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Tithing was OT payment for temple priests. It's not a NT teaching as we no longer have to pay temple priests.
And no, you can't divorce over tithing. In fact, if you are fighting with your husband over it, you're the one in the wrong. Wives are suppose to be submissive. So you're fighting with your husband, and wanting to break your oath to God, over an issue that isn't biblically backed to begin with. Sounds as though you're pretty uptight if you want to divorce over this issue. Perhaps you might be better off spending time learning to ease up and relax and even research issues like tithing and divorce, and less time causing dissension in your marriage.
And no, you can't divorce over tithing. In fact, if you are fighting with your husband over it, you're the one in the wrong. Wives are suppose to be submissive. So you're fighting with your husband, and wanting to break your oath to God, over an issue that isn't biblically backed to begin with. Sounds as though you're pretty uptight if you want to divorce over this issue. Perhaps you might be better off spending time learning to ease up and relax and even research issues like tithing and divorce, and less time causing dissension in your marriage.
No, certainly not.
The Old Testament required that three separate tithes of 10% of the produce of the land of Israel be given or used as tithes. Every year, 10% were praied to the priestly system, 10% were to be eaten by the "giver" at the place the LORD chose (or sold to buy food to eat if the person lived far away, and 10% every third year was given to the Levite, widow, orphan and stranger in the city gates.
How much Israeli farm land do you own? How are you going to give to the priests since the temple ahs been destroyed?
I'm not against tithing as a Christian discipline. It's a good thing. But it doesn' trump Jesus' teaching on marriage.
Would he be willing to let you give 10% of your own income without fighting over it?
The Old Testament required that three separate tithes of 10% of the produce of the land of Israel be given or used as tithes. Every year, 10% were praied to the priestly system, 10% were to be eaten by the "giver" at the place the LORD chose (or sold to buy food to eat if the person lived far away, and 10% every third year was given to the Levite, widow, orphan and stranger in the city gates.
How much Israeli farm land do you own? How are you going to give to the priests since the temple ahs been destroyed?
I'm not against tithing as a Christian discipline. It's a good thing. But it doesn' trump Jesus' teaching on marriage.
Would he be willing to let you give 10% of your own income without fighting over it?
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Many churches teach that we as Christians, under the New Covenant, are commanded to give a minimum of 10% of our income to our church. Others teach that preachers of these churches are turning the 10% tithe in the Old Testament for Israel into a legalistic prescription for Christians under the New Covenant. I even heard a Pastor make a challenge to his congregation to give 10% of their income for 90 days and if God does not bless them then he will give them their money back.
In 2 Corinthians 9:5-7 we read: Therefore I thought it necessary to exhort the brethren to go to you ahead of time, and prepare your generous gift beforehand, which you had previously promised, that it may be ready as a matter of generosity and not as a grudging obligation. But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.
I don't see a "specific percentage" given anywhere for Christians "under the New Covenant," but I certainly believe in giving and not just to our church. I also believe that everything we own belongs to God. Not tithing is certainly not grounds for divorce.
In 2 Corinthians 9:5-7 we read: Therefore I thought it necessary to exhort the brethren to go to you ahead of time, and prepare your generous gift beforehand, which you had previously promised, that it may be ready as a matter of generosity and not as a grudging obligation. But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.
I don't see a "specific percentage" given anywhere for Christians "under the New Covenant," but I certainly believe in giving and not just to our church. I also believe that everything we own belongs to God. Not tithing is certainly not grounds for divorce.
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King James Bible
Do Not Judge Your Brother
@Chris_0103. Your husband in Christ is your spiritual brother.
(Matthew 7:1-6; Luke 6:37-42)
1Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. 2For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs. 3Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth: for God hath received him. 4Who art thou that judgest another man's servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand.
5One man esteemeth one day above another: another esteemeth every day alike. Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind. 6He that regardeth the day, regardeth it unto the Lord; and he that regardeth not the day, to the Lord he doth not regard it. He that eateth, eateth to the Lord, for he giveth God thanks; and he that eateth not, to the Lord he eateth not, and giveth God thanks. 7For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself. 8For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord's. 9For to this end Christ both died, and rose, and revived, that he might be Lord both of the dead and living.
10But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ.
11For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.
12So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God
Do Not Judge Your Brother
@Chris_0103. Your husband in Christ is your spiritual brother.
(Matthew 7:1-6; Luke 6:37-42)
1Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. 2For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs. 3Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth: for God hath received him. 4Who art thou that judgest another man's servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand.
5One man esteemeth one day above another: another esteemeth every day alike. Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind. 6He that regardeth the day, regardeth it unto the Lord; and he that regardeth not the day, to the Lord he doth not regard it. He that eateth, eateth to the Lord, for he giveth God thanks; and he that eateth not, to the Lord he eateth not, and giveth God thanks. 7For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself. 8For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord's. 9For to this end Christ both died, and rose, and revived, that he might be Lord both of the dead and living.
10But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ.
11For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.
12So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God
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I'm not REALLY going to look to divorce him over this. I'm just REALLY frustrated over it. This is how I feel. I thank the Lord for blessing of having a job. The definition of TITHE is: a tenth of one's income that is given to God.
What bothers me is he knows my first order of business when I get my paycheck it to put side %10. We get paid the same days.
