Females....WHY?!

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Lecrae

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So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back. We started talking a lot for a few days...but then she just ignores me. I give her some space by not talking to her for 3-4 days. I send her a short, lighthearted message, she views it, but then doesn't respond.

Just....why? Nothing was said to offend her, as the conversations were all pretty humorous and lighthearted. If she's playing hard to get, she knows that I hate when people "play games" with the opposite sex. But yet she still does it. It makes me not want to talk to her again.

So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this? It seems to happen in any situation where a girl admits to liking me and I start talking to her more.
 
blue_ladybug

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Lecrae said:
So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back. We started talking a lot for a few days...but then she just ignores me. I give her some space by not talking to her for 3-4 days. I send her a short, lighthearted message, she views it, but then doesn't respond.

Just....why? Nothing was said to offend her, as the conversations were all pretty humorous and lighthearted. If she's playing hard to get, she knows that I hate when people "play games" with the opposite sex. But yet she still does it. It makes me not want to talk to her again.

So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this? It seems to happen in any situation where a girl admits to liking me and I start talking to her more.
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Some women are like that..lol. :) They flirt with a guy, give him attention for awhile, then bang! She ignores him. Maybe she has more fun flirting than being in an actual relationship. Or, as you stated, she probably is just playing games. IMO if she's gonna treat you like that, then leave her alone. :)
 
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Lecrae said:
So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back.


So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this?
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From a brother:

I generally don't even think of a girl's back, but to each his own. As for advice from women about this girl, I only wish it were as easy as asking one of their representatives. Maybe that girlie thing of sending her a short, lighthearted message was a deal killer?

It sounds like she's a young doe and you spooked her.

Hey ladies, do women play hard to get?
 
Lynx

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Reminds me of a line from a book I read.

"Did he chase her? Well bless your heart, he chased her indeed... chased her till SHE caught HIM!"
 
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Trinity33

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Jamal said:
From a brother:

I generally don't even think of a girl's back, but to each his own. As for advice from women about this girl, I only wish it were as easy as asking one of their representatives. Maybe that girlie thing of sending her a short, lighthearted message was a deal killer?

It sounds like she's a young doe and you spooked her.

Hey ladies, do women play hard to get?
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of course we do lol :D
 
Searching4Truth

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Sounds childish. Look for yourself a real WOMAN. A woman of God. Not a girl that likes to play mind games.

I'm gonna leave you 2 options.

1) Pursue her and find out for yourself.
2) Move on.
 
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Trinity33

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Lynx said:
Reminds me of a line from a book I read.

"Did he chase her? Well bless your heart, he chased her indeed... chased her till SHE caught HIM!"
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lol makes you chuckle huh linx? ~laughing~ listen honey she don't deserve you if she can just shut it out like that. She might have just been mild flirting ~sighs~ happens. There r tons of sweet girls that will enjoy your lightheartedness :D
 
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If she's upset about something, she has to tell you plainly and clearly why she's upset, or else you can't possibly learn from it. I'm not saying that you did anything wrong, but if you ask her why she doesn't want to talk, and she can't articulate a valid reason as to why, then don't worry about it. Just move on.

Some things that make me want to disappear are if a guy tries to drag the conversation in an inappropriate direction, or if he's clingy or manipulative. Those things do not make a pleasant friendship. Again, I'm not saying that you did any of those things.

Have you asked her what's up?
 
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Hellooo

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You broke the rules!!!! Act completely disinterested!! Don't tell girls you like them.







(I kid, I kid. kind of.)
 
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Jamal said:
From a brother:

I generally don't even think of a girl's back, but to each his own. As for advice from women about this girl, I only wish it were as easy as asking one of their representatives. Maybe that girlie thing of sending her a short, lighthearted message was a deal killer?

It sounds like she's a young doe and you spooked her.

Hey ladies, do women play hard to get?
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I am laughing so hard at the "liking a girl's back" thing. Thanks for that. I needed a good laugh. LOL
 
zeroturbulence

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I just have to say.. I love the title of this thread! lol
 
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arwen-undomiel

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Lecrae said:
So, there was this girl that admitted to liking me. And I told her I liked her back. We started talking a lot for a few days...but then she just ignores me. I give her some space by not talking to her for 3-4 days. I send her a short, lighthearted message, she views it, but then doesn't respond.

Just....why? Nothing was said to offend her, as the conversations were all pretty humorous and lighthearted. If she's playing hard to get, she knows that I hate when people "play games" with the opposite sex. But yet she still does it. It makes me not want to talk to her again.

So, any advice from the ladies? Why would a girl do this? It seems to happen in any situation where a girl admits to liking me and I start talking to her more.
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That's silly. Personally, I go by the 2 day rule of not contacting after dates. She shouldn't be holding off so long. Could be immaturity. I dunno what other guys would do, but I am almost tempted to say to be straight up with her if she continues to hold off. Be like, whats going on? After all she initiated. Stand up for yourself. You won't participate in games.
 
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Lynx

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What is this two day rule? You have to call within two days, or you have to wait two days to make sure you don't seem desperate, clingy and needy?
 
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arwen-undomiel

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What is this two day rule? You have to call within two days, or you have to wait two days to make sure you don't seem desperate, clingy and needy?
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Wait 2 days.
 
Theygaveutheirworst

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They break the hearts of men like it's a winter Olympic sport!lol Anywho, on to this whole liking a girl "back". Nothing wrong with trying to pursue a girl with a straight spine!
 
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arwen-undomiel

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Lynx said:
Forget that. If a girl wanted to call me the day after a date I'd pick up the phone. Who made that rule?
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No one made the rule. It might just come across as desperate or needy; instead of interested. I once had a date with a guy that texted me 30 minutes after dropping me off at home to schedule another date, then again the next day. It wasn't a good date to begin with, so it didn't work out, but it is a turn off.
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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arwen-undomiel said:
No one made the rule. It might just come across as desperate or needy; instead of interested. I once had a date with a guy that texted me 30 minutes after dropping me off at home to schedule another date, then again the next day. It wasn't a good date to begin with, so it didn't work out, but it is a turn off.
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If you'd really liked him though... how would that have changed your thinking on the two day rule? :cool:
 
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