How I want to raise my kids

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womanofchrist28

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I find myself often looking at the world thinking "where you raised by a pack of wolves?" then I think how would I want to raise my kids to be and what I hope they learn from me. Here is the list:
  1. God always comes first.
  2. Family always comes second.
  3. Above all, fear God.
  4. Respect authority (trust and obey your parents.) I am still amaze at how some people treat their parents and even more amazed at the fact that the parents put up with it.
  5. It is okay not to be cool.
  6. Be respectful to elders.
  7. Show compassion for others.
  8. Apologize when you are wrong. People will respect you more if you can admit when you are wrong.
  9. Clean up your mess. You would be surprise how many people I see make a giant mess and leave it for someone else to clean.
  10. Say please and thank you.
  11. Address people as sir and ma'am. It goes a long way.
  12. Mom and Dad won't always be there to save you when you screw up.
  13. Learn from everything.
  14. Friendships are important.
  15. Real strength is found in serving, not in being served.
  16. It is okay to fail.
  17. How to carrying on good conversation.
  18. Life isn’t fair don’t compare with or be jealous of others.
  19. Express grace and forgiveness.
  20. A strong work ethic.
  21. Surrender to the authority of Christ.
  22. Respect the dignity of another person and of all people.
  23. Be faithful in the little things.
  24. Character is the basis of all leadership.
  25. You can not get everything.
  26. Be grateful. If my child cries and throws a fit because they do not think I gift I got them on their birthday is not good enough I will just return all the gifts.
  27. If you break your phone because you want the newer one that just came out you are SOL.
 
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sweetpea88

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Treat others kind as god loved you.
 
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psychomom

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# 28 makes me actually laugh out loud. :)

good list...i wish when my children were growing up i had given them
less Law and more Gospel.
i wish i had remembered all God had done for me (or even been more aware of it!)
and had given the same grace to my kiddos.

not that kids don't need Law---they do!
but all people need God's grace and love in Christ.
we need to be reminded that though we have never deserved to be taken to the phone store,
God takes us to the phone store every day. (metaphorically speaking)

♥
 
Angela53510

Angela53510

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If you start young discipline them, you will be able to let them go as they get older. My kids never had tantrums or were spoiled. They knew the rules and obeyed them. But they also knew how much we loved them. I'm glad to say hey are raising their children hat way too!
 
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psychomom

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Angela53510 said:
If you start young discipline them, you will be able to let them go as they get older. My kids never had tantrums or were spoiled. They knew the rules and obeyed them. But they also knew how much we loved them. I'm glad to say hey are raising their children hat way too!
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aww, Ange, that's a beautiful testimony!

and you're so right...start them off the right way is a HUGE help! :)
kiddos have to know what the rules are, otherwise how can they obey them?

it also helps to just s-t-o-p when there's a problem and explain it to them.
(hard to do when you're a bust mom, tho)
but the time is worth it. we tried as much as we could to simply explain
what a certain attitude was about to give birth to...
kids can understand, even at very young ages, more than we often think.

ps-- thanks for yesterday...you know..love you- el
 
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tenderhearted

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Raising kids isn't easy, especially when a person hasn't had that modeled while growing up. It takes prayer and the leading of God to be able to break away from those negative patterns. Many people want to raise their children different from the way that they were raised, but if God isn't in control-- parents end up repeating negative patterns. Often times parents may not even realize they're doing this.

I too have values and godly principles that I am currently trying to impart in my children. It is only through the grace of God that I am able to raise these kids. I didn't have that modeled growing up for me, but I have chosen to depend on God always. I know that apart from him I can do nothing. There is no such thing as a perfect parent or a parent child-- I forget that at times :) In my experience I can over react to things when my kids are doing the wrong thing. It's scary because it reminds me of the way I was treated growing up. It makes me feel bad when I treat my kids that way. But then I repent and remember that God gives me grace. His mercies are new every morning :) There is no formula for raising kids-- it's all about putting your trust in the Lords leading.
 
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Rachel20

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Hey Christian feminist,

I don't know why this makes you feel gross, but I hope that you can see that children are a gift of God and to raise them up as children who love and fear God is a blessing. :)
 
Joidevivre

Joidevivre

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I raised 5 children (who all were born in 7 years), and did mostly all the things you listed. But, there was one daughter, as a teenager, I actually thought, "Were you raised by a pack of wolves?!" Another came close.

Unfortunately, parents aren't the only influences upon a child's life. There are peers, world values that impose, dynamics between their father and mother that also begin to shape the child's mind. I mostly prayed them through their difficult years, and now all are adults living good Christian lives.

BUT once I had a "wolf" in my pack. And wondered where that one came from.
 
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