Please pray for my marriage

[musclecar_69]

I am asking my Christian friends to pray for my marriage. For over a year and a half, my wife has been "not sure" about her feelings for me. This coincides with her getting on a birth control called Mirena. If you're wondering, NO, DON'T GET IT. Anyway, things progressively got worse, and while I've been trying to keep things together all this time, I find out a couple of weeks ago that she has been unfaithful with about 10 different guys this year. As hard as that is to bear, during all this time of struggle God has really been growing me spiritually. I've received clear instruction from Him to stay right where I'm at. I've even seen a couple of very clear, NO-other-explanation-for-it miracles and immediate answers to prayers.Praise God! It IS difficult still. She had stopped the sexual part before I found out, but still had two guys she talked or texted with. One of those is now apparently out of the picture, but the other one still texts every day. She promises that they're just friends, but I'd still like to see him move on, too. She is trying to work on "her" as she says, right now. So I'm just kind of in limbo. I'm waiting for God. Sometimes it's necessary to do that and HE is keeping me strong. I do need prayers, though, if you wouldn't mind. For my patience and strength and most of all for her renewed relationship with God. Also for the removal of the Mirena IUD. That thing is of the devil and completely changed my wife into a different person. She has regrets and shame now, but when she comes back to herself, she's going to be devastated. Please pray for us. In Christ,

 

[Nicee]

I will make sure to do that my friend and likewise everyone too.

 

[psychomom]

praying for you, my friend. ♥

(ps--i had a muscle car once...'69 Camaro...she was fun!)

 

[presidente]

Hi,

Your wife made her choices. The IUD did not. A clinic tried to sell my wife and I on that IUD once, but I did not because I'd read there was a chance of a zygote not implanting.

If it were me and I decided to keep her, I might demand that she stop texting the guy and give me all her passwords to everything and full access to her phone. I know a guy whose been cheated on. He says he's just going to trust her, and he wants it to be her choice. I thought about saying the 'trust her' approach did work before, but I didn't want to sound kind of smart alec.

 

[musclecar_69]

I agree with some of what you said. I know that the IUD was not the only cause of it, but I know that it was a contributing factor. She made a one hundred eighty degree change when she got it. I didn't know about the zygote thing until just recently or I wouldn't have let her do it, either, and she wouldn't have wanted to. There is evidence in any Google search of Mirena+ relationship problems. Almost everyone who had gotten it are either having problems or the relationship has ended. I am not naive, and I know there's a lot of hard times to go, but with God's help the devil will not win this time! There is a reason that God wants me to stay. He is working on my wife right now. I see the evidence of it. I am just asking for prayers to keep it going and for God's power to flow so that our testimony may one day help others and bring honor and glory to Him!

 

[musclecar_69]

Ok there's been some progress. Praise God for answered prayers! Still need prayer for her feelings for me to come back fully and for the removal of the iud. That's being held up by the insurance company. Please pray for us, our kids and the saving of our marriage. Thank you in advance!

 

[Angela53510]

I know about that Mirena IUD. It is covered with hormones. Hormones can dramatically change any women. Can you get hertz take it out? Or is she just using this opportunity of not getting pregnant yo play the field?

Please get tested for STD's, if you decide to sleep with her. As for texting this guy, it has to stop, or it shows no effort to reconcile with you.

Praying for you in this difficult situation.

 

[musclecar_69]

Yes, she finally agreed to have it removed. That is actually a praise report in itself. We were talking about it on the phone and she was resistant. I prayed under my breath "Lord help her to see". Immediately, she stopped arguing and agreed and she hasn't resisted since. She went to the Dr about a week ago. She had already called about having it removed, so they were waiting for agreement from the insurance company to cover the procedure. The Dr said he would have done it anyway if it wasn't for that. It would have went against his Hippocratic oath, he said. So, we're waiting on the insurance company now. Personally, I'm waiting on God. He's got a reason.

 

[LRG]

Just some thoughts on this.

First of all the IUD did not cause this. I wouldn't get it for health risk reasons alone but if you blame your problems on an IUD then you are in denial. The IUD may have lowered her inhibitions if she intends to cheat because the risk of getting pregnant is not there but that is about it.

I would ask what is really behind all of this. Is she seeking out another relationship or is she just sleeping around? Does she have bipolar? I have heard of people with bipolar being very impulsive and going through stages where they are hypersexual and become promiscuous and cheat.

It would seem that she is not seeking out another relationship if she has cheated with ten guys and she was texting two at the same time. So I really don't see a reason for what she is doing.

I would ask her what she is missing or think she is missing and what is she really looking for and how many guys does she have to go through to find what she is looking for. It would seem that she would not be satisfied with anyone if she is going through so many people like that. Maybe she is one of those addicts or suffering from bipolar.

Irregardless you absolutely need transparency in your relationship. It is a must and not an option. Where does she find the time to cheat? Maybe you are too easy going and need to lay down the law. Set boundaries and consequences if they are crossed. If you have to install a stealth spy thing on the computer then do so. Hold her accountable.

Does she know how much this hurts you? Did you tell her how this makes you feel? She needs to know that she is destroying you and the marriage by doing this.

And again I would have to ask. What is she really looking for? It is up to both of you to figure out each other's needs and then try your best to fill them. What is she lacking? Try to find out and then fill that need in her. Keep her so busy that she doesn't have time to cheat. And you need transparency in your relationship or you will never be able to learn how to trust her again.

She doesn't need male friends either. If she is seeking this out then something is missing for her either in the relationship or else she may have another problem like bipolar.

Just don't enable this. Demand this stop. Respect yourself and set boundaries around your marriage. If you don't then she may think you really don't love her and are willing to put up with this nonsense.

 

[PinkPrayerWarrior777]

I will be praying. I need prayers as well. I am waiting on God patiently for my marital problems as well. God is a miracle worker. The same power that rose Jesus from the dead can resurrect families. God bless you. Sometimes it helps to just talk and pray for one another.

 

[AbbeyJoy]

Dear Jesus, I ask you will restore musclecars marriage, Lord give them peace they need and provide help for them Lord you hold all things togather I believe you are there and I pray she will open her eyes and his also Lord I pray this deliverance of guilt and shame and the marriage will be renewed in Jesus name amen