Do I have to get Married in a church

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skipp

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This shows a common modern fallacy where we tend to think that the wedding is the important thing, when it isn't. It's the marriage that's important. You can get married in a field (my grandparents actually did this) and if both partners are strong believers in Christ then that's what blesses the marriage, not where the wedding takes place.
 
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jer2911

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Maybe you should elope.
seriously, tourist? :) or this is one of your chill -out time -out scheme again? :) honestly, i don't wanna comment about the level of christianity of the people here. Beliver, it's your heart's decision. If you like to get married with someone you think and felt like your savior, so be it but be ready for the consequences, whether good or bad. If you profess to be a a follower of Christ you should know better the pros and cons. Only most of the times, many advices help us more to decide the best way. Our purpose is not for you to feel bad. Our purpose is to save you for more heartaches but God knows more than we do. If God allows you to something bigger than life, he will not spare you to a situation that even you might regret after, God will still not give up on you. If the same believer, low risk. If unbeliever, high risk. My suggestion, get deeper to knowing your real Savior than this person first, then who knows? God will reveal to you the just ONE. :) Will be praying for God to enlighten us more.
 
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Beliver

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I don't know how you can not call me a Christian I am Christians by choice at 22 years old I am now 28 ! Not because my parents done it for me , I took action I belive in god and I respect god and the bible but I think it's very wrong you don't know me and you say that sun burn
 
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Beliver

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#24
Thankyou every one eles for your kind comments x
 
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Beliver

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#25
I will of course think long and hard about it !
 
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Sirk

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#26
Just remember that it is best if you are whole and complete in Christ before entering into a relationship. The charms of a man will only take you so far and will leave you wanting.
 
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Tintin

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Just remember that it is best if you are whole and complete in Christ before entering into a relationship. The charms of a man will only take you so far and will leave you wanting.
Erm... that's a life-long journey, but I understand what you mean. It's important to have and know our identity in Christ before getting romantically involved with another person.
 
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Sirk

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#28
I guess what I am saying is don't rely on a person to determine your value or to make you complete
 

cinder

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I don't know how you can not call me a Christian I am Christians by choice at 22 years old I am now 28 ! Not because my parents done it for me , I took action I belive in god and I respect god and the bible but I think it's very wrong you don't know me and you say that sun burn
At the risk of making you feel even more picked on, I have to say it always makes me feel rather concerned when people say stuff like I respect god and the bible. The christian life is not about being polite and well mannered towards God and believing that he exists. It's about trust and obedience. So when it comes down to it, who is calling the shots in your life, you or God? Is God your advisor or your master? That is the true test of Christianity. All the best to you as you seek his wisdom on what to do in your current situation.
 
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I would hardly ever say that the woman is a believer herself.
She has a vague notion that a church wedding is blessed and that's enough to get married in the church?

Let's face it…she is far from being a committed christian. Why tell her she is unequally yoked when she is the same as him.

What does it matter based on her post if she marries in the church or wherever.
At least she has the 'vague notion' that a church wedding is blessed. She is the only one who intuited that a church wedding is superior to the political-civil wedding in all levels.

@Believer,

If your future husband is not against your faith, but respects you and wants to raise your future children in fear of God, than I think you won't have a difficult, problematic marriage.
 
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Beliver

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Thankyou everyone I will think hard into this and trust in god which I do x
 
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sunburn

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#32
Beliver, I am sorry you feel offended. My point was meant to create in you a sense of urgency into what you really call christiannity. For your own sake. Otherwise you will be confused as to why things don't go the way they should go because you are a christian.
There is a degree in the christian life that is more than just believing in God and all the superficial things around it.
The Bible says even Satan believes in God, that doesn't make him a disciple.

You already live with the man. You already have children with him. Marriage is not the celebration, the wedding and all…it's a commitment between two people before God. Whether you have it in the church or elsewhere, it's more of importance in your own eyes rather than what God truly considers important.
 
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1) When I married I thought I have done a great thing and I married for wrong reasons: Legal sex. Next time, if a miracle happens, that won´t be the reason to get married.

2) Many people saw it as a sure way to make that relationship endured... The truth is it doesn´t work that way, essentially if I have live life as a pagan.

