take your mind of these problems, Concern yourself about getting souls into the kingdom. There is much reward in that, Let God do the work on your marraige, Seek to be like Christ. Pray for your husband and a close relationship with The Lord. The devil told me for my husband in an arguement "your too gutless to tear this family apart" and God said something that I wasnt good or something, The devil is out to KILL, STEAL AND DESTROY. its a true spiritual warefare

 

[Grace777x70]

God would never tell believers to divorce their spouse. It is completely against His character and true nature - not to mention His word.

I Corinthians 7:10 says to believers that the Lord says the wife is not to leave the husband and if she does ( there are circumstances where it is not healthy or wise to stay in the same house with them like physical abuse..etc. and I believe this "if she does" implies that the wife did divorce the believing husband )- she is not to be remarried but be reconciled to her husband. Believe the promises of God in Christ for the restoration. For believers the word of the Lord to us is unquestionable in this area.

Jesus said that in the law ( which we in the new covenant are not under anymore ) you were allowed by Moses to divorce because of the hardness of your heart, but it was not that way in the beginning. In the New Covenant we are to walk in love and extend grace, forgiving each other. When we seek divorce it means we are living from our flesh and not from our spirit. We live from the law of love now ( Which fulfills the requirements of the law within us ). Love never fails, believes all things, endures all things, hopes all things. ( Hope is the confident expectation of the goodness of God expressed in our lives. Faith brings that hope into reality. )

What we are really saying is that we do not want to trust God for restoring us. We have chosen to live by our emotions instead of who we really are in Christ now! We have more faith in the lies being whispered to us from the enemy and from the world then we have trust in the greatness of our Lord.

Divorce is betrayal. Jesus said " Your kingdom come, Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven." Imagine if that foul "spirit" that tells your spouse to divorce you would be in heaven? Imagine people betraying each other in heaven? Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Is divorce/betrayal God's will? Of course not!

The truth is that "spirit" is telling believers the opposite of what the character and nature of God is like - not to mention what He said in His word. - that "spirit" is from the enemy! If that "spirit" was in heaven it would be telling us to betray others if we feel like it - it would be telling us - do not walk in love, nor extend grace to them, nor listen to our Lord Jesus.

The thing about deception is that you are deceived. That's why it is called deception! You can't see it.

The truth is that "spirit" telling people to betray their spouse will end up in the lake of fire. It's time is coming! Tic Toc

We need to believe God and trust Him more then the circumstances. The true issue is who are we going to trust? Are we going to believe in the circumstance or in the faithfulness of our loving Father to change us?

There is grace for those that have divorced but let us not say that " the Holy Spirit " told me to divorce you. It's a complete deception! The truth is that we are hard-hearted and deceived.

Hardness of heart occurs when we choose to relate more to the natural realm then the spiritual realm ( who we are in Christ now ) - when we "think on" the natural situations ( facts ) OVER the spiritual realm (of who we really are in our spirit where Christ lives in us) and the truth of God's love for us expressed to us through the finished work of Jesus. Look at Mark 3:5 ; Mark 16:14 ; Mark 6:52

Look at Mark 3:1-6 and you will see where our Lord was grieved over the hardness of their hearts in relation to the Pharisees not extending grace to a person that needed healing. It was their religious beliefs that prevented their hearts from wanting grace to be displayed and thus their hearts were hardened. Does this not apply to the situation of divorce? Ponder and meditate on it.

Saying that the "Holy Spirit" told me to divorce you is the same as saying God told me to rob a bank because God loves me and He wants me to be happy and money would make me happy. When we take ourselves out of the situation and the emotional attachment to circumstances we can easily see the deception. The person robbing the bank only sees what they "believe God told them". It is full blown deception that has gone to seed! Does God want us to be happy? Of course He does and He has provided all we need in believing in what Jesus already has done for us in His finished work. Where sin abounds God's grace super-abounds! Let's walk in that instead of hardening our hearts.

