Death of an infant..

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JaydensMommy327

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Why does God give us children who cant survive? My child was born with a heart condition and died before he even turned three months. Why didnt God fix his heart, why did he send him here to suffer in the hospital just to die in my arms? Why didnt God listen to my prayers for him to live? I just dont understand..
 

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A repeated post so a repeated answer...

A heart wrenching story and I feel for you and your family.
The advice that comes to mind is this...

Obviously we can't have anything we want just because we ask for it. If that were the case Christians would be the spoilest bunch of brats on the planet.

Our asking must be tempered with His will...

And this is the boldness which we have toward him, that, if we ask anything according to his will, he heareth us: and if we know that he heareth us whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions which we have asked of him.
(1Jn 5:14-15)

And he was parted from them about a stone's cast; and he kneeled down and prayed, saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.
(Luk 22:41-42)

Blessings .

p.s. it's truly the tough side of the cross.
 
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Sirk

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So very sorry for your loss. I pray that God gives you peace and that your heart is healed by His grace.
 
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pastac

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the loss of a child has devastating and lasting effects as we lost a child last year. Part of the knowing God is known that he knows best for us even when it seems like there is nothing worse we can imagine. My wife and I are still recovering and it will take time. Trusting God has been our hope and has caused us to be level headed about our feelings cause the truth is we were mad at God. Imagine that. I pray that you find the peace we are just now experiencing.
 
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dabodab

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Every parents fear is to lose their child. I'm so very sorry for you. Huge hugs to you and your family.
 

jogoldie

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many years ago my son passed at 6 years old......we were getting ready for kindergarten....
This was 30 years ago....I can tell you that time does heal.....however , that was the last thing
I wanted to hear at the time....there will be many changes you will encounter....and after all that....
I still dont have the answer you seek.....what I can say is without God ....I would have never survived....
Allow yourself the grieving process....they also told me of counciling and grief groups.....
But I wanted to be sad....and hurting....I had no desire to "get over it".....but what you can do....is learn to
live with it.....I would be happy to be a sounding board for you.....someone who really understands the pain...
someone who won,t change the subject when you call out....someone who will allow you to be sad....and not try
to tell you its too hard to talk about....but sometimes.we need to talk about it...we need to feel and not run.....
Im praying for you and your family ...and may you find peace..........
And one day allow yourself to be joyful once more without feeling guilty for smiling....
Peace my sister....jo
 

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Why does God give us children who cant survive? My child was born with a heart condition and died before he even turned three months. Why didnt God fix his heart, why did he send him here to suffer in the hospital just to die in my arms? Why didnt God listen to my prayers for him to live? I just dont understand..
My late wife did not understand why God took her little 2 day old baby daughter that she was not even able to hold for one time. She is now holding her little baby girl in her loving arms in heaven. Who knows why God does the things that He does but I do know that God is Love. I feel sad for your deep loss and I pray for God's comfort for you.
 

Angela53510

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We live in a fallen and sinful world. What Adam and Eve set into motion at the beginning of the world, reaps heartache for us in this world. We all die, sooner or later. That is the theology.

The response of love, is that I am deeply sorry for your loss. You will never be the same, but you can eventually grieve and find a new person inside. You will never forget your son, and the hurt and sting is bitter right now. I pray that God will touch you and show you that he loves you, and he cares for you, even though your son passed away.

"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, [SUP]4 [/SUP]who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. [SUP]5 [/SUP]For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too" 2 Cor. 1:3-5
 
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sassylady

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We just may never know here in this life why. It all just plain comes down to do you still choose to believe God is good, He has everything under His control, and He loves you? Regardless of the age a child dies at, or whatever the situation is,it will be the same question and has the same answer. You can choose to be closer to the Lord as a result of it or be angry and turn from him. Don't mean to sound harsh but I've been through many heartbreaking situations and it all comes down to the same thing in the end.
 

Dan58

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God knows every soul before He places them in a flesh body. He ordained that every soul must be born and must die in the flesh one time. But I think sometimes there are individuals that are so special to God, that He takes them early rather than forcing them to live a life in the flesh. Perhaps your son was deemed too good to be condemned to the flesh? I know that thought doesn't relieve you of your loss, but we really won't know all the answers until later. All we know is that some little souls quickly return from whence they came, and I personally think its because they were so precious to God that He spared them from a life in the flesh.
 
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JaydensMommy327

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Thank you all so much. Your replies have brought me comfort in a time of great heartache. I am asking for God to heal my pain, I'm not angry at him. Sometimes I just feel hurt and ask why did He do this to me, but I know that is still not right. I think you are right that he was a very special soul, thank you for saying that. I have always felt like every day I had with him was a gift. After all, God didn't have to put him in my life at all and I feel so thankful that he did..I wouldn't trade those 12 weeks for anything in the world.
 
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pastac

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@ JaydensMommy327 If you feel so led of the Spirit of God then maybe you have a mission to change lives of others who feel as you do now or have felt that way in times past write a blog or a book entitled twelve weeks a mothers joy and heartache and get your healing

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Why does God give us children who cant survive? My child was born with a heart condition and died before he even turned three months. Why didnt God fix his heart, why did he send him here to suffer in the hospital just to die in my arms? Why didnt God listen to my prayers for him to live? I just dont understand..
Every single particle of energy within your son is eternal. No energy is ever created in this universe, and no energy is ever destroyed. Every part of him has existed in different forms throughout eons of time, before the Earth was, and before the clouds could rain and before the first man took his steps, before everything we know, your son existed in forms that have changed and moved innumerably. He has been inside stars; when suns were born and when suns died, bursting into the most majestic spectacles to have ever existed, and he travelled at immense speeds, going distances beyond the furthest reach of our imaginations, throughout all space and time, to end up on this little planet. His energy survived through countless trials and tribulations, countless changes and disasters, being part of the progression of everything that ever lived on this Earth. Every part of his energy found its way across more than a million-million years and a billion galaxies, all to culminate in you.

I understand your loss, just know your son will never truly be gone.
 
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His energy will exist forever.
 
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