Would God tell you one thing and then change it?

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RachelP03

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Im sure I will get slack over this, because alot seem to think when I ask a question or a similar question, I need to move on with life. I am human and I struggle, so I will ask for some advice to the people who would like to help share their beliefs or opinion.

Do you think God would tell you one thing for almost a year and then change it? How would you move on, having hope and faith that you were going to have something for that long?

I struggle with what I felt God lay on my heart for this long and the past 24 hours, things have changed. I feel different, but yet confused. Im reminded of all the times God spoke to me or laid on my heart this one thing, so Im not sure since its such a small amount of time, if this is simply the enemy trying to mess with me. I know no one knows 100% sure, but didnt know if someone else had a similar experience with anything in their life. I have been reading and studying on spiritual warfare lately and definitely feel like Im in one, in the core of it right now, which I know its all the time.

I have been doing everything I know to walk in the path with Christ, each and everyday. I hate that Im this confused. In a way I feel empty and lied too.
 
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Your post is very vague, so its impossible to supply a definitive answer. But 'No', God does not back-peddle, waffle, or flip-flop on His word. Odds are, you felt something that originated within yourself? Just because you felt something doesn't mean that God orchestrated it, I don't believe God makes us feel everything that lays in our hearts. God is not the author of confusion (1 Corinthians 14;33), so perhaps your thoughts or expectations were of your own device? Examine whether it was ever of God or just something you hoped and wanted to be true. jmo
 
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Yo, just writing this out of love.

"For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.​" 1 Corinthians 14:33

"For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved." John 3:7

"Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:" Matthew 7:7

"Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you." Luke 10:19

"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." 2 Timothy 1:7

"Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal:" Matthew 6:19

"Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven." Matthew 18:18

"Whose soever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained." John 20:23

"For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in highplaces." Ephesians 6:12

"And the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful." Mark 4:19

"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God." Romans 12:2

"And take heed to yourselves, lest at any time your hearts be overcharged with surfeiting, and drunkenness, and cares of this life, and so that day come upon you unawares." Luke 21:34

"Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me." Psalm 51:10 (read all of Psalm 51, it's great)

Jesus loves you. B) (also- ask God to review your heart)
 
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RachelP03 said:
Im sure I will get slack over this, because alot seem to think when I ask a question or a similar question, I need to move on with life. I am human and I struggle, so I will ask for some advice to the people who would like to help share their beliefs or opinion.

Do you think God would tell you one thing for almost a year and then change it? How would you move on, having hope and faith that you were going to have something for that long?

I struggle with what I felt God lay on my heart for this long and the past 24 hours, things have changed. I feel different, but yet confused. Im reminded of all the times God spoke to me or laid on my heart this one thing, so Im not sure since its such a small amount of time, if this is simply the enemy trying to mess with me. I know no one knows 100% sure, but didnt know if someone else had a similar experience with anything in their life. I have been reading and studying on spiritual warfare lately and definitely feel like Im in one, in the core of it right now, which I know its all the time.

I have been doing everything I know to walk in the path with Christ, each and everyday. I hate that Im this confused. In a way I feel empty and lied too.
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Rachel, God does not tell us one thing and then take it back like an Indian-giver. It would help to know what this thing is so we could better answer your post. If you feel lied to, then that is from the devil, because God cannot and will not lie to you! I completely agree with Dan58's response.
 
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I understand where your coming from, but if this is something that orchestrated within myself, then there is no point in life really. It all comes down to a man. A man who entered into my life that I never even wanted to be with. God changed my heart to love this man in a way that I didnt even want too. He asked me one day to pray, if GOd should open or close the door on us, because he was pursueing me and I just wanted inerested. We are both believers of Christ, so I did and the flood gates of confirmations and the part where my heart was changing and a month of praying if this was truly the man God had given me was changing within my heart. I knew without a doubt, to the point where on the day I would be his girlfriend we started planning a wedding. This was about a year ago, so back in February we got into an arguenment and split up and both agreed to get closer to God. I knew that I needed some work done to be molded into a wife so I allowed God to work and I ran to God and allowed him to show me my flaws and weaknesses and to just reveal to me everything I need to work on. I wanted to be the wife that I knew God had given me a husband for. Now I didnt do this for him, but for myself and God, because I wanted to be able to fully submit, honor and cherish my husband. So 6 months later, here we are and within the past 48 hours I guess now, my feelings are changing. I feel bitter and distant from him, but this whole entire 6 months as close as I was walking with God, I would of hoped that God would of laid it on my heart that he was not the one and that I was wrong. Ive been married before and never in my life had I ever felt that someone was for me, we couldnt of been more equally yolked. So thats why, I dont know if this instant change of heart is the enemy trying to distract me and to give up, or if GOd could of told me that this was my husband and then changed his mind. I would then question God forever if that was the case. If BOB down the road walks in my life and he is the person I had prayed for, I would probably doubt if he was the one, or if this was just another situation like now. I trusted God with all of this from day 1, when I didnt even want to be with this man. I trusted him and went into this relationship trusting that this was the man GOd has given me.

