Is my marriage over ?

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blue_ladybug

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Yes, it's two years old, many members who posted on it were banned or left the site. Please do not pull zombie threads forward unless you check the create date and whether who you're responding to is still here, was banned, or hasn't logged in for awhile. In the case of the OP, and dandilion, they haven't been online since August 2014. Zombie threads push more relevant threads down the page, and are a pain in the keister.. lol
 
miknik5

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dandilion said:
I need advice from those who have been married . Some of my single friends are telling me to leave my husband because he hit me . He had a temper tantrum two weeks ago because he didn't want to go to the grocery store . He yelled at me and called me names and he hit me in the arm one time .
He has been getting steadily worse over the past seven years we have been together . Mostly verbal abuse at first . Lots of angry unprovoked outbursts. Perhaps I should have left the first time he yelled at me but I loved him so much I stayed .

I have prayed for God to heal him over the past couple of weeks. He did go get a prescription for his medication and began taking it again . It didn't help much when he was on it before but it did help a little . I have had friends pray with me for God to heal him .
I'm not sure if I should leave for good or just live in separate houses for awhile . I deserve a better partner than this ! Has anyone been in this situation before ? I would love to hear from anyone out there .
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Since you did not mention this I am assuming you have no children yet?
 
miknik5

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Let me be a bit clear because I know that it always sounds like we think we are better than our husbands because we are the sensitive creatures and men seem to care more about making themselves happy not realizing all the while that they are being singleminded and only thinking about themselves rather than the welfare of the whole fsmily

when I said one has to sacrifice it didn't mean that I am patting myself on the back thinking look st me sacrificing for my husbands mistakes. It is more waiting on the Lord to wake him up and a stop striving to make my husband see from my perspective his selfishness

i trust the Lord in time. If we let HIM in HIS way and not in our own ways do what we can't do

So just do what you should continue to do and wait on The Lord
 
miknik5

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It's easier said than done. Isn't it?
 
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Please forgive me. There are two threads that are similar and these past two posts were meant for the other thread

please disregard these last two posts
 
blue_ladybug

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miknik5 said:
Please forgive me. There are two threads that are similar and these past two posts were meant for the other thread

please disregard these last two posts
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Considering you were responding to a member who has long ago left the site, I don't think she'll mind.. lol
 
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tnwriter said:
Hi Dandelion,
I'm sorry you are going through this, I pray that the Lord gives you strength and wisdom regarding what to do. I'm completely against men beating up, insulting their wives. it will soon lead to other abusive behavior. If he has not learned how to control his temper, that is his fault alone, not yours. He has to pray to God to help him with his anger issues and ask forgiveness for what he has done to you.
If the problem persists, even after counseling, it is best to separate. However, this is my take on it, you will have to make that decision.
I hope everything works out well for you,
Blessings and prayers,
Tania
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Fantastic take. Irrespective of the date of initial post, topics such as domestic violence and relationship issues are so worthy in being discussed. The relevancy in society today in many christian homes and otherwise calls it for it - keep it up.
 
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