I am not condemning anyone as I have been in my past the one who hardened my heart and divorced and had my current wife this year harden her heart and divorce me. We are in our 50's. She told me "the Spirit told her spirit " to divorce me. There was no infidelity nor did we even raise our voices to each other. I had no idea her head was full of different thoughts. She was living two lives within herself. She kissed me one morning and said we need to think about what to do for retirement - then 3 days later I was alone in the house and the sheriff came and said she filed for divorce and I had 90 minutes to get my clothes and leave. She never once mentioned it nor would she talk with me until she sent me a letter after the divorce was finalized. Obviously she had some issues within herself as she was having trouble with her children - 2 daughters were telling her that she was a liar about things, her son was on the verge of killing herself, she was worried about money despite having millions of dollars. Basically she was tormented from things of the past and was in constant turmoil which twisted her thoughts about us. So, there are always "things" that cause us to be messed up in our minds that help to harden our hearts.

Now, I had a decision to make - do I treat her by her behavior or by who she is in Christ? I choose to continue to love her, to forgive her, to pray for her! Love never fails! One day we will watch together that filthy, deceiving "spirit" that lied to her go into the lake of fire. Tic Toc

Let's receive the grace of God for where we are right now in our lives and from now on walk in who we really are in Christ.

Let's walk in the love of God that is in us in Christ. Our God is greater than any circumstance we are in! Let's trust Him for all things!

 

[chanchuinchoy]

The bible tells us that marriage is created by God.To me God will never goes back on His words/plan etc...

 

[Kaycie]

God HATES divorce! Because in order for there to be a divorce at least one person sinned. God gives one reason for divorce- sexual unfaithfulness. God did not tell him to divorce you- which is the opposite of what He tells us in the bible. When someone is looking for an excuse, any excuse will do, even blaming God.

 

[Grace777x70]

Divorce I believe is in essence a fruit of not walking in love or trusting God to restore. Our real person of the heart - the inner man where Christ dwells inside of us would not go along with divorce. It's a violation of His nature which is in us. It's simply us hardening our hearts. It's a betrayal. Imagine if God advocated betrayal in heaven? It would be a type of hell to be there but we know that is not true. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. There is no betrayal in heaven.

In saying all of that - there is still the grace of God for us as divorce is not the unpardonable sin. It is simply NOT the will of God for us.

I agree with Kaycie that God will not tell your spouse to divorce you. It's a violation of His nature

God HATES divorce! Because in order for there to be a divorce at least one person sinned. God gives one reason for divorce- sexual unfaithfulness. God did not tell him to divorce you- which is the opposite of what He tells us in the bible. When someone is looking for an excuse, any excuse will do, even blaming God.

 

[Sanfam]

Feel free to ask me questions. You should read my book "Divorce: In the Bible" its first chapter speaks about the difference between a covenant and a contract. It also speaks about the word covenant in Hebrew and what it really means. As well as other biblical scriptures.

A marriage covenant is a life long commitment unless you have committed sexual immorality in the marriage, according to Moses' Law. But, even if you committed sexual immorality in the marriage the bible says that a Christian or (God follower) is to stay married to you as long as you are willing to stay in the marriage (1 Cor. 7:10-14) and you are to be faithful to him alone.

He is correct "marriage counseling" is not a biblical idea and many times it works against a marriage by not looking at the man as the leader.

He has not divorced you yet. I understand that it is treatening and you do not have your house built on a rock but on shifting sand. But, your marriage is not over.

Draw closer to God, resist the Devil and he will flee from you. Obey your husband but not into sin. And honor God above all else.

Go to a christian church and not a catholic or Lutheran church since they mostly have fallen away from scriptures.1 Peter 3:1 tells you how you may possible win your husband over to Jesus.

If he is a believer, he can feel free to ask me any questions he has.

 

[blue_ladybug]

This thread is over 2 years old and the OP has not been online since March 28, 2014. Good advice though.

 

[mcubed]

No........ (somany ... because I was forced by the system to make my response 10 characters).