Helping people with same sex attraction when they come to you for help: What to say?

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Rejection of any sinful tendency requires suffering. A willingness to suffer is essential!!! There is no pain-free way to escape from sinful habits or wrong desires! (1 Peter 4:1) Since Christ suffered in the flesh, you too arm yourselves with the same mental disposition; because the person who has suffered in the flesh has desisted from sins,
 
John_agape

John_agape

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There is this focus on certain sins as worse than others. Well that may be so, but the real issue is the first commandment.

Mt 22:37-40 sums up the Ten Commandments into two commandments:
Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
This is the first and great commandment.
And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

All sin is ultimately the result of us failing in the first commandment. Many of us have temptations, making idols of money and the things that money can by, as an example. Homosexuality is another, but is it worse than heterosexual fornication or adultery? I don't see why it should be.

Can a husband go running off with different women every weekend with the excuse of, "God made me like this."

It is a matter of choosing God and an eternal relationship with God after we leave this mortal body, or not having that relationship.

On the question of "is homosexuality a sin?" well the word used when calling this a sin in the NT is malakos. Calling someone "malaka!" is a swear word in modern Greek.

I think it is something that is between them and God. If they keep harping on their sex life I would get offended, in the same way I would get offended if a heterosexual couple would keep talking about their sex life.
 
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Camarasaurus

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It seems there is a difference between same-sex "attraction" and truely feeling you are a "homosexual" or "lesbian".

It also can depend on the age of the person. Many young people today are into "experimenting" and "hooking up" with same sex partners, just out of curiosity. This doesn't mean they are not heterosexual.

Having an "attraction" that could be temporary (or long-term) but never acting on it is different than actually having a sexual relationship with a same-sex partner.

One other aspect (and years ago I knew a person who told me this about herself) there are people who choose to be in a relationship with a same gender person because they had a bad relationship with an opposite gender person. They thought it might be easier and less painful to be in a same gender relationship. The problem is there are the same issues that come up in a same gender relationship as an opposite gender relationship (jealously, hurt emotions, mistrust, arguments, etc.).

It might be helpful to first find out if the person really thinks they truely are homosexual/lesbian. Then go on to sharing with them about an organization such as truthministry.org or other such Christian organizations.
 
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