3) When people gave up his / her life into a person hands that was a sort of matrimony but, aware or not, many disliked the fact they are living with a person they don´t wnat to be with (and got emotionally and physically divorced) and, happilly, many are married to the one they chose (or with the one they chose for them, from us) but, as ia see marriage now, it was meant for virgins (men or women) and no doubt GOD blessing come in whoever He things it is best:

Act 10:34 So Peter opened his mouth and said: "Truly I understand that God shows no partiality,
Act 10:35 but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him.

Jas 2:1 My brothers, show no partiality as you hold the faith in our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory.

Jas 2:9 But if you show partiality, you are committing sin and are convicted by the law as transgressors.

1Pe 1:17 You call him Father, when you pray to God, who judges all people by the same standard, according to what each one has done; so then, spend the rest of your lives here on earth in reverence for him.
 
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If you think of this marriage from scripture's point of view, you find that marriage is more serious than these posts are pointing out. Marriage is an earthly representation of us being the bride of Christ! That is pretty serious. Someone who doesn't acknowledge the one who created him for a partner makes for a pretty poor partner, for it is through Christ that he becomes alive. It is both of you signing this covenant to each other as you made a commitment to Christ with understanding of how God created this covenant between you that is important. If he doesn't even want it to be with a church representative of that, perhaps he really isn't understanding marriage.
 

KohenMatt

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Thankyou everyone I will think hard into this and trust in god which I do x
Looks like you got a little more than you bargained for!

You just wanted to know where to get married, and basically, you were told you shouldn't get married.

Tough crowd.
 

LEPIDUS

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I would hardly ever say that the woman is a believer herself.
She has a vague notion that a church wedding is blessed and that's enough to get married in the church?

Let's face it…she is far from being a committed christian. Why tell her she is unequally yoked when she is the same as him.

What does it matter based on her post if she marries in the church or wherever.
Why do you talk about her as a third party ? As if your response will not be read by her. Such a haughty attitude. Also makes me wonder about your beliefs. (Sarcasm)

Feel free not to reply. I've said all I care too about your post.
 
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sunburn

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LEPIDUS;1637328[B said:
]Why do you talk about her as a third party ?[/B].
Well simply because like you said, I was talking about her…meaning I wasn't talking to her .
I was voicing a concern based on some other comments and I was addressing those comments which suggested she shouldn't marry him because she is a christian and he is not. It got my attention.

I talked to her directly later on.
 

tourist

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#39
seriously, tourist? :) or this is one of your chill -out time -out scheme again? :) honestly, i don't wanna comment about the level of christianity of the people here. Beliver, it's your heart's decision. If you like to get married with someone you think and felt like your savior, so be it but be ready for the consequences, whether good or bad. If you profess to be a a follower of Christ you should know better the pros and cons. Only most of the times, many advices help us more to decide the best way. Our purpose is not for you to feel bad. Our purpose is to save you for more heartaches but God knows more than we do. If God allows you to something bigger than life, he will not spare you to a situation that even you might regret after, God will still not give up on you. If the same believer, low risk. If unbeliever, high risk. My suggestion, get deeper to knowing your real Savior than this person first, then who knows? God will reveal to you the just ONE. :) Will be praying for God to enlighten us more.
This is amazing that you are able to notice my chill out / time out sort of moods. Or perhaps I am just an amusing character?
 

LEPIDUS

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Well simply because like you said, I was talking about her…meaning I wasn't talking to her .
I was voicing a concern based on some other comments and I was addressing those comments which suggested she shouldn't marry him because she is a christian and he is not. It got my attention.

I talked to her directly later on.
I would hardly ever say that the woman is a believer herself.
She has a vague notion that a church wedding is blessed and that's enough to get married in the church?

Let's face it…she is far from being a committed christian. Why tell her she is unequally yoked when she is the same as him.

What does it matter based on her post if she marries in the church or wherever.
It was a rhetorical question. No where in your post do I get a sense of concern more like judgmental, haughty, criticism, and quite frankly just up rude.

As I stated before feel free not to reply, its not helping your case; I don't care for your reasoning, honestly. So good day to you!