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My mother is very old now and becoming ever more feeble - she may have 2 years left in her...Just about every time i speak to her now or visit i tell her i love her.
In ages past visits were nice affairs - but i am now aware of the shortness of time we have left and as a result i truly treasure these get togethers.
In ages past visits were nice affairs - but i am now aware of the shortness of time we have left and as a result i truly treasure these get togethers.
N
As a teen and child, I wasn't very honoring to my parents. I regret this, but I was blessed with parents who expected this and loved me in spite of myself. As I grew up, I realized they were simply humans doing the best they could, and let the past become the past. I started relying on them more as an adult with questions on raising my own family, as well as with managing a household, working and life questions in general. It turns out they were/are pretty smart, financially savvy people!
My mom has now passed, as has my husband's dad. We honor our parents by loving them, making sure they have care, food and shelter, and by doing whatever we can to ensure they are healthy, happy and enjoying retirement. We know independence is super important to them in retirement, so we try to do what we can to ensure they remain this way.
Great question.
My mom has now passed, as has my husband's dad. We honor our parents by loving them, making sure they have care, food and shelter, and by doing whatever we can to ensure they are healthy, happy and enjoying retirement. We know independence is super important to them in retirement, so we try to do what we can to ensure they remain this way.
Great question.
Ephesians 6:1Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
In past times, and when I lived with my parents before being joined to a wife, when my dad said... "son tell the truth and I will not punish you as severely as if you lie to me" I honored him in that and stayed truthful to him as this is what God commands. When my dad said F-the world, I did not honor his wishes as this is not right with God (Love your neighbor as yourself).
When my mom said "son your going to take the gum you stole from the store back and tell them you stole it". I did take back the gum and apologized to the cashier for stealing it. By doing this, I honored my mom in the Lord" but when my mom said "tell the person calling I'm not home, everybody tells little white lies" I did not honor her wishes as this was not right with God (You will not bare false witness). I honor(ed) my parents by following their instructions that fit with God as it's written but I won't fulfill their wishes when they instruct iniquity.
In past times, and when I lived with my parents before being joined to a wife, when my dad said... "son tell the truth and I will not punish you as severely as if you lie to me" I honored him in that and stayed truthful to him as this is what God commands. When my dad said F-the world, I did not honor his wishes as this is not right with God (Love your neighbor as yourself).
When my mom said "son your going to take the gum you stole from the store back and tell them you stole it". I did take back the gum and apologized to the cashier for stealing it. By doing this, I honored my mom in the Lord" but when my mom said "tell the person calling I'm not home, everybody tells little white lies" I did not honor her wishes as this was not right with God (You will not bare false witness). I honor(ed) my parents by following their instructions that fit with God as it's written but I won't fulfill their wishes when they instruct iniquity.
When my father was dying of congestive heart failure three years ago, I visited him every day in hospital for 5 months, despite taking three Seminary courses. I led him to Christ, read him the Bible and talked with him about it, and sang hymns for him. I was with him when he went to be with the Lord. I consider it an honour that God allowed for me to be in the same city, and walk with him on his journey to reconciliation with God.
My mother is 85 now, frail with increasing dementia and mental illnesses. She relies on me and my husband for a variety of small home repairs, including changing light bulbs. I wish I could do more, I phone her several times a week, arranged to get her into assisted living, although she refused to go. I've been trying to get her maid service, including staying with her when they come, but it is a no go so far. Sometimes it is harder to walk with the living than the dying.
I had a rough childhood, but I took seriously the Biblical injunction to honour my parents. I'm not sure if my life will be any longer, but I feel making the extra effort has been important on my spiritual path.
My mother is 85 now, frail with increasing dementia and mental illnesses. She relies on me and my husband for a variety of small home repairs, including changing light bulbs. I wish I could do more, I phone her several times a week, arranged to get her into assisted living, although she refused to go. I've been trying to get her maid service, including staying with her when they come, but it is a no go so far. Sometimes it is harder to walk with the living than the dying.
I had a rough childhood, but I took seriously the Biblical injunction to honour my parents. I'm not sure if my life will be any longer, but I feel making the extra effort has been important on my spiritual path.
J
Hi, very good question! I have been struggling a lot with honouring my parents and right now its going mostly with ups and downs. Thats probably because im still living at home (im working at getting my own place) and really feeling that i would like to do things differently then how they do them.
Most of the time i remember to be respectfull to them only after i have been disrespectfull to them. I think its a start to go back to them if you realise that you havent been acting in the right way and tell them that you are sorry about that. And pray to the Lord that He will give you the strenght and love to respect and honour your parents. He'd be glad to help you with that
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For me it helps to ask questions about how their lives where before i was born. What they've always wanted to be, how their relationship with their parents was like. How they dealed with things im struggling with. I somehow find it easier to respect and honour people when i know what their thoughts are behind the things they do or the rules they set. I do not always agree with them, but then i think by myself 'is it really this important to go argueing about it? Is it something that goes against the will of the Lord?' If it is not, then i should just step back, honour their discision and respect the power/authority that the Lord has given to parents. Its okay to ask them questions and to want to know why they make some descicions, but try to remember that the Lord has asked us to honour them. We all make mistakes, we dont always do what is right and we often think that we know how things work or what is good for us. Its kind of good to learn to step back, to apologize and to honour and respect people allthough we dont agree with what they are saying or doing. I just hope and pray that i'll one day learn to think of all this before acting wrong towards my parents (or other people)...
Most of the time i remember to be respectfull to them only after i have been disrespectfull to them. I think its a start to go back to them if you realise that you havent been acting in the right way and tell them that you are sorry about that. And pray to the Lord that He will give you the strenght and love to respect and honour your parents. He'd be glad to help you with that
. For me it helps to ask questions about how their lives where before i was born. What they've always wanted to be, how their relationship with their parents was like. How they dealed with things im struggling with. I somehow find it easier to respect and honour people when i know what their thoughts are behind the things they do or the rules they set. I do not always agree with them, but then i think by myself 'is it really this important to go argueing about it? Is it something that goes against the will of the Lord?' If it is not, then i should just step back, honour their discision and respect the power/authority that the Lord has given to parents. Its okay to ask them questions and to want to know why they make some descicions, but try to remember that the Lord has asked us to honour them. We all make mistakes, we dont always do what is right and we often think that we know how things work or what is good for us. Its kind of good to learn to step back, to apologize and to honour and respect people allthough we dont agree with what they are saying or doing. I just hope and pray that i'll one day learn to think of all this before acting wrong towards my parents (or other people)...
we are farmers. when my dad would tell me what he wants done. i am saying in my mind " i am going to get this done" even before he tells me what he wants.
My dad 85 now and we care for him 24 hr a day. he as demicha and can hardly talk. i have had to help him go to the bathroom and clean him. Will you be able to do this. This is the only way left to honor him. I wish he could jump up and whop my but for something or yell at me and tell me to do something. and i could honor him by getting it done. i bet you could think of a very easy way to honor your dad today or mom.
My dad 85 now and we care for him 24 hr a day. he as demicha and can hardly talk. i have had to help him go to the bathroom and clean him. Will you be able to do this. This is the only way left to honor him. I wish he could jump up and whop my but for something or yell at me and tell me to do something. and i could honor him by getting it done. i bet you could think of a very easy way to honor your dad today or mom.