I clearly know that you cant feel what I feel or fully know 100% if Im right or wrong. But Im telling you....I have been saved since I was 8 and have been walking this walk my whole life and that is ONE HUGE thing in my life that I had zero doubt from GOd, because I felt what He did to my heart and soul. Now that its changing tho......I just dont know. Makes me super depressed and makes me look at life kinda sad.
 
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It sounds to me like you are going a lot by feelings. My thought is to get some private counselling with your pastor or a certified Christian counsellor. I cannot say who is right for you, but my thought is maybe you were to be friends with the man, to learn and grow, not marry?

I'm sorry you are hurting so much over this, and remember, you can trust God, no matter what!

"Trust in The Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." Prov. 3:5-6
 
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If you truly feel that way, then continue to talk to God about it, tell Him you are mad, lay down all the bitterness, anger, resentment, whatever you got before Him and ask Him to TRULY search your heart and TAKE EVERYTHING unpleasant in you that He does NOT like. You are going through a time of testing. God does things like this but HE DOES NOT take away things, He probably did all that to get to that root core of how you feel now at this moment. Yeah, it's tiring but don't give up, finish the race:

"I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith:​" 2 Timothy 4:7

He will give you the reward, just keep fighting, die to yourself. Jesus loves you greatly.

"The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing." Zephaniah 3:17
 
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It could also be that He is drawing you closer to Him. We don't know, but Jesus has a better plan for us than we do.

(I'm going to use NIV for this following verse)
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

"5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." Proverbs 3:5-6

"28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

" 3 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
9 What profit hath he that worketh in that wherein he laboureth?
10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it.
11 He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
12 I know that there is no good in them, but for a man to rejoice, and to do good in his life.
13 And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God.
14 I know that, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be for ever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and God doeth it, that men should fear before him.
15 That which hath been is now; and that which is to be hath already been; and God requireth that which is past.
16 And moreover I saw under the sun the place of judgment, that wickedness was there; and the place of righteousness, that iniquity was there.
17 I said in mine heart, God shall judge the righteous and the wicked: for there is a time there for every purpose and for every work.
18 I said in mine heart concerning the estate of the sons of men, that God might manifest them, and that they might see that they themselves are beasts.
19 For that which befalleth the sons of men befalleth beasts; even one thing befalleth them: as the one dieth, so dieth the other; yea, they have all one breath; so that a man hath no preeminence above a beast: for all is vanity.
20 All go unto one place; all are of the dust, and all turn to dust again.
21 Who knoweth the spirit of man that goeth upward, and the spirit of the beast that goeth downward to the earth?
22 Wherefore I perceive that there is nothing better, than that a man should rejoice in his own works; for that is his portion: for who shall bring him to see what shall be after him?" Ecclesiates 3:1-22
 
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RachelP03

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I've been going to a Christian counselor for 6 months and he even met with him after we broke up. I've heard God speak to me and had my feelings change for him. I'm okay if he's not the one.... It's really between God and myself. I know what I felt, I know what I heard, for instance....... I had written on a piece of paper who I wanted my next husband to be like.... Like 3 years ago. I remember sitting with a friend at dinner and instantly was reminded of this list.... I had carried around with me for 3 years with my bank deposits in my purse..... Totally forgot about it. I pulled it out and he was everything off that list except for one and it was a silly one. I showed it to him later that night and he told me a few weeks later is when God told him I was the one. We have had so many instances kinda like that.... So many to even name. It sounds maybe so small To someone, but i had asked over and over for confirmations.
 
