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A christian husband who beat his wife. he always asks for forgiveness after the event. this time he broke her phone when he saw her trying to call the police. she locked herself in the kitchen and eventually went out through the kitchen window...

They are both very committed in the church and she is the worship group…but he gets angry and beat her at the least frustration
now she has left the house and we don't know where she is...

What do you say in these situations? christians or not chirstian? I mean my first thought is separation…
 
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Just realised there is a another topic on this….
 
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sunburn said:
A christian husband who beat his wife. he always asks for forgiveness after the event. this time he broke her phone when he saw her trying to call the police. she locked herself in the kitchen and eventually went out through the kitchen window...

They are both very committed in the church and she is the worship group…but he gets angry and beat her at the least frustration
now she has left the house and we don't know where she is...

What do you say in these situations? christians or not chirstian? I mean my first thought is separation…
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True christians do not beat their spouses! I'm sorry, but this man is a coward and a bully and his wife needs to get out of this situation ASAP before he ends up killing her! Forget separation--DIVORCE is what's needed here. Divorce and a good restraining order. May God show mercy on this man's soul when he asks him why he beat up his wife, and he struggles for a good answer to give to God.
 
BlackPlatypus

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It's frightening that you say you don't know where his wife is now.

There are statistics that show women, particularly pregnant women, are usually killed by their husband or boyfriend.

I don't know these people so I can't say if they're Christian. I will say a man of God does not beat his wife and demonstrate he has explosive rage disorder.

Separation? At the very least. A man who breaks a phone when the wife he beats is trying to call the police is a coward two fold. He beats a woman and he doesn't want to have to answer for it. A male like that, because a man doesn't beat women, is capable of anything. Including killing his wife. And even himself afterward so as to yet again avoid responsibility for an even more serious offense against her. Taking her life.

I pray the wife's church has a sanctuary for battered spouses. Some place she can go to and find safety and sanctuary from her husbands evil ways.

I'm very concerned you haven't heard from her after she left the house.
Who told you she left? Who related the story about her locking herself in the kitchen and then escaping through the window?
Is that the last anyone heard from or saw her?

sunburn said:
A christian husband who beat his wife. he always asks for forgiveness after the event. this time he broke her phone when he saw her trying to call the police. she locked herself in the kitchen and eventually went out through the kitchen window...

They are both very committed in the church and she is the worship group…but he gets angry and beat her at the least frustration
now she has left the house and we don't know where she is...

What do you say in these situations? christians or not chirstian? I mean my first thought is separation…
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BlackPlatypus said:
There are statistics that show women, particularly pregnant women, are usually killed by their husband or boyfriend.
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I'm pretty sure most pregnant women are not killed by their husbands or boyfriends. I'd venture to say that most survive their pregnancy without being murdered. A lot of men are very protective of their wives during pregnancy.
 
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BlackPlatypus said:
It's frightening that you say you don't know where his wife is now.

There are statistics that show women, particularly pregnant women, are usually killed by their husband or boyfriend.

I don't know these people so I can't say if they're Christian. I will say a man of God does not beat his wife and demonstrate he has explosive rage disorder.

Separation? At the very least. A man who breaks a phone when the wife he beats is trying to call the police is a coward two fold. He beats a woman and he doesn't want to have to answer for it. A male like that, because a man doesn't beat women, is capable of anything. Including killing his wife. And even himself afterward so as to yet again avoid responsibility for an even more serious offense against her. Taking her life.

I pray the wife's church has a sanctuary for battered spouses. Some place she can go to and find safety and sanctuary from her husbands evil ways.

I'm very concerned you haven't heard from her after she left the house.
Who told you she left? Who related the story about her locking herself in the kitchen and then escaping through the window?
Is that the last anyone heard from or saw her?
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She is my sister. Haven't heard anything about her whereabouts since two days now. everyone is trying to find out. I am calm because I feel its best se stays where is than being at home with him.
Husband is trying to justify himself and say sorry he was angry and he was the one to call the family first hand to explain what happens and try to justify himself. but this is not the first time. Its the first time though he tried to stop her leaving the house or call the police and break her phone.

I am trying to control myself and not burn his house down…we don't live in the same city and I feel like going up there…
in the meantime, I want to call the police.
 
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presidente said:
I'm pretty sure most pregnant women are not killed by their husbands or boyfriends. I'd venture to say that most survive their pregnancy without being murdered. A lot of men are very protective of their wives during pregnancy.
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I realized I should have worded that differently so as to read, most women who are murdered....
 
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She is my sister. Haven't heard anything about her whereabouts since two days now. everyone is trying to find out. I am calm because I feel its best se stays where is than being at home with him.
Husband is trying to justify himself and say sorry he was angry and he was the one to call the family first hand to explain what happens and try to justify himself. but this is not the first time. Its the first time though he tried to stop her leaving the house or call the police and break her phone.

I am trying to control myself and not burn his house down…we don't live in the same city and I feel like going up there…
in the meantime, I want to call the police.
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Call the police!
Your sister hasn't contacted you in two days?
While her husband says she's departed the home through a kitchen window after he was abusing her yet again?
And yet she hasn't called her family to let them know herself what's happened and where she is?

