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JesusFreek

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This is hard for me to post, but I'm really struggling with sexual purity. I'm 17 and me and my boyfriend have been together for 1.5 years. We are both committed to waiting until marriage, but with me going to college it's going to be 5 years away I am tempted a lot. Not necesssarily to have sex with him but to have orgasms and masturbate. I want to stay pure and I don't want to screw myself up to badly. I guess I'm just looking for advice from people who have been in long term relationships and been able to somehow make it work. I know it's possible, but I need help
 
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Agricola

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If you going to do some stuff, you might as well do it all.
 
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Nicee

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The long distance relationship is going to work for both of you it depends on how much you two love each other and have faith in each other. I know how you feel because I'm in your age group and I can relate to it. The funny thing is when it comes to masturbations etc. The lord knows about that way more than anyone of us, and in a way he seem to get it. So it not something he is too forceful or against that much, but he is strict against it after you have get marriage and if u do it without thinking about your lover or neglect the needs of your lover and focus on yourself.
 
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presidente

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I suppose if he could get a job that supported you and parents agree, you could marry sooner rather than later. if you are both going to college, don't sit around on a coach in the dark. Maybe he could court you on your parents porch or with a chaperon. Don't depend on your own self control or his. Stay out of situations where you could fall into sin.
 
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Abster

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I know you may have urges but you have to focus on what you want as an end result vs. what you want in the here and now. If this is has been ongoing you need to aggressively tackle this issue. The last thing you want to do is compromise all you believe and invested in for an orgasm. Its not worth it. I promise you. Gods rules were put in place to protect us. Don't expose yourself to all the drama and pain that comes with fornication... its SOOO not worth it.
 
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JesusFreek

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I don't get it. My profile says female!!! :p
 
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Jorina

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JesusFreek said:
This is hard for me to post, but I'm really struggling with sexual purity. I'm 17 and me and my boyfriend have been together for 1.5 years. We are both committed to waiting until marriage, but with me going to college it's going to be 5 years away I am tempted a lot. Not necesssarily to have sex with him but to have orgasms and masturbate. I want to stay pure and I don't want to screw myself up to badly. I guess I'm just looking for advice from people who have been in long term relationships and been able to somehow make it work. I know it's possible, but I need help
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Hi JesusFreek, i think its very brave and very good of you to ask for help in such a situation. It can be really hard to be open about this kind of sin. Please be very careful here, you really dont want to make mistakes that you will regret for the rest of your life. You dont want to hurt the Lord by crossing the lines He has set. Im not sure whether it is a good idea to wait 5 years before you'll marry, since you are being temped to sin already. Is there no other way that you could arrange it to get married earlier? Allthough i also think that going to college is really important and if you can go to college you should go unless the Lord tells you different. As you noticed, im not really clear in my answer/reply. But that because its not up to me to make a decision, thats up to you and your boyfriend. Pray about it together. Realise that its not really a matter of knowing how much you love eachother and wanting to stay pure for eachother, it has to be mostly a case of you both wanting to stay pure for the Lord. To obey the Lords commands. About you both wanting to stay far away from things that would take something of the beauty of the possibility of a relationship between a woman and a man. Are you ready to take whatever it needs to follow the Lord? Its not just that you would stay pure, but it would give you a lot of different things as well, like a strong self-discipline, patience, trust etc. It is kind of good for us to be in a situation that we want something but know that its not good for us. As long as we know how to deal with it and seek the Lord for help. So do you know how to deal with it? Do you seek the Lord for help? Do you want to keep pure for those next 5 years? Ask yourself those questions and if the answer is no, then find another solution.
 
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