When he runs out of money he asks for what he knows I put aside.
What bothers me is he knows my first order of business when I get my paycheck it to put side %10. We get paid the same days.
When he runs out of money he asks for what he knows I put aside.
Excuse me, Mrs! This (respecfully) is not of my business but, as far as I can see it, I'm responsible for what I give or for what I don't give. If I am stingy, emotionally meager or anything beyond this, my wife or GF has not right TO CONTROL me, but she could be smart (enough) to teach me by examples, but not forcing me to give up things I don't want to give: We cannot give what we don't want and not what we don't have (none is to be forced nor enforced).
Few weeks back I had the pleasure to give two of my PCs to some who said they need one (itś not that I need your approval or admiration, because I give what I want to give as much (or less) as I'm please). Two days ago, without asking it or praying, God allowed me to receive -as a gift- another computer a friend had in her closed... So, each time you see people having problems, when giving, there is a PROBLEM OF FAITH (and, when I give, I expect nothing in turn).
Yesterday, as an example, I told the same a friend and pastor. He loves to ask people things. He loves to preach on "blessings" and also loves to see people make "oaths" on giving more money to churches (much more when that church is the one he is pastoring or attending to preach). But -when i have asked him money- (the money he owes me) he is quite reluctant to pay completely (though I have told him: I'm happy that we both have the same Father... I know -and believe- you will finally pay all that you owe me).
Greed is both, idolatry and lack of faith. I'm shocked on how we are (ME included) on things related to money and, many left churches for the greed WE have shown on being greedy, selfish, CONTROLLING, etc. Iḿ afraid he has his right to be oppose on giving his money but, creatively challange him TO GIVE directly to people who are in need. Challange him to give those who are in hunger, naked, homeless, abandoned, etc., IN THE NAME OF JESUS.
Most of the divorced I have seen were divorced FOR MONEY: To get the money from ANOTHER and, for the LACK of money... It seem WE are trading with emotions, feeelings (and sex) for money. That's not love, but being selfcentered and emotionally meager. Let the people be taught by examples, not by force.
Few weeks back I had the pleasure to give two of my PCs to some who said they need one (itś not that I need your approval or admiration, because I give what I want to give as much (or less) as I'm please). Two days ago, without asking it or praying, God allowed me to receive -as a gift- another computer a friend had in her closed... So, each time you see people having problems, when giving, there is a PROBLEM OF FAITH (and, when I give, I expect nothing in turn).
Yesterday, as an example, I told the same a friend and pastor. He loves to ask people things. He loves to preach on "blessings" and also loves to see people make "oaths" on giving more money to churches (much more when that church is the one he is pastoring or attending to preach). But -when i have asked him money- (the money he owes me) he is quite reluctant to pay completely (though I have told him: I'm happy that we both have the same Father... I know -and believe- you will finally pay all that you owe me).
Greed is both, idolatry and lack of faith. I'm shocked on how we are (ME included) on things related to money and, many left churches for the greed WE have shown on being greedy, selfish, CONTROLLING, etc. Iḿ afraid he has his right to be oppose on giving his money but, creatively challange him TO GIVE directly to people who are in need. Challange him to give those who are in hunger, naked, homeless, abandoned, etc., IN THE NAME OF JESUS.
Most of the divorced I have seen were divorced FOR MONEY: To get the money from ANOTHER and, for the LACK of money... It seem WE are trading with emotions, feeelings (and sex) for money. That's not love, but being selfcentered and emotionally meager. Let the people be taught by examples, not by force.
You have been led astray concerning tithing! It is actually illegal! Please read this excellent article. It is long, but very true.
The Tithe is Illegal
As for you, it sounds like you have the gift of giving. Now that is a good thing! So you need to figure out how to give, without fighting with your husband. You might want to volunteer, or find a ministry in church. Time is as important as money, where giving is concerned.
And try and see things from your husband's point of view. It sounds like you just want to do your own thing. Couples should agree on money issues, or you could destroy your marriage not just in this matter, but other things. While I am not saying you not give cheerfully to your church, I know God would be more displeased if your gift of giving destroyed something more important, and that is your marriage.
The Bible is quite clear we are to submit to one another. (Eph. 5:21) It sounds like no one is doing that in your home. Ask God to change your heart, and voluntarily submit to your husband, and begin rebuilding your marriage.
Praying for you to see you have been deceived about the importance of tithing, and that you will put you husband first over this obsession. Marriage will always trump giving money.
The Tithe is Illegal
As for you, it sounds like you have the gift of giving. Now that is a good thing! So you need to figure out how to give, without fighting with your husband. You might want to volunteer, or find a ministry in church. Time is as important as money, where giving is concerned.
And try and see things from your husband's point of view. It sounds like you just want to do your own thing. Couples should agree on money issues, or you could destroy your marriage not just in this matter, but other things. While I am not saying you not give cheerfully to your church, I know God would be more displeased if your gift of giving destroyed something more important, and that is your marriage.
The Bible is quite clear we are to submit to one another. (Eph. 5:21) It sounds like no one is doing that in your home. Ask God to change your heart, and voluntarily submit to your husband, and begin rebuilding your marriage.
Praying for you to see you have been deceived about the importance of tithing, and that you will put you husband first over this obsession. Marriage will always trump giving money.