That doesn't sound right. She escapes an abuser and doesn't call those who would give her sanctuary?

Call the police!
I've watched enough investigative journalist programs on disappeared battered wives to know this. CALL THE POLICE!

You know your sister. Would she leave him yet again and never contact any of you?


And don't do anything to him. Let the police handle this. Your sister needs you. If you do something silly to him even though you feel he deserves it, you won't be there for your sister. Because the cops could arrest you.

God be with you all. Please update us. I hold your sister and you in my prayers.
 
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Call the police!
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Absolutely agree... Call and put in a missing persons report, and be sure to include the turbulent relationship your sister was in. Time is an important factor when police investigate these things, if mischief occurred, it can be covered up. So by all means, report her absence immediately, and let us know how it comes out?
 
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I called. reported that my sister was missing…They went to the house and questioned him.
So far, the police have been told by him that she came by today in the morning to pick up the children with few personal belonging and left. they have called another member of the family in the city who confirmed that she stopped by their house this morning. So The police feels that she found a refuge somewhere and to wait until she contact us...they ve asked the husband to give them her mobile number even tough he broke the phone. They've called her and left a message on her phone, presumably, they want her to contact the police directly and discuss things further
so that's that...

I am glad I called.
I am reassurred.
 
BlackPlatypus

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The police didn't tell you, her sister, which relative she was with?
I'm surprised they'd only ask for her mobile number given hubby broke the phone that wouldn't work had they had it to call.
Why not get the phone number of the family member?

In any case, I'm glad you're reassured. I hope the good news continues and your sister finds peace and safety. God be with you all.

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I called. reported that my sister was missing…They went to the house and questioned him.
So far, the police have been told by him that she came by today in the morning to pick up the children with few personal belonging and left. they have called another member of the family in the city who confirmed that she stopped by their house this morning. So The police feels that she found a refuge somewhere and to wait until she contact us...they ve asked the husband to give them her mobile number even tough he broke the phone. They've called her and left a message on her phone, presumably, they want her to contact the police directly and discuss things further
so that's that...

I am glad I called.
I am reassurred.
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I'm pretty sure most pregnant women are not killed by their husbands or boyfriends. I'd venture to say that most survive their pregnancy without being murdered. A lot of men are very protective of their wives during pregnancy.
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Pregnant and recently pregnant women are more likely to be victims of homicide than to die of any other cause , and evidence exists that a significant proportion of all female homicide victims are killed by their intimate partners.[SUP] The Facts on Domestic Abuse[/SUP]
 
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She needs to get out and stay out. Get help, if he won't get help, that's his problem, she doesn't need to be with him. I doubt he is saved if he does that. Being committed to a church counts for nothing in the end.
 
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BlackPlatypus said:
The police didn't tell you, her sister, which relative she was with?
I'm surprised they'd only ask for her mobile number given hubby broke the phone that wouldn't work had they had it to call.
Why not get the phone number of the family member?

In any case, I'm glad you're reassured. I hope the good news continues and your sister finds peace and safety. God be with you all.
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Because she just stopped by…she is not there…and apparently she doesn't want to say where she is..so he doesn't start looking for her there…she said she needs time for herself…se called me finally.
so..I am pray for a separation and that she doesn't go back there to try again…it will be the end of her, I feel...
 
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Well if he's a Christian what about coming along side him and helping work through his issues. It's nothing that can't be fixed if he's willing to change, and praying for him also. Separation is a good idea but not divorce, the man needs help not isolation.
 
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It's pretty obvious he needs help and hopefully he'll reach out …
For now, a woman and two children is out on the streets looking for somewhere to stay. At this point, the woman is not the therapist.
 
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sunburn said:
Because she just stopped by…she is not there…and apparently she doesn't want to say where she is..so he doesn't start looking for her there…she said she needs time for herself…se called me finally.
so..I am pray for a separation and that she doesn't go back there to try again…it will be the end of her, I feel...
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Follow that feeling.
She's shown him that despite his physical assault of her person she still had the strength to run from him.
If she goes back, now that he knows that much of her spirit is left, he'll be worse than before. And he could kill her ultimately.

I'd hope she'd call the police and file so that he's arrested. That keeps him somewhere where she knows he's locked away, and she can find a way to make a life for herself somewhere else. If he's convicted, she can file for sole custody of the children so that he never has that link to her in future.

Continuing to hold you all in my prayers.
 
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Follow that feeling.
She's shown him that despite his physical assault of her person she still had the strength to run from him.
If she goes back, now that he knows that much of her spirit is left, he'll be worse than before. And he could kill her ultimately.

I'd hope she'd call the police and file so that he's arrested. That keeps him somewhere where she knows he's locked away, and she can find a way to make a life for herself somewhere else. If he's convicted, she can file for sole custody of the children so that he never has that link to her in future.

Continuing to hold you all in my prayers.
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This man needs to be shown mercy, not judgement.
 
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She has gone back to the family house….
I don't know what to say
I won't say anymore on it.
 
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