How to protect your kids

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As followers and believers in the faith when it comes to your kids how far do you allow your unsaved parents or in laws to do their thing around your kids? Like when do you draw the line or do you? Do you talk to the parents about it, is it possible without offending them? Do you just let it go and hope for the best?
Things like if you don't drink or cuss but they do or in my case my in laws are shacking and I just don't agree although I do not voice it to them nor act funny toward them, honestly but I don't want my kids thinking that it's okay because it's isn't. They like to sleep in bed with my daughter when we visit them and I hate that, it's obvious why, they've called me judgemental before in a similar disagreement so I want to keep peace I don't wanna come off a jerk.
Help me out. All I want to do is cover my family from the drama and negativity.
I have noticed however the more I keep my in laws out of my marriage it's improved. Just saying.
 
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We live in a very sinful world. Unfortunately our children are coming into contact with worldly sinners every day. Everywhere you go, people talk about acceptance. I have taught my children that we can love and/or respect a person and not love or respect their actions. You have to teach your children what is right. Explain to your in laws that you are uncomfortable with them sharing a bed with each other, not to mention your daughter. You are the parent. You have to protect your children from harm and bring them up in the ways of the Lord. Do not allow them to sleep with her. You should explain to your children that fornication is a sin that shouldn't be accepted even though it very often is. Stay strong. You know what is right.
 
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God please help in these, Amen
 
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One of the best things you can do as your children grow older is to put an emphasis on your faith. Your kids need to see how Christ through the Holy Spirit is alive and well through your thoughts, actions, and deeds. You still must tell them that ____ family member is living in sin, but that you can still love them and be an example of Christ; and when the kids see that your faith is a living faith, they'll want to pursue it.
 
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Ya said:
As followers and believers in the faith when it comes to your kids how far do you allow your unsaved parents or in laws to do their thing around your kids? Like when do you draw the line or do you? Do you talk to the parents about it, is it possible without offending them? Do you just let it go and hope for the best?
Things like if you don't drink or cuss but they do or in my case my in laws are shacking and I just don't agree although I do not voice it to them nor act funny toward them, honestly but I don't want my kids thinking that it's okay because it's isn't. They like to sleep in bed with my daughter when we visit them and I hate that, it's obvious why, they've called me judgemental before in a similar disagreement so I want to keep peace I don't wanna come off a jerk.
Help me out. All I want to do is cover my family from the drama and negativity.
I have noticed however the more I keep my in laws out of my marriage it's improved. Just saying.
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Ya, i dont have kids but i would definitely try to keep them away from any negative situations. If your parents are drinking and swearing and fighting in front of your kids, for example, then that is definitely not a good environment for the kids to be around and i would give the parents an ultimatum: dont act like this in front of my kid or ill terminate contact with them. Parents sleeping in bed with a child is not necessary at all. Tell the in-laws that they need to go sleep in their own bed. LOL. You have every right to voice your opinion about any of this: you are the parent, they are just the grandparents. If necessary limit contact of your kids with them. Thats what I would do anyhow. :)
 
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I am a grandparent and I think you should get with your husband and the parents and tell them your rules and expectations...
Have over nights at your home instead of theirs....these arer your children and God has intrusted you with their strong beginning...
You may hurt feelings but ...sorry for your feelings.. but this is the way it is....no grandparent would walk away...they will get
over it and you can relax.....we as grandparents should have no say or criticism of the way you raise your children....I have raised mine
to be good parents and I trust them......besides im not the bad guy any more... just thankful they share them with me.....
From a grandma who knows her place...lol
 
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