It depends on your definition of 'children'.
If by 'children' you mean young people under the age of say 21 who live at home and are not married, then yeah the parents have a right to know what's going on in their lives, but at the same time they can't overstep the privacy boundary,
However, if by 'children' you mean over 21 and married.. then ABSOULTELY NOT!
Ok, now I wish MY PARENTS were reading this. Seriously, I am 27 been married 5 years, and my Mother still thinks she needs to know everything about my life.. and I mean EVERYTHING.
It's infuriating. I tried just not telling her the things she doesn't need to know, but, as Mother's do, she always had this way of finding out, then she would get angry at me for not telling her. Like I was keeping something from her. She doesn't understand the whole 'it's none of your business, I'm married now and make my own choices' concept.
*sigh*
Im so sorry that it is this way for you. Some parents do not know how to let go. For many reasons, fear, lonlyness, controll. My hubbys parents often seemed like they lived their lives through us. Understanding dosnt excuse it though.
The one thing is to try and always show respect, not easy ,but important.
Next time your mom starts to hit you with all the questions try telling her that she dosnt have to worry, she did a good job raising you.
With my inlaws , never ending advice, really telling you what to do. I would nod and say that sounds good , ill consider it.
But if the case for you is mom just not letting you go, all you can do is find some ways to help her feel important, then just live your life .
Sometimes we just have to be blunt, and let them know how they make you feel.
And sometimes you just have to take some space away from them.
I hope this helped some, being a parent is no easyer than being the child. But trust in Our Lord God to show you how. He will make all things good.
God bless, pickles