a question to christian married couples

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
B

born2behappy

Guest
#1
#1
We've been married for 10 years and have two children. I am 31 and he's 34. Have a very intimate issue. We haven't made love for almost two years,since i got pregnant. Then I had a very complicated birthgiving and my husband participated in all the process. After that I myself used to get sick even of an idea of making love. I still breastfeed my litlle one. Even before my second pregnancy we use to make love few times in a year. My husband told me once that he doesn't need that and he never thought it to be an issue. For some reason I feel as he became a stranger to me and i barely touch or hug him. I would really appreciate if couples that come aacross such issue share their thoughts on that. Cause i'm a christian and it never was the most important thing but still thia distance makes me feel not wanted or loved as a woman. And i know for sure that popular media would scream that he has another woman but i know that's not true. That's why i'm asking people who lives with Christ to share your point of view. Thank you for your time and God Bless.
 
M

MadParrotWoman

Guest
#2
#2
Will PM you.
 
Angela53510

Angela53510

Senior Member
#3
Jan 24, 2011
11,780
2,943
113
#3
You might want to post this in the Ladies Forum in a few days when you are allowed in. You might get a better response.
 
Jruiz

Jruiz

Senior Member
#4
Dec 13, 2013
565
5
18
#4
Why would she post this in the ladies forum? Men can answer this probably better than a woman can....find out if he's watching porn. He also could have a low sex drive. Ask him why he doesn't desire sex.
 
B

born2behappy

Guest
#5
#5
Thanks everyone. With at total inspiration of the Holy Spirit we sorted out all the things yesterday. I will keep praying for us every day. Feeling happy and relieved.
 
P

presidente

Senior Member
#6
May 29, 2013
9,083
1,749
113
#6
Tell him you'd like to have more physical intimacy. If it just doesn't happen, discuss how often you would both like it and schedule it to kickstart things.
 
tourist

tourist

Senior Member
#7
Mar 13, 2014
41,311
16,300
113
69
Tennessee
#7
Jruiz said:
Why would she post this in the ladies forum? Men can answer this probably better than a woman can....find out if he's watching porn. He also could have a low sex drive. Ask him why he doesn't desire sex.
Click to expand...
This direct approach may prove effective. It could be that he may believe this his wife does not desire him anymore for various reasons, all of which can be worked out in a loving and considerate way.
 
S

SparkleEyes

Senior Member
#8
Mar 23, 2013
771
21
18
#8
I would suggest the OP find a Christian counselor who has experience in sexual issues between married couples. I would steer away from your pastor (or any pastor who happens to have counseling experience). This is a serious issue that needs professional attention. Sex and intimacy is a big part of being a fulfilled and satisfied couple. I would add that sometimes intimacy (which doesn't necessarily mean sex) is probably the more important of the two.

God Bless
 
You must log in or register to reply here.