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RachelP03 said:
I've been going to a Christian counselor for 6 months and he even met with him after we broke up. I've heard God speak to me and had my feelings change for him. I'm okay if he's not the one.... It's really between God and myself. I know what I felt, I know what I heard, for instance....... I had written on a piece of paper who I wanted my next husband to be like.... Like 3 years ago. I remember sitting with a friend at dinner and instantly was reminded of this list.... I had carried around with me for 3 years with my bank deposits in my purse..... Totally forgot about it. I pulled it out and he was everything off that list except for one and it was a silly one. I showed it to him later that night and he told me a few weeks later is when God told him I was the one. We have had so many instances kinda like that.... So many to even name. It sounds maybe so small To someone, but i had asked over and over for confirmations.
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Keep doing what you are doing, God knows us better than ourselves and I am not saying that in a "Well you might have ___" way, no, I'm no one to judge. Just keep doing it is that you are doing:

"6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you." Philippians 4:6-9
 
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hishealingred said:
Keep doing what you are doing, God knows us better than ourselves and I am not saying that in a "Well you might have ___" way, no, I'm no one to judge. Just keep doing it is that you are doing:

"6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you." Philippians 4:6-9
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Thank you for your time and words. They have really helped. If this really is a time of testing, I feel like Im failing miserable. What has me really confused is I went from fine and content with peace and happiness, to a few weeks later, feeling super confused, bitter and having suicide thoughts. I really felt led to read a spiritual warfare book, because in my heart, I knew that it was something I was about to go through. I felt in my heart that I was going to go thru a mini battle of my own with all the knowlwdge and tools I learned the past 6 months. I know it sounds crazy, but I can tell Im losing. I want to give up and Im angry all the time with people who dont deserve any of it. I feel as if I was lied to by GOd, which I know He dosent lie. SO here I am, not know what to do, where to go. On top of that Im seeking a church, so I dont have a church family. Ive even tried calling KLove pastors, but I work nights, so their not there, and when I was going to my other job today they called, but I couldnt talk. Its just me and my grandpa and he dosent know what to say, so alot of times, I may get on here and it looks like a repeat, but I struggle....this is my struggle. It sucks....I just want to go bury myself somewhere till this season is over, but I know it dosent work like that.
 
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RachelP03 said:
Thank you for your time and words. They have really helped. If this really is a time of testing, I feel like Im failing miserable. What has me really confused is I went from fine and content with peace and happiness, to a few weeks later, feeling super confused, bitter and having suicide thoughts. I really felt led to read a spiritual warfare book, because in my heart, I knew that it was something I was about to go through. I felt in my heart that I was going to go thru a mini battle of my own with all the knowlwdge and tools I learned the past 6 months. I know it sounds crazy, but I can tell Im losing. I want to give up and Im angry all the time with people who dont deserve any of it. I feel as if I was lied to by GOd, which I know He dosent lie. SO here I am, not know what to do, where to go. On top of that Im seeking a church, so I dont have a church family. Ive even tried calling KLove pastors, but I work nights, so their not there, and when I was going to my other job today they called, but I couldnt talk. Its just me and my grandpa and he dosent know what to say, so alot of times, I may get on here and it looks like a repeat, but I struggle....this is my struggle. It sucks....I just want to go bury myself somewhere till this season is over, but I know it dosent work like that.
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Nah, it's Jesus in me, so thank Him. If I had not Him I wouldn't have these things to say, I am literally nothing without Him. ("I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing." John 15:5)

Just as it says in the Scriptures, go to God in secret:

"But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly." Matthew 6:6

When we are weak, Jesus is greater.

"And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me." 2 Corinthians 12:9

"Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?" Romans 8:35

Also, yeah, you ARE losing BUT through Jesus Christ, we are victorious:

"But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ." 1 Corinthians 15:57

"For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day​" 2 Corinthians 4:16

Bless your enemies (and those who make you angry).

"Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you." Luke 6:28

"Whose soever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained." John 20:23

Keep waiting on Him, He strengthens those who do.

"But they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31

Literally God is doing all sorts of things to get you to go to Him, just reading everything you said, haha. He is everything we need.

"For the LORD is our judge, the LORD is our lawgiver, the LORD is our king; he will save us." Isaiah 33:22

"For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counselor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace." Isaiah 9:6

Just bury yourself in Jesus.

"Thou art my hiding place; thou shalt preserve me from trouble; thou shalt compass me about with songs of deliverance. Selah." Psalm 32:7

"The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble." Psalm 9:9

And even if you do fail, and fall away. Remember the Prodigal son?

"I say unto you, that likewise joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance." Luke 15:7
 
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